Silences

[alcurad]

well, when you finish talking, ie. nothing left to talk about take a break and do something else. It bothers me when people try to break the silence for the sake of it, not that I'm not talkative at times

 

[Umm Hurairah]

Asalaamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatu,

Silences are good, because when you're talking, you start back-biting without even realizing it (has happened so many times, Astaghfirullah). I stopped talking when I realized that people use everything you say against you, one time or another. The best way to have a conversation, imo, is to keep the talking on to the next person. Like ask the person constant questions, even if you have 0 interest in the answers. "How's school? Did you finish *** assignment? How is your sister/mother? What did you have for breakfast (this might seem too obvious, but really, people can go on about breakfast for so long, it's surprising)?" Works every time, Insha Allah. <3

 

[aadil77]

You're telling me! :skeleton: I hate it, I've even gotten out before reaching the correct floor because teh silence was deafening.

Lol, If I found it awkward I would have said somehting stupid like 'woh this silence is awkward' stuff like that usually breaks the ice

 

[Musaafirah]

^^ I do that. Foot-in-mouth disease is what I seem to suffer from.
I think I must've freaked a fair few people out.
(Oh, I wouldn't initiate a conversation with a dude in an elevator though..I'll only talk to a person who I see all the time in the lift who's a girl and who I don't really know)

 

[Ali.]

Very interesting thread topic..

I initially voted Silence between yourself and a friend, but having some thought about this, I change my mind.
I think if you pay attention, with a close, "real", if you like, friend/family member, silence could go on for millenia and none of you could care. I reminisced to times of silence between me and family members and [alhamdulillah (?)], it didn't seem to be of much bother. But when I think of "friends" who are perhaps, not that close to me, there is a tension and an itching obligation to speak and say something just for the sake of keeping the title of 'friend'.

Understood? :-[

 

[~Raynn~]

^ Yup, I totally agree... ^

 

[Muezzin]

The most awkward silence for me is when I'm with family rather than friends, specifically in a family gathering type of context. You know, after the meet and greet, and everyone has sat down and then before the momentum of discussion really gets going, there's this tumbleweed of nothingness? Hate it.

No silence is as awkward as the silence on an elevator. :skeleton:

In such situations, I take it you enjoy the punctuation of a fart?