Staying married

[ardianto]

mashAllah, good advice in this thread. I actually just watched a video regarding this subject. I can't post a link but it is from the Deen show (deenshow.com), click on watch videos, click on topics, click on marriage and divorce, and the name of the video is "Stories of Divorce." (if someone could post the video that could be helpful!)

http://www.thedeenshow.com/videos.php?action=featured&id=1984

 

[.iman.]

^ thank you brother :thumbs_up

 

[Ali_008]

Marriage is treated like a joke these days. As long as the couple love each other and are willing to retain the marriage for any sake, they'll do it. It is true that you can't force anyone into a relationship but a relationship doesn't stay afloat on its own either. It needs understanding, compassion, voluntary acts and compromises. Alhamdulillah, Allah has blessed me with a smart, pious and beautiful wife. We do have our disagreements but our affection for each other remains primary (All thanks to Allah) and hence it never is a burden to be with her.

I am going through a bad phase right now and Alhamdulillah MashAllah she has been so patient about it. It has been on for quite some time now but still she hardly complains.

Incompatibility can be a reason for divorce but a heated argument never can. It only depicts that both the parties have become too selfish to be even bothered about the relationship. :unhappy:

 

[taz...]

As far as what i've seen around me (i'm not married) its a give and take situation. these days, people take take take or give give give.
Its that simple.