The "Mehndi" / "Thel Mehndi"

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It's impossible for a south asian girl even to interfere in all these matters.If she dose people will think what kind of girl she is?
she don't have modesty?
The only thing we can make dua that we get such proposal is not interested in all these kind of functions

actually you would be suprised, this sort of stuff is getting phased out as the younger generation who are into deen know it has no part in islam. Ive been to a few weddings, where they didnt have any of this sort of stuff.

Re: The "Mehndi" / "Thel Mehndi"
I asked my family to avoid the Mehndi they said no, it's happening and it's going to have music and I'm going to have to sit in front of women whilst the ladies put oil in my hair.

Im not entirely sure why a bloke would have such difficulties with this sort of thing, i know its widely practised pakistani tradition, but no1 really bothers anymore. Isnt it better to give the money to charity ? rather than spend on stupid lavish ceremonies that have nothing to do with islam? thats the argument most use nowadays, and with the older generation believe it or not it actually works. I know their arguments, what will so and so say ? Who cares what people will think ?? we should care about what allah will think, at the end of the day we get questioned about this sort of stuff and our waste of money.

A lot of my friends have just done simple nikkah and reception with a handful of people. You'd be better off saving the money and using it for a deposit on a home.