Serious question

[Artimis]

I have been hurting a lot lately and i have been praying to Allah to help me from 1 year constantly i even pray at midnight but i am still hurt even more than before which got me to wonder that how does it all work. I mean i have seen muslims around me who do not pray ( just sometimes occasionally), they do a lot of things forbidden by Allah even though they are muslims and they are enjoyinh their life to fullest they are still so blessed (and no i am not jealous of them i am just trying to figure out how it all works) on the other hand i have been praying to Allah constantly i even pray at midnight and i trusted Allah completely even though the circumstances around me were such that it seemed impossible to achieve what i have been asking but everytime this came to my mind i trusted Allah and i though everything is possible for Allah. But even after all the prayers ans trust in Allah in the end i am hurt and the main reason i am hurt is because i completely trusted Allah and thought this dua will be fulfilled and i never prepared myslef for another scenario but now the other scenario is happening and i dont know what to do. Some of you will say trust Allah that this is best for you but how am i going to trust Allah again when i trusted him and still i am hurt because of this? I have been sad a lot of my life but i always thought there will be a time i will he happy but this calamity it has made me numb i have no hope for future. Why is it that i prayed and trusted Allah and i am thinking about suicide and the muslims who dont even pray salat are happy

Also if we will get what is written by Allah then whats the purpose of making dua i mean i made a lot a lot of dua i am still hurt and cant do anything and if i hadn't made dua still the same would have happened. So even after asking Allah and getting close to him he didn't make a way out for me. I am not saying that i want exactly what i asked but if i am praying so much why can i not get peace of heart? It means it does not matter i am closer to Allah or not becasue i didn't get peace of heart in any case.

 

[Umm Abed]

You need to change your way of thinking, be more positive, and hopeful. Dont take everything so personally. Each one has to answer for his/her own deeds, its no point scrutinizing why others who are sinners, get better off. There is such a thing as respite - which Allah gives, in order to give them a chance to change their ways.

Dont get unduly sad of what you cannot change. Embrace life. Things are not as bad as it seems. We dont find any success in questioning Allah swt. Have trust in Him, isnt He your Creator? He can do as He wish.

Be happy more, cut out stress and boredom. Volunteer for something worthwhile. Use your time in a good way. Leave despondency out of the door, and you will be on your way to a better, more meaningful, life, insha'allah.

 

[Artimis]

I dont want to lose faith and i want to trust Allah. I poster in this forum about my marriage issue and a lot of people said its my fauld Allah has given me right to call it off and this is my way out but this is a way out with a lot of disrespect and humiliation. I prayed to Allah constantly to make a way out for me with my and my families respect and do a miracle so that this marriage is called off. Noting is impossible for Allah. If he wills he can easily make a reason to call this marriage off.
I trusted Allah completely that i will get out of this each day i would wake up with hope and full trust in Allah that today something good will happen. Everyone was doing marriage preparations and i was still hopeful that Allah's help will come i never imagined marrying this guy because i was hopeful that Allah will help me because i prayed to Allah that if this person is better for me put love for him in my heart but nothing happened and now my marriage is in 5 days. I have to marry a man i dont have feelings for. Whenever i imagine life after marriage with him i think of ways to commit suicide

I completely trust Allah and they say Allah does not break trust of his servants but why this happened for me if this marriage really is good for me then why after all these duas i dont have love for him. Even after praying so much getting closer to Allah and begging him i am in full depression but Allah has promised he will help his servants when they call him but i am all alone no help came for me. Everyday feels like QAYAMAT

 

[Umm Abed]

Sister, your marriage is only 5 days away. You will badly disappoint your husband with this state of mind. It is far better to call it off then go along with it the way things are. The best option you can do now is postpone it. No one has the right to force you. Remember, whatever people say after, is not true humiliation. These people are not going to live with the consequences of your marriage, although I sincerely hope you will be happy if you ever go through with it.

I can imagine the feeling when you are forced to marry someone you dont want. Be brave and say no. You will do yourself a favour. Ignore the gossip and whatever follows. Be in control of your life.

Your duty is to make dua - dua -- and effort. Whatever happens later, is beyond your control and not something to beat yourself over. Lets not demand from Allah for something and expect it your way. Do dua and say whatever happens, will be for the best, insha'allah. Throw the depression out and be more in control.

