sad.. n confused

assalamu alaikum

yeah its a mistake see, its never intending to hurt a lady, who would intend that.. as i said its a trap i guess... personally i doubt i'll ever fall into it lol may Allah protect us ameen
 
yo yo yo

READ wat u wrote ann gender,

u sed u WAS in luv wit anoda gal... not you ARE in luv wit anoda gal... GET...OVER...HER.. am sure shes moved on so so shud U m8!!!!!

swear down, i feel so sorry 4 gals caught up in dis situation wer dey marry a guy hus forced 2 marry her while he stil pinin 4 anoda 1 , id kill him!!!

giv her a chance man, imajin how hard it it 4 her 2 leave al her family n LIFE bak home 4 YOU, n then to cum here n 4 u 2 act like sum sorta god-knos-wat?!!!

:P
 
Oh my mistake u ARE in luv wit her... hmmmm... advice still apllies, get over her init n datttttttt... no seriously bro i aint takin d piss o owt, but you need 2 move on n get on wit life... better to look AHEAD rather than BEHIND ya init n dattttttt... NEVER LOOK BACK UNLESS DATS THE WAY U WNA GO ;)
 
:salamext:

anonymous. Think before you write. Please. :-\
 
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AnonymousGender said:
I meant that he should never have married if he didnt think he could treat his wife fairly, and if he was always going to have some other woman on his mind.
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Personally I think anonymous is right to make this point, as it's happening too much. Whether or not it applies to the bro in question, I hope others will think twice before marrying someone they didn't really want to.
 
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^ If he's Pakistani he might have been forced into it. You don't know Pakistani people nowadays....
 
^yeh yeh I know. I'm not saying he wasn't but neither did the bro actually say he was forced. He might've just accepted thinking it was for the best but could be now panicking as the sis is going to join him soon.

You know like sometimes when ur tired of life you let others make decisions cuz ur too weak to make a stand at the time. So it could've been one of those times. Allahu alam.

Anyway, wish the bro all the best inshaAllah.
 
Muslimah_Sis said:
salam bro,

Give it a chance bro. You said you don't want to hurt her but she'll be also hurt her if you remain distant from her. Be like a friend to her and don't let past experiences shadow your time with her. You may begin to like her more than you imagine and hopefully start loving her for who she is.

You are her protector and guardian now and you must see to it that she doesn't suffer unnecessarily. If she isn't happy that will make you feel worse and result in an unhappy marriage. You don't have to push yourself to feel in love with her for now. Just go with the flow and let the relationship develope as friendship does. InshaAllah, it will be all right bro. Just treat her as someone you've become friends with and treat her nicely. In turn she will also do the same and hopefully as the bond between you and her deepens and becomes meaningful, you could find love beginning to flourish.

Don't act reservedly if you know what I mean. She's leaving her family to come and start a new life with you. InshaAllah do your best to make her happy and hopefully that will start a chain reaction where you both begin to please each other. Fi sabilillah at first and then also out of love inshaAllah.

wa alaikum asalam
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:salamext:

This is actually good advice.
 
anonymous said:
yo yo yo

READ wat u wrote ann gender,

u sed u WAS in luv wit anoda gal... not you ARE in luv wit anoda gal... GET...OVER...HER.. am sure shes moved on so so shud U m8!!!!!

swear down, i feel so sorry 4 gals caught up in dis situation wer dey marry a guy hus forced 2 marry her while he stil pinin 4 anoda 1 , id kill him!!!

giv her a chance man, imajin how hard it it 4 her 2 leave al her family n LIFE bak home 4 YOU, n then to cum here n 4 u 2 act like sum sorta god-knos-wat?!!!

:P
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this is good advice. so what you used to like another girl before? you, as a GUY, didn't stand up and object against marrying this girl, so it's hardly her fault. i hope you make the right decision and don't hurt/upset your wife in any way inshaAllah, shes' human too you know.
 
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HAS ANYONE TAKEN THE BROTHERS FEELINGS INTO CONSIDERATION?!?!

Only If you've loved would you know how hard it is..... Please brothers and sisters, don't make comments that might offend the person.
 
AhLÄÄM said:
:salamext:

HAS ANYONE TAKEN THE BROTHERS FEELINGS INTO CONSIDERATION?!?!

Only If you've loved would you know how hard it is..... Please brothers and sisters, don't make comments that might offend the person.
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comments were not made to offend. the comments are made out of fear of what will happen to his wife? sure the guy is hurt but does that mean his current wife has to go through a hard time as well? it's sad since both are in a bad situation, but tell me what mistake his wife commited? what did she do to deserve that? it's a tough break on her too you know!:(
 
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His feeling have been taken into consideration, just that most ppl are saying he should never have let things get this far, if he had feeling for someone he shouldn't have married in the first place, that doesnt mean anyones being harsh towards him, just telling him what he should have done... It is hard being in love with some you cant be with, but that doesnt mean you make someone elses life hard as well. Maybe this sister will make a wonderful wife and love will grow between them...Only Allah knows how its going to work. InshaAllah I hope for the best, and grant u patience and understanding through this diffficult time!
 
You know guyz, maybe the bro already realises he should've said 'NO'. Whatever the case, it's a lil too late to tell him that now - it isn't going to turn back time. He's asking for help/advice for his present situation, so if you can advise him, then do. Otherwise, don't bother telling him what he should or shouldn't have done. Thank you :D
 
FatimaAsSideeqah said:
As Salaam Alaykum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu

:?

Would you put those statment into English please?
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I AM SORI ISNT IT AND THAT IT IS JUST THE WAY I TALK ISNT IT :p


HAHAHAHAHAHAHA

OK PEOPLE LEAVE ME ALOOOOOONE!! IM TRYNA HELP HERE DONT NEED U 2 GO ON N ON N ON N ON N ON N ON ABOUT D WAY I TALK OR WRITE

anyways bro, hope things work out 4 u inshaAllah, just make dua, and at least give it a try u never know, there might be sumat thereeeeee between ya ;)
 

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