Shaking Hands With the Opposite Sex

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As-Salaamu-Alaikum!

As for getting a job, remember that all things come from Allah! If Allah wills that you should have such and such a job, then you will, regardless of who you are dealing with. I have never had any trouble when obeying Allah and His Messenger. If you go for a job interview and don't get hired becaused you obeyed Allah, then maybe Allah did not will that for you and Insha Allah, He will give you something better - And Allah knows best.
 
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salam shaking a hand with a female or different gender to you is not allowed in islam when a person goes to find a job and if a women is taking the interview after the interview you are supposed to shake her/his hand shaking the females hand is not pernissable in islam. as Allah says in the quran o you who belive obey allah and obey the messenger (s.a.w) render not vian your deeds.that is what Allah and the messenger (s.a.w) said a person did not make this up so we have to obey it
 
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its said clearly in sorat AL-AHZAB

033.021YUSUFALI translation: Ye have indeed in the Messenger of Allah a beautiful pattern (of conduct) for any one whose hope is in Allah and the Final Day, and who engages much in the Praise of Allah.
PICKTHAL translation: Verily in the messenger of Allah ye have a good example for him who looketh unto Allah and the Last Day, and remembereth Allah much.
SHAKIR translation: Certainly you have in the Messenger of Allah an excellent exemplar for him who hopes in Allah and the latter day and remembers Allah much.

so i ask all muslims to have taqwa for allah .
 
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and about the other hadeeth that says "There are no two Muslims that meet each other, then they shake hands except that the both of them are forgiven of their sins before they leave each other."

and as it came in the books of Saheeh(authentic) al-Jaami` and da`iif(weak) al-Jaami` by shiekh al-Albaani there is indeed truthful hadeeth's about the shaking hands between muslims and there are also other false hadeeth's and here what i found.

in both the books by Tirmidhi (tirmizi) and abu dawud and others

Narated By Al-Bara' ibn Azib : The Prophet (pbuh) said: Two Muslims will not meet and shake hands having their sins forgiven them before they separate.

and the imam al-Albaani classed it as good hadeeth and so did the imam Tirmidhi.

**note that the good hadeeth means its authentic but in a lower level.

but there is another hadeeth in which shiekh al-Albaani classed it as weak hadeeth and its mentioned in the book by abu dawud and here it is.

Narated By Al-Bara' ibn Azib : The Prophet (pbuh) said: If two Muslims meet, shake hands, praise Allah, and ask Him for forgiveness, they will be forgiven.

and its clearly obvious that the hadeeth means when two muslims as in the case of two women or the case of two men and it can't be intended to be in the case of a women who meets a non mehrem man.
and allah knows best.

wa alsalam;
 
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I live in the west, and quite often there is a situation where the normal thing to do would be to shake hands with women. I am aware that this is not allowed in Islam. However, are there any specific hadeeth that deal with the matter?

Also, I am concerned about sending the wrong impression about Islam; there could be better introductions to Islam than an awkward situation and "I don't shake hands". One can imagine what a westerner thinks in such a situation. In light of this, if a man's niyyat is pure, should he shake hands with (non-Muslim) women?

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JazakaAllah khairan.
 
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I live in the west, and quite often there is a situation where the normal thing to do would be to shake hands with women. I am aware that this is not allowed in Islam. However, are there any specific hadeeth that deal with the matter?
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:? If you mean any hadith that support this then yes.

It is narrated that `A’ishah, the wife of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), said, “When the believing women migrated to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), they would be tested in accordance with the words of Allah, ‘O Prophet! If believing women come unto thee, taking oath of allegiance unto thee that they will ascribe nothing as partner unto Allah, and will neither steal nor commit adultery nor kill their children, nor produce any lie that they have devised between their hands and feet, nor disobey thee in what is right, then accept their allegiance and ask Allah to forgive them. Lo! Allah is Forgiving, Merciful.’ (Al-Mumtahanah: 12)” `A’ishah said, “Whoever among the believing women agreed to that passed the test, and when the women agreed to that, the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said to them, ‘Go, for you have given your oath of allegiance.’ No, by Allah, the hand of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) never touched the hand of any woman, rather they would give their oath of allegiance with words only.” And `A’ishah said, “By Allah, the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) only took the oath of allegiance from the women in the manner prescribed by Allah, and the hand of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) never touched the hand of any woman. When he had taken their oath of allegiance he would say, ‘I have accepted your oath of allegiance verbally.’” (Reported by Al-Bukhari)

Also:

It was narrated that Ma’qil ibn Yassaar said: the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle is better for him than that he should touch a woman who is not permissible for him.”

Narrated by al-Tabaraani in al-Kabeer, 486. Shaykh al-Albaani said in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 5045, that this hadeeth is saheeh.

For futher reading http://63.175.194.25/index.php?cs=prn&ln=eng&QR=21183&dgn=4&dgn=2


Also, I am concerned about sending the wrong impression about Islam; there could be better introductions to Islam than an awkward situation and "I don't shake hands". One can imagine what a westerner thinks in such a situation.
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Trust once you learn to say "No" often it will be easy plus it opens the door to dawah:)


In light of this, if a man's niyyat is pure, should he shake hands with (non-Muslim) women?
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Re-read the above hadith.
 
