Abdul Fattah
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This is an article I wrote a year or two ago, so people who befriended me on facebook already saw this, but since I'm back here now, I thought, why not post it here, 
Part 1
Before I converted to Islam several years ago, one of the profounds thoughts that struck me was; that no one had told me. That my views on Islam were so different from reality. That it is in fact so beautiful, so logically consistent, so amazing. Why had they kept this secret to me up until then? Or perhaps people had tried, but I just wasn't listening before. Or perhaps yet; they simply couldn't reach me since they had no idea just how profoundly off my views were. After converting, I made it my personal mission of telling people what I had found, and how much it had put my world up-side down, and how much I loved it and benefited from it. And doing so has been a very interesting learning-curve so far. It has pushed me to constantly expand the boundaries of my knowledge, to seek answers for all and any question people might have. But the most important thing it has thought me, is something much more profound then this practical knowledge, which I hope to share with you in this article.
When I look around me, to the brothers in the mosque, to the man in the street, to the anonymous on the internetfora and of course to the reflection in the mirror, I see that so often we forget the most crucial ingredient when engaged in da'wah. People of different intellects will approach da'wah differently. Some will attempt to come up with a fit-for-all proof, an infallible truth, that in their minds no honest person can reject. Others will see da'wah more as a skill-set, and a collection of different answers that might resolve any reservations a person might have against Islam. And yet others prefer a defensive position, luring people to argue against Islam, and then refuting their arguments.
These methods will occasionally prove effective, but most of the time they won't. I believe this is because a much more vital ingredient is often overlooked. Whether the da'i developed his method cognitively or intuitively; all these methods are based on the idea that people choose their belief, or their disbelief, based on a rational analysis. But, as frightening as it might seem to admit this to ourselves; this idea is false! As much as we like to think that we believe in Islam because it is logical, consistent, plausible and probable; that simply isn't true. Well, don't get me wrong, I do believe that Islam is logical, consistent, plausible and probable. However, I don't think that these are the reason we believe in it.
But how do we choose then? If not by rational analysis in what sense do we make use of our free will? If you accept Freud's topography of mind, much of the weight in any decision we make comes from the subconscious , a place where feelings such as, pride, desire, shame, guilt, love, fear and so on reside at. But you don't have to take his word for it. Tests show that brainscans can accurately predict which decision a person will make by interpreting the activity monitored in the subconscious. Not only can they predict the decision, they can do so before the test-subject even makes his mind up consciously. In other words, this shows that we have already made a decision before we even realize that we have decided. The conscious rationalization that follows is just trickery. Self-delusion in order to accept what we desire to accept. So clearly, we don't make our choices with our minds but rather with our hearts. And actually; as Muslims, we should know better. After all, don't we believe that Allah subhana wa ta'ala holds the hearts of every person between his fingers and that he can turn it either direction at any time? Don't we believe that if Allah wishes to guide a person, that not even the whole of mankind and djinns together can lead such a person astray? And don't we believe that if Allah lets a person astray, that nobody can guide him to the truth? How can we believe any of these things, and at the same time think that we decide with our minds rather then with our hearts what we believe?
But there is another important issue to be made here. The whole idea of life as a test, responsibility of our actions, and punishment and reward; these concepts all rely on the existence of free will. Without free will, none of it makes sense. So how does it work? If our conscious rationalization is so powerless, free will doesn't do us much good there. If we have free will, then I argue, it must be subconscious. It must lie in which feelings we choose to obey. Do we follow our desire, or our conscience. Our lust, or our shame. Our love or our hate. We are all given destructive and constructive feelings. As Muslims we believe life is a test. But is it to test our mental capacity to rationalize? Did God want to test how smart we are? Or is the test rather, in seeing which feelings we obey? I do believe we choose our religion. But we don't choose it directly. We choose which feelings to obey, and once those parameters are set, belief or disbelief is an inevitable result of that. So our responsibility lies not in our rationalizations, but in how we deal with our feelings, which is scary considering most people seem to be unaware of why they chose to believe. Which feelings led them to it.
And so if there is a universal dawah tool, a one-fit-for-all magical formula, is is not a formula of words.
It is to listen to people, hear their stories, connect to them genuinely and profoundly and try and discover what their emotional reservations against Islam might be. You can't reach people by winning their minds, you have to win their hearts first. And I'm not saying answering questions isn't important. The arguments, the explanations, the analyses; please don't see any of this as a reason to throw that all overboard. I'm merely suggesting that we need to enrich those with the right approach, at the right time and place. That for people to accept our answers and arguments, they first need to trust us. We need not only to be honest; but also to connect with them, to be patient with them, to set an example by living a virtuous life. Only then have you brought an argument on the table that they cannot reject.

