Shall i give up on my husband??

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runing away is not the option frm marige,Angels curse tht woman who dnt sleep with her husband,what makes u think u can run away put ur child ur husband life in dificult times,remeber marrige works out by talking not taking the decisions by ur own,put urself in ur husband shoes,he will be also in tension by leaving him u will make things worse. MARRIGE GOLDEN RULE IS TO FORGIVE EACH OTHER & UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER BY TALKING.Allah will help u
 
dew of jannah said:
runing away is not the option frm marige,Angels curse tht woman who dnt sleep with her husband
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brother i find this really insensitive. Do not be telling her stuff like that. angels curse that woman yes but not for reasons such as this. it is not her fault her husband is refusing to live with her.

she even payed alot of money for this apartment. she took that burden off her husbands shoulders. any man would be blessed to have a wife like this.

i found a lot of posts on here really insensitive towards the OP. islam is easy. giving people there due rights is easy but people make it hard and thats why people run away in the sisters case.
 
I am looking at this situation from biological point of view only and whatever emotions are associated with that. Yea, call me a "heartless" human. Kher, yea she needs to be in an environment where the baby will not suffer any physiological damage due to this hoop la of mother or her husband.
 
word of advice, once that baby is bought into the house the grandmum is gonna look to keep it (and therefore you) in the house. so moving out now will be an easier option.

dont leave your husband, if hes a good husband then theyre rare enough already in this world.
 
assalamualikum
i am a 13 year old.
if i hadn't a father, my life wouldn't be complete.

think of you child that you wish to spend time with. He needs a mother AND father.
please do not abandon ur husband, it will have an adverse effect on your child.

may Allah guide us in the right path. inshallah

wassalam
 
Hopefully the sister has had her baby in peace by now and things are clearer insha'Allah we pray that she and the baby are doing well in all stages of labor and delivery .. once this massive surge of hormones, anxiety and anticipation is over, things will become clearer to all parties involved.. most women need help the first few days after giving birth so perhaps the mother in law might be busied with that and lays off the sister's case for a while.. and on a separate note.. everyone thinks that they are right, it is precisely why too many adults in one household are constantly at each other's throat, with each person trying to assert themselves.. if you don't have a good reason to compromise then everyone will be living in a private little hell.

I don't at all agree with the custom of moving in with your in laws or relatives, I believe that it is nice that in laws can give you accommodation when you are struggling.. but everyone has a role to play a grandmother can only be a grandmother not a wife to her son or a mother to his child, a wife can't be the husband's mother or a spectator to her own child.. everyone needs to live their own life and go about it their own way even if that means making terrible mistakes, at least one will learn from their experience.. so hopefully after a period of convalescence, both the husband and wife can move in to their own apt. with their child and visit the grandparents maybe twice or three times a week.. and I think all parties will indeed be happier with that arrangement insha'Allah

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As-Salamu Alaykum people, im sorry i do not have a clue how to use this forum but have a question that needs answering please, i dont know how to post a question so please forgive me
dear friends i hope youcan help me inshAllah i am 22 and live in england and I am pakistani and studdy architecture. brother my problem is i want to marry this girl that i have known for nearly 1 year but her mum wont even talk to my mum.
i have been speaking to this girl on the phone but never met her in person because i fear Allah. she is 18 and also pakistani but last week her mum heard her talking about
me to her sister and shouted at her and took her phone off her ect. and her mum said dont ever talk to the boy again and she said you cant marry him, so the girl explained
to her mum that she wanted to marry me and that she should speak to my mum but she said no. the reason her mum will not even concider it is because she is scared and knows
that her husband (the girls dad) is very strict and her comes home every single day and drinks alcahol every single day he only stops in ramadan and then on eid he starts again
every day,so that is her mums problem,
in the The Beloved Prophet Muhammad
Sallallahu 'Alayhi Wa Sallams time marrige was so simple, now the parent make it so difficult, my family will support me but in islam what can i do? what can the girl do?
i really need some help friends because the stress is affecting me and her alot please advise me .
 
give time to each other dear poster
they say dun make decisions when ur angry and dun make promises when ur happy
so think about it caerfully
but dun leave him as u said hes gud to u n dat u both love eachother
and there are always arguements with love

hope allah will help u both
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give time to each other dear poster
they say dun make decisions when ur angry and dun make promises when ur happy
so think about it carefully
but dun leave him as u said hes gud to u n dat u both love eachother
and there are always arguments with love

hope allah will help u both
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ali101 said:
i have been speaking to this girl on the phone but never met her in person because i fear Allah.
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but brother , talking with a girl over phone like this is not Islamic either.



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my family will support me but in islam what can i do? what can the girl do?
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offer Istekhara salat . If see any positive sign , then request ur parent to talk to her wali / send marriage proposal to her parent.
 
__follower said:
an any1 tell me how to delete double posts pls
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Only mods can delete posts. You can either message a mod and ask your post to be deleted or they'll delete it themselves if/when they notice it. You can also edit your post and mention that it's a double post as many members do.
 
ali101 said:
As-Salamu Alaykum brother my problem is i want to marry this girl that i have known for nearly 1 year but her mum wont even talk to my mum.
i have been speaking to this girl on the phone but never met her in person because i fear Allah. she is 18 and also pakistani but last week her mum heard her talking about
me to her sister and shouted at her and took her phone off her ect. and her mum said dont ever talk to the boy again and she said you cant marry him, so the girl explained
to her mum that she wanted to marry me and that she should speak to my mum but she said no. the reason her mum will not even concider it is because she is scared and knows
that her husband (the girls dad) is very strict and her comes home every single day and drinks alcahol every single day he only stops in ramadan and then on eid he starts again
every day,so that is her mums problem,
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Ramadan is near, why not approach her parents then? If you said the reason her mom is scared because of her dad's drinking and he doesn't drink then.

Offer Istikhaarah and please avoid talking to the girl like this.
 
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wa alaykum us-Salaam
ali101 said:
As-Salamu Alaykum people, im sorry i do not have a clue how to use this forum but have a question that needs answering please, i dont know how to post a question so please forgive me
dear friends i hope youcan help me inshAllah i am 22 and live in england and I am pakistani and studdy architecture. brother my problem is i want to marry this girl that i have known for nearly 1 year but her mum wont even talk to my mum.
i have been speaking to this girl on the phone but never met her in person because i fear Allah. she is 18 and also pakistani but last week her mum heard her talking about
me to her sister and shouted at her and took her phone off her ect. and her mum said dont ever talk to the boy again and she said you cant marry him, so the girl explained
to her mum that she wanted to marry me and that she should speak to my mum but she said no. the reason her mum will not even concider it is because she is scared and knows
that her husband (the girls dad) is very strict and her comes home every single day and drinks alcahol every single day he only stops in ramadan and then on eid he starts again
every day,so that is her mums problem,
in the The Beloved Prophet Muhammad
Sallallahu 'Alayhi Wa Sallams time marrige was so simple, now the parent make it so difficult, my family will support me but in islam what can i do? what can the girl do?
i really need some help friends because the stress is affecting me and her alot please advise me .
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if her father is how you describe, then you should be careful that you dont get her in trouble. if you want this to happen, apply the permissible means. going behind her families back wont help anything.
 

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