JazakaAllah for the replies. I see that I was wrong in assuming that it was forbidden in all situations. I needn't have offended the old lady yesterday after all. :hmm:
 
It is not allowed for a woman to shake the hand of a non-mahram man

It is not allowed for a woman to shake the hand of a non-mahram man

Question: Some tribes have customs that go against the pure Sharee'ah. For example, in some places it is customary for the guest to shake the hands of the female host. If he does not do so, it will lead to lots of problems and people will understand it in different ways. What is the best practice to follow given those circumstances?

Response: Shaking the hands of a woman for whom one is not mahram is not allowed. This is based on what is confirmed from the Prophet (sal-Allaahu `alayhe wa sallam) Who said, when the women were giving the pledge of allegiance to him, "I do not shake the hands of women." It is also confirmed that 'Aa.ishah said, "By Allaah, the hand of the Messenger of Allaah (sal-Allaahu `alayhe wa sallam) never touched another woman [other than his wives]. He used to take their pledges verbally only." Allaah has said, "Indeed in the Messenger of Allaah you have a good example to follow for him who hopes in [the meeting with] Allaah and the Last Day and remembers Allaah much" (al-Ahzaab 21). Furthermore, shaking hands by women with men that are not mahram is one of the means that leads to temptation for both of them and it is obligatory to avoid it. There is no harm in saying greetings without shaking hands. Any speech of a questionable nature or soft speech must be avoided. This is based on Allaah's statement, {O wives of the Prophet! You are not like any other women. If you keep your duty [to Allaah, then be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease should be moved with desire, but speak in an honourable manner}, [al-Ahzaab 32]. During the time of the Prophet (sal-Allaahu `alayhe wa sallam) the women would greet him and ask him questions that were concerning them. This is also how the women used to ask the Companions of the Prophet (sal-Allaahu `alayhe wa sallam) questions concerning matters of concern to them. There is no harm in women shaking hands with mahram men, such as their fathers, paternal uncles, Maternal Uncles and so forth.

Shaykh Ibn Baaz
Fataawa al-Mar.ah
 
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JazaakAllah


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shaking hands!

salam.
When we shake hands with one another, sins fall from the shaking of the two hands. This is confirmed by a hadith of the Prophet (saw). Yet for some reason, when we are busy in a conversation and other brothers are walking by and offering their salaam, we have so much trouble looking them in eyes when we shake their hands.

We carry on with our conversations and put our right hands up so the lowly passer-by can shake it and be off while we mutter a "wa alaikum assalam" under our breaths.

No eye contact, no smile (out of which we could easily earned reward for charity), no recognition that a member of the Ummah of Muhammad (saw), a follower of khatm-al-ambiyaai w-al mursaleen (the seal of the prophets and messengers), a servant of Allah, a beloved of the Lord of the Universe, one who may be inshallah a Companion of the Right Hand, just shook our hands.

That such a person, a brother in the Deen, our ally in this Dunya, one who stands in your rows in Salaah, a friend, a creation of the King of Kings who has willingly submitted to Him, not only shook your hand, causing the release of your minor sins, but also prayed for Peace and Blessings upon you from Allah (swt) by conveying Salaam.

Knowing all this, we often put our hands out while looking at someone/something else, talking to someone else, and let them keeping walking. Especially at dawats, parties, etc.

"There are no two Muslims that meet each other, then they shake hands except that the both of them are forgiven of their sins before they leave each other."

So next time someone puts their hand out and says salaam, remember the minor sins that fall and smile at your brother.
w.salam
 
Saying no to a handshake: Ideas?

Asalaamu alaykum.

We've all had that cringe-worthy moments, you're at work/school/interview and a member of the opposite sex puts their hand out... theres a few moments of awkwardness while you stumble over yourself trying to stutter out an explanation, all the while, the enthusiasm of the one who wanted to shake your hand turns to either embaressment or anger or insult. What could have been a beautiful start to a relationship is now forever stained and will always haunt you.

So.. what can we do? I thought we could start a thread on different ways to say no to a handshake.

Here are some of my methods: -
  • Keeping your hands out of sight/preoccupied - always carry something with you, especially at job interviews, it usually stops the interviewee from offering a handshake if you look busy.
  • Ignoring the hand - if you always maintain eye contact and pretend you didn't see the hand - its less embaressing for the person to retract and they usually will quite quickly.
  • Not always possible, but sometimes you can say something alone the lines of "sorry, my hands reserved for my wife". It can either come off sounding extremely romantic and sweet and will forever make the person think well of Muslims - or it can come off sounding creepy and weird and sort of perverted. Use with caution. (PS: If your a sister, I wouldn't try "sorry, my hands are reserved for my husband" - you'll come of sounding oppressed unfortunately).
More to come insha'allah...

(PS: Please post any funny incidents you've had related to this topic too!).
 

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