The Marriage Thread

[Beardo]

But to get married is not our only purpose in the world so why do muslims make it sound like it is.. no wonder people dont know much about there religion because they make finding a partner there one true goal.

It's a big milestone for one's Imaan though. It shields you against many things.

 

[cat eyes]

It's a big milestone for one's Imaan though. It shields you against many things.

hummm depends who you marry.
there is a shortage of good muslim characters in the world but the prophet (SAW) did say that the person will feel the full sweetness of imaan

Marriages can break down to. i feel that theres no security in any worldly thing brother... trials will still hit a person

the true happiness a person will get really is with Allah

p,s my intention is not to put any one off marriage lol

but remember Allah always because thats where we all will be returning

the heart that dose not remember Allah is dead.

 

[zana]

marriage obsessed i guess lol and wen they are married they want to run away lo, enjoy life while ur single lol

 

[★ηαѕιнα★]

^^ Talk marriage or go shopping with Zana at Primark. Thats how I think of it. ;D;D

But to get married is not our only purpose in the world so why do muslims make it sound like it is.. no wonder people dont know much about there religion because they make finding a partner there one true goal.

Not to be rude or anything sis. But it IS called "Marriage thread". Cant be talking about other stuff can we?
Agree with the dead heart thing btw.

It's a big milestone for one's Imaan though. It shields you against many things.

True. Red a hadith once. Went like this: When you marry you fulfill one half of your deen. After marriage theres only the other half to worry about. Dunno the narrators. Maybe anyone else does?

 

[S<Chowdhury]

How can you gossip about marriage??
Dont see that really.

And do not agree with you bro Muraad and Abdullahi. When you dont overthink it you will risk the chance of doing something without being ready for it. You will not know what you will get yourself into. Like those young couples who fall in love and the next week the are secretly married. What didnt they do: overthink the situation and themselves. So..

I think we all need to find a balance thinking about your future is healthy allows you to plan but if you spend most of your time thinking about one goal then you'll lose touch with reality

 

[Cabdullahi]

hummm depends who you marry.
there is a shortage of good muslim characters in the world but the prophet (SAW) did say that the person will feel the full sweetness of imaan

Marriages can break down to. i feel that theres no security in any worldly thing brother... trials will still hit a person

the true happiness a person will get really is with Allah

p,s my intention is not to put any one off marriage lol

but remember Allah always because thats where we all will be returning

the heart that dose not remember Allah is dead.

You cannot say ''i seriously need to use the bathroom but i'll remember Allah and this worldy thing will disappear'' but in reality you'll still need to use the toilet.

Marriage is the same...you can study religion...you can be an engineer but these achievements won't save you from zina a human being needs somesort of relief from the inner terbulence (especially our brothers)and Allah wants us to get married so remember him!

 

[cat eyes]

aaaaaah blah blaH blah people have more important things to think about then marriage sometimes :S it also puts pressure on others to get married Why is that the only thing muslims can talk about these days is marriage and really this topic is extremely boring:exhausted i want to talk about islam 24/7 and never get bored of it but it seems when people are not busy talking about marriage, there busy talking about there spouse.... *snore*

;D:hiding:

Humm my posts seem to be right on topic

But to get married is not our only purpose in the world so why do muslims make it sound like it is.. no wonder people dont know much about there religion because they make finding a partner there one true goal.

^^ Talk marriage or go shopping with Zana at Primark. Thats how I think of it. ;D;D



Not to be rude or anything sis. But it IS called "Marriage thread". Cant be talking about other stuff can we?
Agree with the dead heart thing btw.

What other stuff am i talking about? im talking about marriage aint i. some of stuff members are talking about has nothing to do with islam at all and i personally think this thread is getting silly now

You can talk about marriage without mocking it:hmm:

 

[cat eyes]

Marriage is a part of islam so when you talk about marriage you are talking about islam.....so it shouldnt be a bore!

i dont really understand you or what your trying to say here, i just think chit chatting about marriage is a waste of ones time

You cannot say ''i seriously need to use the bathroom but i'll remember Allah and this worldy thing will disappear'' but in reality you'll still need to use the toilet.

Marriage is the same...you can study religion...you can be an engineer but these achievements won't save you from zina a human being needs somesort of relief from the inner terbulence (especially our brothers)and Allah wants us to get married so remember him!

of course where did i say other wise:hmm:

 

[Nσσя'υℓ Jαииαн]

^^ Why would it be a waste of time? If you don't talk about it, how would u know anything? lol x

 

[cat eyes]

^^ Why would it be a waste of time? If you don't talk about it, how would u know anything? lol x

maybe sister but you know when the time comes as with everything..when a woman is pregnant, no matter how many mothers are telling her what its like she will only really know when she has her own, its the same with marriage, its different with everyone. so people talk about it so much, they get turned off the idea of marriage altogether and that can happen to.

I guess some people have lots of time to chit chat about it which is a bore for me. :hiding:

 

[S<Chowdhury]

maybe sister but you know when the time comes as with everything..when a woman is pregnant, no matter how many mothers are telling her what its like she will only really know when she has her own, its the same with marriage, its different with everyone. so people talk about it so much, they get turned off the idea of marriage altogether and that can happen to.

