This forum is confusing to me. Sometimes it is excessively liberal, sometimes it is excessively conservative.
In another thread by this guy, everyone was encouraging him to marry a woman who had a sinful sexual past.
So on the one hand, the people here were making excuses for such a nasty thing but on the other hand they have a massive problem with birthdays which is harmless and trivial.
Makes sense.
That is horrible.
He has to repent from his sin. She has to repent from her sin. Only then can they marry according to the Hanaabilah.
But this is what you get when people speak without knowledge.
A massive contradiction.
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He's going to b 1. My family never celebrated birthdays but wife family does. There would b a cake but no candles cuz I know the candle thing is not of our religion. But just gifts food and present. Also gonna have a banner saying my sons name 1st birthday. Perfectly fine?
Since some people love to derail threads based on their blind following and sectarian issues, I once I again urge to act on the words of the Messegner of Allaah (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam).
Ignorant people have created doubts in your mind because their whims want them to celebrate birthdays. Probably because they do not have it in them to not do so when their first child is born.
You need to rise above letting your child becoming a trial for you. Please do not celebrate his birthday.
There will be many challenges ahead of you. Your child will grow up looking at you. He will look at you as his role model.
Do you not want a child who grows up pious so he can be a source of good deeds for you. A recurring charity?
that Abu Hurayrah said: “The good deeds that will reach a believer after his death are: knowledge which he learned and then spread;
a righteous son whom he leaves behind; a copy of the Qur’aan that he leaves as a legacy; a mosque that he built; a house that he built for wayfarers; a canal that he dug; or charity that he gave during his lifetime when he was in good health. These deeds will reach him after his death.”
Ibn Maajah 242
Please follow the way of the Messenger of Allaah (Sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) as come down to us in the authentic hadith:
An-Nu’man bin Bashir narrated, I heard Allah‘s Messenger (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) saying, (Nu'man pointed with his two fingers to his ears) ‘Both lawful (Halal) and unlawful things (Haram) are evident but in between them there are doubtful things·and most people have no knowledge about them.
So he, who saves himself from these doubtful things, saves his religion and his honor (i.e. keeps them blameless).
And he who indulges in these doubtful things is like a shepherd who pastures (his animals) near the Hima (private pasture) of someone else and at any moment he is liable to get in it. (O people!) Beware! Every king has a Hima and the Hima of Allah on the earth is what He declared unlawful (Haram). Beware In the body there is a piece of flesh if it becomes sound and healthy, the whole body becomes sound and healthy but if it gets spoilt, the whole body gets spoilt and that is the heart.”
[Sahiih al-Bukhaari and Sahiih Muslim]
And I promise you, you will see the following Verse every day of your life
Whoever does righteousness, whether male or female, while he is a believer - We will surely cause him to live a good life, and We will surely give them their reward [in the Hereafter] according to the best of what they used to do.
[Qur'aan 16:97]
