Son and Father Issues!

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Salaams Uncle Scimi gee.

If you feel your life is in USA, you go for it. But please do keep in touch with your family, which I know you will. I reckon that once you are gone, they will miss you like crazy. You seem like a wonderful person with so much knowledge and patience. If it is possible and they are willing, why don't you have a sit down and try and work out what the problem is?

My Dad never liked me and there was no way he would talk to me about it. He was not that kind of man. Besides he was too busy worrying about his sisters and their children! I have a sister and brother who he loved with all his heart and I always felt like the one that was adopted. I always got treated differently, but hey ho. Life is too short. It's funny that I was the only one who had time to go to all his appointments (I made time and took leave from work) when he got taken ill and I was the one who ended up playing nurse maid for the months before he died.

Good luck you both Kung Fu and Uncle Scimi gee.
 
Jazak Allahu khairan bro,

truth is, it doesn't bother me at all nowadays. I just learnt to get on with the situation to be really honest. Being stuck in groundhog day is a real pain though, and from here, I cannot get married - it's impossible... so I move, it's really as simple as that. :)

Scimi
 
May you find serenity and tranquility in a world you may not always understand.

May the pain you have known and the conflict you have experienced give you the strength

to walk through life facing each new situation with courage and optimism.

Always know that there are those whose love and understanding will always be there,

even when you feel most alone.

May you discover enough goodness in others to believe in a world of peace.

May a kind word, a reassuring touch, and a warm smile be yours every day of your life,

And may you give these gifts as well as receive them.

Remember the sunshine when the storm seems unending.

Teach love to those who hate, and let that love embrace you as you go out into the world.

May the teachings of those you admire become part of you, so that you may call upon them.

Remember, those whose lives you have touched

and whose have touched yours are always a part of you,

even if the encounters were less than you would have wished.

It is the content of the encounter that is more important than the form.

May you not become too concerned with material matters,

but instead place immeasurable value on the goodness in your heart.

Find time each day to see beauty and love in the world around you.

Realize that each person has limitless abilities, but each of us is different in our own way.

What you feel you lack in the present may become one of your strengths in the future.

May you see your future as one filled with promise and possibility.

Learn to view everything as a worthwhile experience.

May you find enough inner strength to determine your own worth by yourself,

And not be dependent on another's judgment of your accomplishments.

May you always feel loved.

Aameen


Dedicated to Kung Fu BilalKid Scimitar hisnameiszzz

AND all others who are going through hard times,distress and pain.

 
JazakAllahu Khairan for the dua akhi. I hope and pray you are in good health my dear brother. I miss you loads. Killed skype account and youtube account too... had to be done, it was time.

You can find me here brother.
 
He is not behaving as a Muslim if he leaves his homeland and drags his family to a ZOG country. Maybe this is eating him up inside and making him bitter. It would be better for you to go back home to Afghanistan where you belong with kith and kin.
 
Karl said:
He is not behaving as a Muslim if he leaves his homeland and drags his family to a ZOG country. Maybe this is eating him up inside and making him bitter. It would be better for you to go back home to Afghanistan where you belong with kith and kin.
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Yeah, that's not happening. The only Muslim countries, I would ever consider living in is Iran and or Egypt.

Afghanistan is a ****-hole and will remain like that as long as it remains in the geographic area it sits in.
 
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I hope Allah Most High decreases the fitna within your familes and blesses you with unity. AS Brother Kungfu suggested we have no control over who our parents are therefore they are chosen by Allah Most High for us and we should behave with them as Allah Most High wants us to.

Moahammad(SAW) has said that Allah Most High does not show mercy to the one that does not show mercy to others; this was said to a father of 12 who said he didn't kiss any of his children. And unfortunately fathers often times find it hard/awkward to show affection and I believe the sons are know different; there are always to sides to a story :)

What our parents think of us is important, a sincere Dua from a parent for the child is accepted by Allah Most High and it raises one in status higher then any ammount of prayer. So it's more important for them to love us. Also if they feel neglected or victimised by their child it's counted as a major sin especially in their old age so all the more important what they think of us.

Also keep in mind Mohammad(SAW) did not accept the Hijra (one who travels to find Allah Most High or for his sake) of the man that left his parents crying due to his departure; infact Mohammad(SAW) ordered him to go back and make them happy/laugh as he made them cry before coming back to him.

May Allah Most High bless you brothers in your endeavors.
 

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