I guess some people have lots of time to chit chat about it which is a bore for me. :hiding:

If you find it such a bore then why bother commenting or viewing the thread?

 

[cat eyes]

If you find it such a bore then why bother commenting or viewing the thread?

i will comment on something which is mocked about and joked about and this topic certainly has crossed its limits in terms of joking

 

[S<Chowdhury]

i will comment on something which is mocked about and joked about and this topic certainly has crossed its limits in terms of joking

Fair enough Sis understandable but I'm sorry i haven't seen evidence of where the jokes have crossed the limits?........maybe i just missed them :hmm:

 

[S<Chowdhury]

Re: Advice to Husbands

• Live with them in kindness; even if you dislike them, perhaps you dislike something in which God has place much good. Qur'an [4 : 19]
  
  
  
  
• Jabir Narrated that the Prophet, peace be upon him, gave these instructions in his sermon during Farewell Pilgrimage: "Fear God regarding women; for you have taken them [in marriage] with the trust of God." [Mishkat]
  
  
  
  
• Narrated Aisha, God's messenger said: "Among the believers who show most perfect faith are those who have the best disposition, and are kindest to their families." [Tirmidhi]
  
  
  
  
• Narrated Abu Huraira, God's messenger said: "The believers who show the most perfect faith are those who have the best disposition and the best of you are those who are best to their wives." [Tirmidhi]
  
  
  
• Narrated Al-Aswad: "I asked Aisha, `What did the Prophet, peace be upon him, do at home?' She said, `He used to work for his family and when he heard the call for the prayer, he would go out.'" [Bukhari]
  
  
  
• Narrated Abu Huraira: "Allah's Apostle, peace be upon him, said, `The woman is like a rib; if you try to straighten her, she will break. So if you want to get benefit from her, do so while she still has some bent.'" [Bukhari]
  
  
  
• Narrated Abu Huraira: "The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, `Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should not hurt (trouble) his neighbor. And I advise you to take care of women, for they are created from a rib and the most crooked portion of the rib is its upper part; if you try to straighten it, it will break, and if you leave it, it will reamin crooked, so I urge you to take care of women. [Bukhari]
  
  
  
• Narrated Abdullah bin Amr bin Al-As: "Allah's Apostle, peace be upon him, said, `O Abdullah! Have I not been informed that you fast all the day and stand in prayer all night?' I said, `Yes, O Allah's Apostle!' He said, `Do not do that! Observe the fast sometimes and also leave them at other times; stand up for the prayer at night and also sleep at night. Your body has a right over you and your wife has a right over you.'" [Bukhari]
  
  
  
• Narrated Ibn Umar: "The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, `All of you are guardians and are responsible for your wards. The ruler is a guardian and the man is a guardian of his family; the lady is a guardian who is responsible for her husband's house and his offspring; and so all of you are guardians and are responsible for your wards.'"

 

[aadil77]

i just think chit chatting about marriage is a waste of ones time

It is, unless the posts are beneficial in some way, otherwise a thread containing useless chat is a waste of a time and a source of fitna.

At the moment its not bad

 

[Italianguy]

i dont really understand you or what your trying to say here, i just think chit chatting about marriage is a waste of ones time




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Why is talking about marriage a waste of time? Many of the memebers here are married and can use advise from each other if they happen to be in similar problems. Or even better, they can benifit from anothers post to help guide them even in the good times. Marriage is always a good topic to communicate about....especially for people like myself who are not very good at communicationimsad. I do however understand that there shouldn't be any personal info exchanged between each other, but a sharing of advice. There are allot of young people (myself included;D......HEY! ....I'm still young.) here who don't know the struggles of communication in a marriage, here at least they may be able to get Islamic advice that they may be a little embarassed to talk about with others.:embarrass.

We men need all the help we can get!:embarrass...come on guys...the quicker you admit it....the happier she will be!

God be with you.

 

[S<Chowdhury]

We men need all the help we can get!:embarrass

God be with you.

Speak for yourself Bro LOL i joke yep we men need things to spelt out for us ;D

 

[Salahudeen]

Speak for yourself Bro LOL i joke yep we men need things to spelt out for us ;D

Women never spell it out, you have to use jedi mind powers and read their minds to see what you have done wrong ;D

if you have not reached jedi level yet you can try guessing and reviewing your actions from the perspective of a woman. LOL

 

[Italianguy]

Speak for yourself Bro LOL i joke yep we men need things to spelt out for us ;D

LOL, My wife has a note book for spelling things out for mehew;D;D......good thing I can't read much Tamil;D or she would expect me to understand.

 

[Salahudeen]

LOL, My wife has a note book for spelling things out for mehew;D;D......good thing I can't read much Tamil;D or she would expect me to understand.

You mean she doesn't expect you to be a mind reader and walk around in a strop not telling you why she's upset and expecting you to figure it out?? :hmm: