reverts

[Pomak]

I got bored and was reading through threads. Astaughfirullah brother, if it was possible to disagree with you by more than 100% then I would. It is attitudes like this that make it so tough for converts.

You say not socially but thats what it turns into. Involve converts in everything you do, especially events at the masjid to let them learn their deen.

Actually i am a convert. And i didn't need someone at the masjid talking to me about Ibn Taimiya the day after i converted. Or Habashis trying to "save me".

Basically i have nothing against helping them to learn the deen. As in the basics(as long as the basics are explained in light of 4 madhabs), but things like the moonsighting wars and 8 vs 20 rakats should be explained down the line by a scholar.

 

[kwolney01]

I think only converts can truly answer this since they have experience. It's hard changing your whole entire life. I'm a convert and it took me forever just to finally let everyone in my life know I was a Muslim. It's truly hard and it's even more hard when people are pushing things at you. I know people are just looking out for us, but from our side we need time to search and learn ourselves. Of course we need help along the way but not someone telling us what we should and should not do. It's great when someone converts to Islam and we should be there for the person when they need us. I think just letting them know they have someone to go to with anything will be the best for them.

 

[convert]

There were no classes at my masjid, no way for me to learn anything there (but there are fundraisers like clockwork every 3 months). I had to go online and/or teach myself. If someone would have just stepped up to the plate at the masjid and helped me, I wouldn't have been in that mess.

New muslim classes should be mandatory at every masjid, no exceptions.

 

[Dawud_uk]

There were no classes at my masjid, no way for me to learn anything there (but there are fundraisers like clockwork every 3 months). I had to go online and/or teach myself. If someone would have just stepped up to the plate at the masjid and helped me, I wouldn't have been in that mess.

New muslim classes should be mandatory at every masjid, no exceptions.

from past experience when new muslim classes have been setup then they are often better attended by newly practicing muslims, not just reverts as they are often in a simular situation and need simular help to reverts.

so yes every masjid should do something like this, but there are a lot of things every masjid should do and most of them do none or very few of them so lets just get working on them one at a time.

easiest way of doing this is doing it or arranging it yourself, 'rizwan's first rule' whoever proposes the idea takes a lead in doing it.

 

[convert]

been there, tried that. too much politics involved to get it started.

 

[Dawud_uk]

been there, tried that. too much politics involved to get it started.

from what you have said your local masjid doesnt seem to be very good so really that leaves you two choices,

1. move to an area with a better masjid
2. change it

the first is actually easier than the 2nd, but the 2nd has much more reward even if you dont succeed, still your reward is with Allah.

 

[muslim soul]

Aslam alaykum
I also am a revert and can remeber in my early days , i took my shahada and before i knew it i had people asking me are u married , i felt so much presure as i was alone and no family near me , i wanted to learn about islam , not get married , i wanted to meet new sisters, and when i looked around me i found no one subanallah those were very lonley and sad days and test from Allah , i reached a point i wanted to be alone than sit with people just for the sake of it , and started to learn myself about how to pray and stuff then finally i found a muslim women help line who introducd me to otehr muslim who wanted to know about me and help me as a muslima
so yes new sister do need alot of support and help , i crossed so many sisters like myself and the community sadley have let them down , or as some one pointed out they sister becomes so confused with all the groups which are around these days , i went through that at one point , i got mixed up with muslims who were only preaching jihad jihad and was starting to get astray with it all but alahmduillah Allah swt took me away from that and showed me its not correct , so plz look after your brother and sister in islam they need u ,

the visa part well was also taken in by that one but wasnt muslim at the time , now i would never marry my daughter or son to some one in with visa problems due to my own scars i guess , and from eperince not the best basic for marrige

hope i dont affend any one with my words not my niya to do that
walaykum aslam ur sister in islam

 

[yusuf18]

Aslam alaykum
I also am a revert and can remeber in my early days , i took my shahada and before i knew it i had people asking me are u married , i felt so much presure as i was alone and no family near me , i wanted to learn about islam , not get married , i wanted to meet new sisters, and when i looked around me i found no one subanallah those were very lonley and sad days and test from Allah , i reached a point i wanted to be alone than sit with people just for the sake of it , and started to learn myself about how to pray and stuff then finally i found a muslim women help line who introducd me to otehr muslim who wanted to know about me and help me as a muslima
so yes new sister do need alot of support and help , i crossed so many sisters like myself and the community sadley have let them down , or as some one pointed out they sister becomes so confused with all the groups which are around these days , i went through that at one point , i got mixed up with muslims who were only preaching jihad jihad and was starting to get astray with it all but alahmduillah Allah swt took me away from that and showed me its not correct , so plz look after your brother and sister in islam they need u ,

the visa part well was also taken in by that one but wasnt muslim at the time , now i would never marry my daughter or son to some one in with visa problems due to my own scars i guess , and from eperince not the best basic for marrige

hope i dont affend any one with my words not my niya to do that
walaykum aslam ur sister in islam

thats what i mean the muslims must do more to help reverts