We should remember to make this to everyone whose need help, not only those in our own family.
I sometimes go to talk with disabled people I see on the city, maybe just ask how was your day, do you like to talk a moment. Most of time they are glad that someone comes to talk with them, show to care their feelings - not just walk away.
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Life is a test to all of us, not only if we by accident become disabled but also how human we can to be to the others.
Around 2006 there was a female customer who always came on wheelchair, pushed by a maid because she was too weak to run her wheelchair. She was very skinny woman, with face that showed a suffer of illness. But she still had a spirit of life. She always smile at me when we met.
Yes, I gave her special attention, and special treatment. I did not wait behind the counter when she came. But I always walk up to her and greet her with smile. I always talked with her too. I could feel that she very appreciated it. I could feel a happiness in her smile when she smile at me.
I knew she was suffer from illness, but I also knew that she was suffer from another thing too. She's a woman. I understood, deep in her heart she had a dream to build a family with a man who she loves. But no one who wanted to marry her because her condition.
And suddenly a question appeared in my mind. If I was unmarried and I meet her, would I marry her?. Frankly, I hesitate to say yes although that's only "if". My wife was healthy in that time, and everyone said, she was beautiful.
But then something happened. As you have know, my wife got breast cancer that attacked her bone. In 2012 her condition was becoming worse, and doctor said she would not able to walk again.
Later my wife condition was not different than the customer who I've ever met. She was very skinny and too weak to do something. Her beauty had lost. And her condition was even worse because she had lost her ability to smile although I always smile at her and tried to make her smile. She was always sad and cried.
And I remember the question which ever came into my mind. I realized, I did not marry my customer, but I had a wife who her condition was not different. So, could I still be a husband for her?.
And I answer that question with du'a, wish Allah give me longer time to be her husband, and I promise I would always love her and take care her for the rest of my life. But Allah decided what the best for her. Allah took my wife back to Him.
I am sorry if I always repeat my story again and again. But I will not getting bored to remind the people about love. Love is not rule someone and force her/him to follow what we want. But love is giving what we can give without expecting anything in return.
