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I was reading an essay by William Pollack and Todd Shuster the other day in regards to parental divorce. The book stated that 50% of first marriages end in divorce. Being the critical minded person that I am, I double checked the stats on-line, and it truly did range between 45% and 50%. That’s quite a staggering number. Where does divorce root from? Infatuation? Miscommunication?
At any rate, the essay began with two quotes which really leave a lump in your throat, especially coming from these adoloscent children:
“I don’t know why they got divorced. They were a happy couple.”
- Garcia, 12
“I felt like someone had put a undred daggers in my heart. I never before knew what divorce really meant or what went with it…My dad moved out less than a month later.”
- Bruce, 14
The author of this specific essay was 15 years old. He described how this negatively impacted his life. After his parents’ divorce, he did his research on not only the divorce process but also his family divorce history. He stated that on either side of his family, he found absolutely no possible divorces up the chain of ancestors. The boy went on saying how he would come home and realize that if he would ever want to talk to either parent, he would have to go to a different town or perhaps even across the street. Yet, it pained him to know that it was not the next bedroom down the hall. It was not under the same roof.
Divorce itself comes unexpectedly for the most part. It’s a pity to see the rates so painstakingly high. Perhaps it would be beneficial to know the roots of divorce. In my own experience, I noticed that every time the topic of marriage comes up in a class setting, the word divorce just has to be mentioned. The two words have become almost synonymous. Marriage, divorce, marriage, divorce. Yet, the two words have a world of a difference in meaning and connotation. It’s a word that every happy couple fears to mention after the two words (I do) are uttered. Yet, stuff happens.
Do we look down upon the divorcees? I would say yes. Not that we should, because none of us know the true story. We just infer and imagine that behind the couple’s bedroom doors, there must have been a lot of massacre, disaster, and bloodshed. It must be even worse on the divorcees to having stand in public and say that he/she is a divorced person. Though, with these recent staggering divorce rates, I do expect that in the future generations, it’ll become more like a household issue. I’m sure each of us have heard of our own cases. People after 4o or 50 years still getting divorced. You wonder, after decades upon decades of living together, how can you still have misunderstandings? Yet, stuff happens.
It’s not for us to judge because neither of us are immune to it. That’s really the key to remember whenever you judge someone in regards to any aspect. Divorce itself affects the entire family. You have to face the public’s pressing questions. By “you”, I am referring to the immediate relations of the divorcees. “But why did they get divorced?” or “But what really happened?” It’s really something they do not want to talk about, as it only brings back the pitiful memories of your first official and legal love.
But at the end of the day, we are heartless and forgetful people. We still press on these questions and let our curiosity flow at any cost. Even though it won’t affect our lives in any way knowing or unknowing, we only care to have a subject to discuss on the next social gathering. These idle talks lead us to have such selfish behavior. Just leave that which does not concern you and have some sympathy for those who are undergoing trials of their own.
Rashad Abdullah
I was reading an essay by William Pollack and Todd Shuster the other day in regards to parental divorce. The book stated that 50% of first marriages end in divorce. Being the critical minded person that I am, I double checked the stats on-line, and it truly did range between 45% and 50%. That’s quite a staggering number. Where does divorce root from? Infatuation? Miscommunication?
At any rate, the essay began with two quotes which really leave a lump in your throat, especially coming from these adoloscent children:
“I don’t know why they got divorced. They were a happy couple.”
- Garcia, 12
“I felt like someone had put a undred daggers in my heart. I never before knew what divorce really meant or what went with it…My dad moved out less than a month later.”
- Bruce, 14
The author of this specific essay was 15 years old. He described how this negatively impacted his life. After his parents’ divorce, he did his research on not only the divorce process but also his family divorce history. He stated that on either side of his family, he found absolutely no possible divorces up the chain of ancestors. The boy went on saying how he would come home and realize that if he would ever want to talk to either parent, he would have to go to a different town or perhaps even across the street. Yet, it pained him to know that it was not the next bedroom down the hall. It was not under the same roof.
Divorce itself comes unexpectedly for the most part. It’s a pity to see the rates so painstakingly high. Perhaps it would be beneficial to know the roots of divorce. In my own experience, I noticed that every time the topic of marriage comes up in a class setting, the word divorce just has to be mentioned. The two words have become almost synonymous. Marriage, divorce, marriage, divorce. Yet, the two words have a world of a difference in meaning and connotation. It’s a word that every happy couple fears to mention after the two words (I do) are uttered. Yet, stuff happens.
Do we look down upon the divorcees? I would say yes. Not that we should, because none of us know the true story. We just infer and imagine that behind the couple’s bedroom doors, there must have been a lot of massacre, disaster, and bloodshed. It must be even worse on the divorcees to having stand in public and say that he/she is a divorced person. Though, with these recent staggering divorce rates, I do expect that in the future generations, it’ll become more like a household issue. I’m sure each of us have heard of our own cases. People after 4o or 50 years still getting divorced. You wonder, after decades upon decades of living together, how can you still have misunderstandings? Yet, stuff happens.
It’s not for us to judge because neither of us are immune to it. That’s really the key to remember whenever you judge someone in regards to any aspect. Divorce itself affects the entire family. You have to face the public’s pressing questions. By “you”, I am referring to the immediate relations of the divorcees. “But why did they get divorced?” or “But what really happened?” It’s really something they do not want to talk about, as it only brings back the pitiful memories of your first official and legal love.
But at the end of the day, we are heartless and forgetful people. We still press on these questions and let our curiosity flow at any cost. Even though it won’t affect our lives in any way knowing or unknowing, we only care to have a subject to discuss on the next social gathering. These idle talks lead us to have such selfish behavior. Just leave that which does not concern you and have some sympathy for those who are undergoing trials of their own.
Rashad Abdullah
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