She's lost it

^Sis, your mother sounds like a religious person.
How about suggesting to her that you start a small taleem in the home e.g. kitaab reading for about 5-10minutes at meal times?
This will make it easier for you to address issues such as depression and its cures (according to islam), the eitquette of dua and its acceptance etc.
You will also be able to give your sister more hope and address issues that you face as a family as a whole in an indirect manner so that nothing is taken personally.

I hope that I have been able to help you InshaAllah.

May Allah make it easy for you and your sister and grant her tranquility and everlasting happiness in her life. And may He increase the love within your family and grant you all that is best for you. Ameen
 
Isnt her sister right to say that Allah can change hearts and that if they are good for each other's deen they can be together???
 
It might sound weird to everyone but I feel embarrassed to do it because we've never been close.
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its never too late .. may its the right time now for you two to get closer ? i am saying from experience sis .. i did the same mistake with my brother and he dropped out of university as he couldn't control himself. had i have been more supportive may be it would have been different :(

She urgently needs your help ,... go help her.. talk to her , console her , hug her, play with her. its better than being sad later that you could have done something.
 
zakirs said:
its never too late .. may its the right time now for you two to get closer ? i am saying from experience sis .. i did the same mistake with my brother and he dropped out of university as he couldn't control himself. had i have been more supportive may be it would have been different :(

She urgently needs your help ,... go help her.. talk to her , console her , hug her, play with her. its better than being sad later that you could have done something.
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yeah i agree with brother zakirs totally sometimes i feel shy to hug my brother:embarrass once he started to cry over a girl.. could not believe it. itwas so awkward:embarrass but i did it anyway because its part of our faith to support your family through hard and rough times. this must be such a hard time for your sister and she needs her brother more then anything in this world
 
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Brother, first thing I would do if I was in your situation is gain her trust. She should trust you enough to tel you her problems as a family member, siblings, etc.

If she has a problem that she doesn't tell you, then you need to gain her trust by interacting with her more often and being kind to her. Make her feel she has family members she can depend on and don't leave her alone.

And if the matter is getting really worse, I know you want the best for your sister, but sometimes it is best to let your parents know and they must be kind to her.

What is this life if not trials and tribulations? Tell her to place her trust in Allah(swt) that if she gives up something for the sake of Allah(swt), Allah(swt) will replace it with something better for her.

Seriously though, no matter how awkward it is you should talk to her everyday and be very kind to her.

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sis try to be close to your sister, ask her about her problems, try to make her discuss her issues with you, it might help. sometimes we just need to vent and it makes dealing with issues easier,and makes you stronger.
 
go with her to a psychiatrist? someone whose neutral and has dealt with such issues before would be a great help.
 
Yes, try your best to be there for your sister, console her, tell her she doesn't need and doesn't want that man, make her see that there are lots of other better guys, make her go out and live her life, meet ppl. And do lots of dua for her. Tell her that Allah answers her prayers, but that man isn't right for her so Allah is saving her from him. He's only a player and would only ruin her life and it's best she got rid of him before marriage. What would have happened if she had married him and then he left her? Men like that can't be trusted. Let her see the bright side and insha-Allah your help + lots of duas and zikr will make things all right.

if that doesn't help, then tell your parents. No need to tell them she was having a relationship, maybe just that she fell inlove with someone or something like that and get her professional help. Don't waste time. If she seems suicidal then get her help ASAP. Is there a helpline you can call or something?
 

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