 

[M.I.A.]

I have been hurting a lot lately and i have been praying to Allah to help me from 1 year constantly i even pray at midnight but i am still hurt even more than before which got me to wonder that how does it all work. I mean i have seen muslims around me who do not pray ( just sometimes occasionally), they do a lot of things forbidden by Allah even though they are muslims and they are enjoyinh their life to fullest they are still so blessed (and no i am not jealous of them i am just trying to figure out how it all works) on the other hand i have been praying to Allah constantly i even pray at midnight and i trusted Allah completely even though the circumstances around me were such that it seemed impossible to achieve what i have been asking but everytime this came to my mind i trusted Allah and i though everything is possible for Allah. But even after all the prayers ans trust in Allah in the end i am hurt and the main reason i am hurt is because i completely trusted Allah and thought this dua will be fulfilled and i never prepared myslef for another scenario but now the other scenario is happening and i dont know what to do. Some of you will say trust Allah that this is best for you but how am i going to trust Allah again when i trusted him and still i am hurt because of this? I have been sad a lot of my life but i always thought there will be a time i will he happy but this calamity it has made me numb i have no hope for future. Why is it that i prayed and trusted Allah and i am thinking about suicide and the muslims who dont even pray salat are happy

Also if we will get what is written by Allah then whats the purpose of making dua i mean i made a lot a lot of dua i am still hurt and cant do anything and if i hadn't made dua still the same would have happened. So even after asking Allah and getting close to him he didn't make a way out for me. I am not saying that i want exactly what i asked but if i am praying so much why can i not get peace of heart? It means it does not matter i am closer to Allah or not becasue i didn't get peace of heart in any case.

..what are you praying for?

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So would you perhaps, if you turned away, cause corruption on earth and sever your [ties of] relationship?


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We are all here with who we are here with. "/

..but if you were there with them, i dont know what they would make of you.

I would wager you were never truly alone.. so how can you act like you were?

Punishment and forgiveness is only with Allah swt.

All power and might is only with allah swt.

We are all made use of, but i have no idea what tomorrow will be like.


But yeah, i have wrote before that sometimes it looks like it doesnt even matter what you do anymore.. but rather who you do it for..

Everybody has ups n downs.

..you cant fake it.

 

[xa_xa_ft]

Are you married now? You never knw maybe few years down the line you actually thank Allah for this. Preserve with patience.

 

[Artimis]

Nope i am not married. I will be getting married in 4 days. You are right maybe it will be the best thing for me but as a muslim and as someone who is praying 5 times to get Allah's help i believed i would get peace of heart but my condition is worst. I mean being closer to Allah should have given me peace

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Emracing life is not easy when life gives you so much sadness

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I guess if after my marriage i wont be happy i will be regretting it that i should have listened to you but i am just not strong enough. I prayed to Allah so if i didn't get what i want i should have gotten something like the courage to call it off

 

[danishajaz]

Nope i am not married. I will be getting married in 4 days. You are right maybe it will be the best thing for me but as a muslim and as someone who is praying 5 times to get Allah's help i believed i would get peace of heart but my condition is worst. I mean being closer to Allah should have given me peace

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Emracing life is not easy when life gives you so much sadness

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I guess if after my marriage i wont be happy i will be regretting it that i should have listened to you but i am just not strong enough. I prayed to Allah so if i didn't get what i want i should have gotten something like the courage to call it off

So you don't want to marry your to be husband because he is not practicing?

 

[Umm Abed]

You seem bitter about the wrong idea that Allah will not help you.

Remember, effort must come from your side and leave the rest. You are not getting the peace because you have unrealistic expectations. This life is full of challenges of all sorts, not only for you but for everyone. Its not meant to be Jannah here.

Now dont make a man's life a misery by marrying him when you dont want him. Weigh everything and do the right thing. You are prepared to let him suffer the consequences but you dont want to take the consequences of your family if you dont marry him. Think about it.

You do have the courage all you need to do is put it into practice. Why not put off the wedding for a few days more then make a final decision?

Please take this advice as well-meant. Thanks.