I have been married 8 years today, we are one of the only couple still married in our high school class (first time) at first we had everything in common, but as he got older we grew apart on interest and ideas, but as long as we lines cross here and there it works great, were happy a majority of the time, but we work through the bad times, but I could do better and hope to, she puts up with a lot from me.
Hey, hey, I thought I am the only member here who married a high school classmate.
My wife was my classmate in grade 12 in high school. We were coming from two different background, I was from middle class family, and she was from poor family. I remember, when first time I came to her home, I felt compassion to see her her life. He lived in very small house in slum area.
Then we made friendship which I was very close not only with her but also with her family. It was strange because she had a boyfriend, but she and her family were closer to me than to her boyfriend.
Our friendship were very very close. She never doubt to tell me everything, including her complain about her boyfriend who treated her very bad. And some time I bought her clothes or other stuff that she want. I didn't know why, I had a feeling I must always care on her and I must gave her everything that she want. This feeling always made me wonder.
I often visited her home, and sometime I went out with her. Only with her. But there was something that we always avoid, physical contact.
Then we graduated from high school. I registered to a state university, she registered state institute for teacher. Her father told me, that was the only choice. Other universities or institutes were too expensive for him.
But we failed in test. Then I studied in other city, and she stayed at home. But she often sent me letters, and every time I back to my city I always visited her and brought some gifts for her.
Almost a year after I studied in university, I visited her and I saw her in sadness. She wanted to study, but her parent couldn't afford to pay study fee, and her abusive boyfriend didn't care about it. Again, I got a feeling I must care on her and must give what she want. So, I told her parent, I would pay her study fee if she want to study in university. But her parent told me, it's too hard for a student like me to pay study fee. Then she told me she wanted to take one year computer course. I agree. She registered in a computer course and I paid her study fee.
A year later, I started to leave her, and cut my friendship after I proposed a marriage to another girl.
But then destiny happened. That girl left me and married another man. And I married ..... someone who meet again with me. Easy to guess, who.
Now I have been married her for 17 years, now we have two sons, and now I already got an answer why in the past I always had feeling I must care on her, must gave everything that she want. She's a woman who had been chosen by Allah as my wife in the future.
Yes, that's my feeling on her. And this feeling make want to always make her happy, always forgive every mistake that made by her. And made me promise, whatever happen to her I will always love her.
Okay, I know friendship between opposite gender is forbidden, but my friendship with my wife was a friendship that lead to marriage. There's a destiny in it.
