The Marriage Thread

Hey i've got a question
Say two people are engaged, and one of them pases away, what would happened?
I mean would they be reunited in heaven?
 
UnhappyD: said:
Hey i've got a question
Say two people are engaged, and one of them pases away, what would happened?
I mean would they be reunited in heaven?
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Depends on the engagement. If its SE asian engagement, which is like western engagement, than they are still non-mahrams and have nothing uniting them. IF it is an arab engagement, nikkah already done and waiting to do see-off party, than they are islamically married so inshallah they would be reunited.

Allahu alim.
 
islamirama said:
Depends on the engagement. If its SE asian engagement, which is like western engagement, than they are still non-mahrams and have nothing uniting them. IF it is an arab engagement, nikkah already done and waiting to do see-off party, than they are islamically married so inshallah they would be reunited.

Allahu alim.
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Yea that's what i meant :)
Thanks.. was just curious
 
islamirama said:
Depends on the engagement. If its SE asian engagement, which is like western engagement, than they are still non-mahrams and have nothing uniting them. IF it is an arab engagement, nikkah already done and waiting to do see-off party, than they are islamically married so inshallah they would be reunited.

Allahu alim.
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Technically, if you have the nikah done, aren't you already married - so why (actually how?) would that be considered 'engagement'.
 
GuCcI said:
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Technically, if you have the nikah done, aren't you already married - so why (actually how?) would that be considered 'engagement'.
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Precisely. It's just cultural formality, I suppose.
 
well what if the person who survives marries someone else? whom will they be united with:?
 
why do we even care anyway humans die and wont live forever anyway whether you get to marry them or not right or we lose them for some reasons...

bottom line happiness is with Allah dont depend on humans to make us happy.

marriage is happiness but happiness should start with surrendering to Allah first
 
cat eyes said:
why do we even care anyway humans die and wont live forever anyway whether you get to marry them or not right or we lose them for some reasons...

bottom line happiness is with Allah dont depend on humans to make us happy.

marriage is happiness but happiness should start with surrendering to Allah first
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Barak Allah feek , u are thinking in teh right direction sis may Allah bless u.


But yes to the questioner , the she will be wit hher last husband , if she re marries she will not be with the new husband , waadih? clear?

Barak ALLahu feekum
 
I wish to get married with no ceremony and just the witnesses and some person to recite few verses from Quran and no other expenses. Just to be humble no need for parties for me. Alhamdulilah.
 
^ That's quite a bold statement you made there. what makes you think your potential wife will agree to that? :X
 
^^ Not all women like a fancy in-the-spotlight wedding. Ive seen people have a huge wedding with everything they desire, but after a year of marriage they end up in a divorce. You see..having a huge wedding doesnt help people to be happy with eachother, its not the actual wedding that counts. Its the life you have after the wedding that has to be good. Not the wedding.
How I see it: if you have a humble wedding, you get more blessings from Allah swt and everything goes uphill from there. If you have a huge wedding, you get less blessings from Allah swt and everything goes downhill from there. Its up to the couple to decide which one they want. Choose carefully i would say.
 
if you have a humble wedding, you get more blessings from Allah swt and everything goes uphill from there. If you have a huge wedding, you get less blessings from Allah swt and everything goes downhill from there. Its up to the couple to decide which one they want. Choose carefully i would say
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I wouldn't agree with that.

Having a huge wedding if it is within their means is not a bad thing.

Going beyond their means to have a huge wedding is a problem, however.

Another problem in either of the above two cases lies in the intention, whether it was done for the sake of impressing people or out of happiness.
 
Alpha Dude said:
I wouldn't agree with that.

Having a huge wedding if it is within their means is not a bad thing.

Going beyond their means to have a huge wedding is a problem, however.

Another problem in either of the above two cases lies in the intention, whether it was done for the sake of impressing people or out of happiness.
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The best is to be moderate. Have a ceremony, just don't let it go extravagant. If it is within Islamic law, why should you restrict yourself? Why do you want to be dull on such a joyous moment of your life?

I remember the simplest wedding I've ever been to.. I was on the way to class when the Imam asked me to drop by his house for a couple minutes. So I thought maybe he'd give me some books or something. Instead, he had me sit at the table along with the supposed bride and groom as well as another brother. So basically, there were 5 people in total: Imam, myself, the other brother, bride, and groom.

So basically they said the I do's or whatever, and then the dowry price was named... Which was somewhat funny. The groom was asked about the dowry and he said "1000". Then the bride was like "2000". And then he said "okay, 2000."

And that was it. :hmm:

Iono. I personally don't want to have it that simple.
 
Alpha Dude said:
I wouldn't agree with that.

Having a huge wedding if it is within their means is not a bad thing.

Going beyond their means to have a huge wedding is a problem, however.

Another problem in either of the above two cases lies in the intention, whether it was done for the sake of impressing people or out of happiness.
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some people actually love having big weddings for the sake of being around relatives some families just love that atmosphere of having a big wedding. there is nothing in islam to say you cant have a big wedding its true but there can be alot of danger to inviting hundreds upon hundreds of people also. i dont believe you should put the bride and groom on display so people can give bad eyes to them. it dose happen and i believe that might be the reasons these big marriages dont work out. i just believe in not showing off.. you will attract more bad then good.
 
When I get married, I want it to cost as little as possible because my family don't have much money.
In my wedding, I'll proberly have a civle wedding to make things leagle in the UK and then have a Muslim wedding to make things halal. I'll proberly just invite close family and friends and have a quite after party with the speaches.
 
^^ Same here!:D But what if you have many friends and have a large family..? I say thats a problem cos when you select a small group of people the other group will get heavily offended. Then what?

Alpha Dude said:
Another problem in either of the above two cases lies in the intention, whether it was done for the sake of impressing people or out of happiness.
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Well here your saying somethng interesting. Why do many people equal money to happiness?
Having money and showing off with it isn't a guarentee to happiness you know. I have had many discussions with my sibblings who believe having money increases happiness. And therefore within a marriage money increases happiness. I think money aint the source of happiness but religion and the people who are close to you. Meaning when people close to you arent happy, you arent as well. And when people close to you are happy, you are as well.
 
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