sad.. n confused

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And don’t despair over the events of the past
For none of the events of the dunya were ever meant to remain
And be a man who is firm upon his affairs
And whose character is that of pardoning and nobility
And there is no sadness or happiness that is continuous
Just as there is there is no comfort or pain
If you are a person who is satisfied with what he has
Then you and the owner of all possessions are equal

Subhaan Allaah!!!!!!!!!

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

But love her for the sake of Allah, and treat her as if you love her, in a way that it strengthens the bond between you both. I'm sure that in time, you will begin to love her. It might not be with the same intensity as your last love, but inshaAllah enough to make both your lives fulfilling and joyful. Be sincere and allow yourself to experience love again in the way Allah swt has permitted you to.

mashaAllah



hey akh (scotsman) its only dunya right lol,


link me in jannah inshaAllah

 

[Snowflake]

to be honest with u, i get where ur comin from.. but i just dont wna go ahead with it cuz i dont really feel happy at all. i want my own space, and i want to be 'free'.. the time when i really wanted something to happen, it didn't.. i exhausted myself out, and then directly after some incidents - i fall into this.. when i wasn't prepared or happy to do it. i wanted freedom, not to mess about with other girls obviously, but to do my own things, spend my own life and choose to do something like marriage in the future..


i know it sounds stupid cuz now its too late, but i just wna wake up from this..

I understand where you're coming from. I too like my freedom and all that. But I fear Allah and would never allow my nafs to fulfil my longings at another person's expense. You say would want to get married in the future. But what guarantee have you that you will find happiness with someone else in the future or even be around to try?

It's good to be selfish sometimes, but not when we are hurting others in the process. I assume the marriage has been consummated? If so, that woman has given you her most precious thing. Then wouldn't the right thing to do is to give her a chance? You have absolutely nothing to lose, but so much to gain. Furthermore, I don't see why marriage should prevent you from doing your own thing.

Please read Bro Abu Sayyad's post (mashaAllah) and dwell on it.

At the end of the day, we can only advise and pray you do the right thing. Obviously we can't force you. But our sincere advice is to give your marriage a chance. If after that you can't accept it, then you can make any choice that pleases you. Right now I'm feeling fear of Allah on your behalf, if you do injustice to her. I hope to God your innocent wife doesn't suffer. My heart is already sad for her. imsad

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

sry this just HAS to be replied tO!

cos i want a thug..

you want a dawg who pierces his ears acts like a idiot towards parents and tries to intimidate most people? or maybe one who wears his pants low loves hip-hop n RnB n disrespects women?

or maybe by a thug you mean someone brave, confident, dont giv a dam about whos chattin crap to him he'll stand up for himself, dont take nothing from no one and is pretty kool? becoz u can be a pretty good muslim and still hold the last personality

the first two personalities are jus haramies....

n now im chattin crap i dunno wat am sayin

agreed

sorry

all good lol




Assalamu Alaikum

 

[AnonymousPoster]

jazak Allah everyone, just pray for me/us aswell insha Allah..



some good advice.. just emotions and thinking about the future is what freaks u out, but belief in qadr is good alhamdulilah.. we'll see what comes ahead insha Allah.

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

^ yeh qadr all the way

waTEVA HAPPENZ ALLAH KNOWS BEST!!!!!!!!!!!!

see if you get knocked out or beaten up, heart stolen n family killed, Allah knows best akhee !

this dunya aint somethin we suppose 2 stress ova newayz, we mu'mins shud b buzy stressin ova akhirah riiight?

newayz ive had looooooooooooooadsa growth n comfort from paiN !

from past experiences, im a giant lol


u'll be one too inshAllah


may Allah grant you sakeena wa sabr wa shukr wa love 4 messenger n Allah till ur mawth n den jannatul firdaus inshaAllaah

Ameen

 

[AnonymousPoster]

ameen..

 

[Snowflake]

^ameen

jazak Allah everyone, just pray for me/us aswell insha Allah..
some good advice.. just emotions and thinking about the future is what freaks u out, but belief in qadr is good alhamdulilah.. we'll see what comes ahead insha Allah.

MashaAllah, that's more like it. I pray it'll be the best thing that's ever happened to you, inshaAllah. Don't be freaked out bro. The shaytaan's always trying to put waswas in our heads, especially when we are going to do something good. I wish you a happy marriage inshaAllah.

 

[anonymous]

sry this just HAS to be replied tO!

you want a dawg who pierces his ears acts like a idiot towards parents and tries to intimidate most people? or maybe one who wears his pants low loves hip-hop n RnB n disrespects women?

or maybe by a thug you mean someone brave, confident, dont giv a dam about whos chattin crap to him he'll stand up for himself, dont take nothing from no one and is pretty kool? becoz u can be a pretty good muslim and still hold the last personality

the first two personalities are jus haramies....


agreed


all good lol




Assalamu Alaikum

No just sum1 hu shares the same interests as me and knows how to have FUN

 

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:salamext:

^ That isn't a thug sis asian queen *rolls eyes*

 

[anonymous]

:salamext:

^ That isn't a thug sis asian queen *rolls eyes*

Excuse me?

U dont know what Im interested in, maybe Im a thugette

 

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:salamext:

That isn't going to help ur dunya or ur Aakhirah

 

[anonymous]

:salamext:

That isn't going to help ur dunya or ur Aakhirah

Lol I knowwww, was jokinnn ini n dahhhhhh lol how u kno its meeeeeeeeeee

Hav u chaNGED YA USERNAME cos me no remeber u :?:? sowi xx lol

nwyas wers d bro gone, bro u okkkkk let us know hw u gtn on

 

[AnonymousPoster]

nwyas wers d bro gone, bro u okkkkk let us know hw u gtn on

ok, erm.. basically i've rented a field in pak so we can run in da fieldz as a wedin gift..



mesin lol.. just gota get used to it n that init.

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

ok, erm.. basically i've rented a field in pak so we can run in da fieldz as a wedin gift..



mesin lol.. just gota get used to it n that init.

im waitin for nex week.

wen u say to me

"ALHAMDULILLAH IM SOOO HAPPY N BLESSED"


i'l b prayin 4 dat day


Assalamu Alaikum


*grabs jacket n runs out to visit dude in fields n join in runnin*

 

[.: Jannati :.]

top advice on this thread! mA. mA.! :thumbs_up

 

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ok, erm.. basically i've rented a field in pak so we can run in da fieldz as a wedin gift..



mesin lol.. just gota get used to it n that init.

:salamext:

:lol: TYPICAL BOLLYWOOD!!!!!!!!!! ;D

Ahem

Lol na seriously tho....take it slow akhee, and you'll be fine, ur strong mashaaAllaah

 

[anonymous]

mesin lol.. just gota get used to it n that init.

Init n thaaaaaaaaaaaat!!! Keep smilin bruv, just make the most of wat ya hav Treat her mean keep her keen init n thattttttt Lol

nah dont treat her mean lol just keep her keen

 

[Hamas]

Assalamu Alaikum,

I dont get it, your in love with a girl? so why did you marry another? due to culture? sorry but that sounds stupid, are you with the girl you love? if your not then maybe you shouldve waited a little while till you got over her then get married to whoever but you didnt, you made that choice to marry her, if you were concerned about the way she would feel and knew the way you would go about with her then you wouldnt have married her, you shoot yourself in the foot then you moan about the bullet, does that make sense? sorry i dont mean to be rude but thats how i see it.

JazakAllah

 

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u ok now bro?