Should loners marry?

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Argamemnon said:
I think I answered your question sister, albeit briefly.


How would you know sister?
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I understand you answered it, sometimes it requires deep thought though. What would it do to your system if you was to go out? Before you try your electroshock therapy, how about you try a technique called flooding. Here's an example of flooding: locking a person who is afraid of spiders into a room full of spiders.

Force yourself out, see the worst that could happen.

And I dont think you're sick in the head because from what I've seen your posts are intelligent and coherent and that you seem to be asking for advice and support is commendable in itself, Masha'Allah!
 
AssalamuAlaykum,
Seems you are troubled bro...
Yu need to find contentment within yourself first Akhee
Insha'Allah Allah eases all your troubles...
Your in my dua's..
 
Amatul Wadud said:
I understand you answered it, sometimes it requires deep thought though. What would it do to your system if you was to go out? Before you try your electroshock therapy, how about you try a technique called flooding. Here's an example of flooding: locking a person who is afraid of spiders into a room full of spiders.

Force yourself out, see the worst that could happen.

And I dont think you're sick in the head because from what I've seen your posts are intelligent and coherent and that you seem to be asking for advice and support is commendable in itself, Masha'Allah!
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I have to say, I agree with what sis' Amatul Wadud said here. Give it a go, what have you got to lose?
 
That is an interesting question. I don’t think a person should remain single simply because he/she is a loner. Hopefully, if you marry a person whom you love, then you would enjoy their company. But I am wondering if a person who loves someone else should get married simply because they can’t marry the person they love and eventually they have to get married.
 
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Argamemnon said:
Just wondering what your opinion is. Do you
think people with a loner personality should marry. Would they be good husbands or wives? Could they take care of their children properly? I fall into the category of "loners" :)

Do you think loners will miss out on life, if they chose to live alone their whole life? I mean not having a lifelong companion, never experiencing love and intimacy with the opposite sex etc.. it's easier said than done.
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of course...but i think they should marry someone whose on the same level and/or atleast understand them...otherwise if they marry someone too outgoing and social, i think it maybe a little awkward and possibly cause a little tension in the relationship...
 
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being a loner and being married is like an oxymoron.

unless you mean you hardly hang out with friends and see family pretty much all the time etc, because if thats a loner then im a lone-wolf !


anyway bro, i think a loner wife would be perfect for me ! lol !



Assalamu Alaikum
 
Oh, and to answer to your question, Argamemnon, I think that if you find a person you love, and that loves you, and understands you, then you should. I know couples that don't like having friends over, and are friends with like just one family or something =)
 
Leyla73 said:
Cause you could trust her? Cause you know she'll never go out and do bad things? lol
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No because there's a bigger chance she will be down to earth and.... its better for the pair(husband and wife) to be together alone and secluded...with the exception of both their family members being there and one or two good muslim mates...............but if she is associated with a swarm of gossip hungry women who influence and tell porkies... then forget it.....
 
It’s only for the good....trust me....in that way both the husband and wife can really understand each other, love each other and care for one another without any evil interference and distractions :)
 
Greetings and peace be with you Argamemnon;

I appreciate your optimism, I really do
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I wasn't being optomistic when I said you are a kind and a caring person, I sincerely believe that to be true.
however, currently I'm considering electroschock therapy. This should give you an idea about the severity of my mental state... I've been dealing with this illness since 2001 dear Eric
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This world is a duanting place to live, and I will keep you in my prayers. I do believe you can overcome this, you do not have to believe me, you just need to believe in yourself.

This is powerful, you need to search and try and understand how it works.

Destiny Douglas C Hess

Watch Your Thoughts, For They Become Words,
Choose Your Words, For They Become Actions,
Understand Your Actions, For They Become Habits.
Study Your Habits, For They Become Your Character,
Develop Your Character, For It Becomes Your Destiny
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If you start of by thinking you will fail, then you will fail, you will talk about failing, act a failure and it becomes a habit. This is were you are now, but you can strive to reverse this and influence your destiny. It all starts from thoughts, or for a believer it starts with prayer, trusting that Allah can help you find peace and overcome your anxiety.

In the spirit of praying for an inner peace that surpasses all understanding

Eric
 
Eric H said:
Greetings and peace be with you Argamemnon;


I wasn't being optomistic when I said you are a kind and a caring person, I sincerely believe that to be true.

This world is a duanting place to live, and I will keep you in my prayers. I do believe you can overcome this, you do not have to believe me, you just need to believe in yourself.

This is powerful, you need to search and try and understand how it works.



If you start of by thinking you will fail, then you will fail, you will talk about failing, act a failure and it becomes a habit. This is were you are now, but you can strive to reverse this and influence your destiny. It all starts from thoughts, or for a believer it starts with prayer, trusting that Allah can help you find peace and overcome your anxiety.

In the spirit of praying for an inner peace that surpasses all understanding

Eric
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Greetings and peace be with you Eric. That was wonderful and so true. Thank you :)
 
Greetings and peace be with you Argamemnon; I hope you are getting through today.

Have you ever thought about doing a part time voluntary job, there are all kinds advertised in the UK, in hospitals, nursing homes, day centres, charity shops, etc.

It seems to have wonderful things going for it, people who need voluntary help often have problems and you have to talk to them about the help they need. There are often a lot of women working in those kind of jobs, and of course you are helping others. There may well be Islamic places that need volunteers.

Often with voluntary jobs there is less pressure on you to produce lots of results, and it might be easier for you to socialise. Doing voluntary work often goes down well with future employers.

And you have to go out the house too.:)

In the spirit of praying for an inner peace that surpasses all understanding

Eric
 
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Yes everyone should marry, it might make the loner a non loner. Everybody needs a companion

Please make dua for me
 
Eric H said:
Greetings and peace be with you Argamemnon; I hope you are getting through today.

Have you ever thought about doing a part time voluntary job, there are all kinds advertised in the UK, in hospitals, nursing homes, day centres, charity shops, etc.

It seems to have wonderful things going for it, people who need voluntary help often have problems and you have to talk to them about the help they need. There are often a lot of women working in those kind of jobs, and of course you are helping others. There may well be Islamic places that need volunteers.

Often with voluntary jobs there is less pressure on you to produce lots of results, and it might be easier for you to socialise. Doing voluntary work often goes down well with future employers.

And you have to go out the house too.:)

In the spirit of praying for an inner peace that surpasses all understanding

Eric
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Greetings and peace be with you Eric,

I have done voluntary work for a year in 2007-2008. Currently, I'm applying for jobs....
 

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