The "SECRET" Of Happy Married Life :D

Plz Answer Me said:
What??? Explain a bit more. :skeleton:
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What I meant was that life is not all about sex. Ofc, one could go for just the looks, but as the prophet Muhammad (saws) mentioned, the deen is more important.
 
"A woman is married for four reasons, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her piety. So you should marry the pious woman otherwise you will be losers."

Narrated by Abu Huraira, in Sahih al-Bukhari & Muslim (Book 62:27, Marriage) (translation)
 
Snel said:
What I meant was that life is not all about sex. Ofc, one could go for just the looks, but as the prophet Muhammad (saws) mentioned, the deen is more important.
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Okay but you brothers need to understand first. ;D
 
[h=2]The "SECRET" Of Happy Married Life :D[/h]
Happy marriage life is not impossible if a husband do all house hold chores
Mop the floor
Mend the clothes
Wash the dishes
Cook the food
and serve it to his wife :)
 
Plz Answer Me said:
Some says having a successful marriage is impossible. But I think it is possible.
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Success is not something that happen automatically. But this is the result of an effort. If a student want to graduate with high scores, he must try to study as good as he can. If a farmer want to get good harvest, he must try to farm as good as he can.

And if you want to get a happy married life, so you must try to build a married life where you and your husband feel comfortable in it. You can learn how to build a happy marriage since now. And then start a marriage with intention to build a marriage that sakinah, mawadah, wa rahmah

Sakinah. The husband and wife feel secure and comfortable with their spouse and with the marriage itself.

Mawadah. Husband and wife love each other, have special feeling to each other, and always want to feel a togetherness.

Rahmah. Husband and wife care to each other and have a feeling "his/her happiness is my happiness too".

Yes, build a happy married life is not impossible. Every couple can build happy married life if they have intention for it and always try to do their best effort.

:)
 
glo said:

Amen to that, ardianto.

Mutual respect, care for each other and willingness to try to understand each other are necessary.
Also an appreciation for what the other person contributes to the relationship. And the ability to forgive and move on.
And the constant prayer for God's protection and guidance and blessing.
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One thing that made me grateful is easiness to get friends. I have many friends, some of them are very close to me.

Marriage is different than male and male friendship, of course. But actually there is a similarity in these two things, human and human relationship. I have learned much about mutual respect, care and understand each other, in my close friendship with male friends.

Men are different than women, of course. But I also have learned much about women nature through noticing my sisters and my friend sisters.

glo said:
Ardianto, your marriage must have been very precious. I hope and pray that you have been okay this Ramadan and will be this Eid.
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I'm okay, Alhamdulillah. Thanks, Glo. :)

WRITER said:
the secret of a happy married life is empathy. if you're lucky to marry empathetic spouse then you'll have no problems.
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Yes, it's true.
 
sister herb said:
Salam alaykum

My dear brother Ardianto

May Allah show to you new wife one day. As good as your last one was.

:thankyou:
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Wa'alaikumsalam

Honestly, in my wife's last days she told me several time that she didn't mind if I get married again after she has 'gone'. But currently I don't want to thinking about it. Now I just want to focus to take care my children.

I'm a widower with children. The main condition if a woman want to marry me is she should able to accept my children, and my children do not mind to accept her as their mother.
 
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Hard this!

I just looked for someone compatible with me. Must have certain qualities that can compliment me and not be at odds. If we a re poles apart (apart from faith) it could not work in the long run.

I have listed down certain qualities I would look for in another thread (I think - about Ideal Wife) which I put down for me personally, might not be for anyone else. Of course belief in Islam is priority, but I have not listed that as it is already a prerequisite. But the list is about the person's qualities additional to religion.

Peace to all marriages :D
 

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