Part 1
Before I converted to Islam several years ago, one of the profounds thoughts that struck me was; that no one had told me. That my views on Islam were so different from reality. That it is in fact so beautiful, so logically consistent, so amazing. Why had they kept this secret to me up until then? Or perhaps people had tried, but I just wasn't listening before. Or perhaps yet; they simply couldn't reach me since they had no idea just how profoundly off my views were. After converting, I made it my personal mission of telling people what I had found, and how much it had put my world up-side down, and how much I loved it and benefited from it. And doing so has been a very interesting learning-curve so far. It has pushed me to constantly expand the boundaries of my knowledge, to seek answers for all and any question people might have. But the most important thing it has thought me, is something much more profound then this practical knowledge, which I hope to share with you in this article.
When I look around me, to the brothers in the mosque, to the man in the street, to the anonymous on the internetfora and of course to the reflection in the mirror, I see that so often we forget the most crucial ingredient when engaged in da'wah. People of different intellects will approach da'wah differently. Some will attempt to come up with a fit-for-all proof, an infallible truth, that in their minds no honest person can reject. Others will see da'wah more as a skill-set, and a collection of different answers that might resolve any reservations a person might have against Islam. And yet others prefer a defensive position, luring people to argue against Islam, and then refuting their arguments.
These methods will occasionally prove effective, but most of the time they won't. I believe this is because a much more vital ingredient is often overlooked. Whether the da'i developed his method cognitively or intuitively; all these methods are based on the idea that people choose their belief, or their disbelief, based on a rational analysis. But, as frightening as it might seem to admit this to ourselves; this idea is false! As much as we like to think that we believe in Islam because it is logical, consistent, plausible and probable; that simply isn't true. Well, don't get me wrong, I do believe that Islam is logical, consistent, plausible and probable. However, I don't think that these are the reason we believe in it.
But how do we choose then? If not by rational analysis in what sense do we make use of our free will? If you accept Freud's topography of mind, much of the weight in any decision we make comes from the subconscious , a place where feelings such as, pride, desire, shame, guilt, love, fear and so on reside at. But you don't have to take his word for it. Tests show that brainscans can accurately predict which decision a person will make by interpreting the activity monitored in the subconscious. Not only can they predict the decision, they can do so before the test-subject even makes his mind up consciously. In other words, this shows that we have already made a decision before we even realize that we have decided. The conscious rationalization that follows is just trickery. Self-delusion in order to accept what we desire to accept. So clearly, we don't make our choices with our minds but rather with our hearts. And actually; as Muslims, we should know better. After all, don't we believe that Allah subhana wa ta'ala holds the hearts of every person between his fingers and that he can turn it either direction at any time? Don't we believe that if Allah wishes to guide a person, that not even the whole of mankind and djinns together can lead such a person astray? And don't we believe that if Allah lets a person astray, that nobody can guide him to the truth? How can we believe any of these things, and at the same time think that we decide with our minds rather then with our hearts what we believe?
But there is another important issue to be made here. The whole idea of life as a test, responsibility of our actions, and punishment and reward; these concepts all rely on the existence of free will. Without free will, none of it makes sense. So how does it work? If our conscious rationalization is so powerless, free will doesn't do us much good there. If we have free will, then I argue, it must be subconscious. It must lie in which feelings we choose to obey. Do we follow our desire, or our conscience. Our lust, or our shame. Our love or our hate. We are all given destructive and constructive feelings. As Muslims we believe life is a test. But is it to test our mental capacity to rationalize? Did God want to test how smart we are? Or is the test rather, in seeing which feelings we obey? I do believe we choose our religion. But we don't choose it directly. We choose which feelings to obey, and once those parameters are set, belief or disbelief is an inevitable result of that. So our responsibility lies not in our rationalizations, but in how we deal with our feelings, which is scary considering most people seem to be unaware of why they chose to believe. Which feelings led them to it.
And so if there is a universal dawah tool, a one-fit-for-all magical formula, is is not a formula of words.
It is to listen to people, hear their stories, connect to them genuinely and profoundly and try and discover what their emotional reservations against Islam might be. You can't reach people by winning their minds, you have to win their hearts first. And I'm not saying answering questions isn't important. The arguments, the explanations, the analyses; please don't see any of this as a reason to throw that all overboard. I'm merely suggesting that we need to enrich those with the right approach, at the right time and place. That for people to accept our answers and arguments, they first need to trust us. We need not only to be honest; but also to connect with them, to be patient with them, to set an example by living a virtuous life. Only then have you brought an argument on the table that they cannot reject.