The Wife, The Husband, and The Mother In Law

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Cabdullahi said:
^ but many men who are perfect..well..in the eyes of their mothers
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... and the mothers would be angry if they know their daughters-in-law see their sons as imperfect persons.

Young bro, the "war" between mother and wife is the classical problem of husband. You will feel it after you get married.
 
The thread has three images with what I think is a self-explanatory message. The OP may have intended it primarily toward males but I think it applies just as much to each party and all three of son, wife and mother can take a simple lesson from it.

Women either in the capacity of wife or mother may get jealous and end up resorting to manipulation of the husband/son in order to take him away from the other. So, that's something the sisters here can be vigilant against.

Men should be just and not take one side over the other and be vigilant against manipulation. I don't think it's true that no man would abandon his mother over his wife. This can and does happen. For example when a wife has poisoned the husband's mind, it can happen all too easily.
 
'Abd-al Latif said:
I know that already but it's not entirely clear who this message is aimed at.

I'm a man and I can honestly tell you it does not relate to the man, at least not alone.
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I agree it doesn't relate to the man alone, but he does play a huge part, after all he is the man of the house. If he is wise, a lot of conflict can be avoided.
 
assalam o alikum
it is our duty to realize the importance of both mother and wife... if a man give too much importance to his mother, then it is not good... our beloved Nabi s,a,w,w never did such things so we should follow his foot steps
 
CosmicPathos said:
show me one wife who has done that without any complaint.
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There are A LOT of women out there who would HAPPILY do all of those things, if not more. You want to know the "science" behind having a woman who would do anything for you? Respect her. Tell her how much you love her. In most cases, that's more than enough, trust me I'm a woman. Women are the best carers, seriously. As mothers, wives, sisters & daughters. Remember your mum was even a wife once too.


It's just men don't respect/show women their respect for them. Men need to express themselves more - it helps the communication gap decrease (communication is the key to ANY relationship). If your wife doesn't know how much you love her (whether you even do or not), the relationships become "boring" & serves more as a social/religious duty than an optional way of life. And the best family life is never where people are simply "living together". It's where they wouldn't have it any other way. :) :statisfie


Personally, I think it's up to a guy to keep both relations in place - make both feel loved & don't let them talk bad about each other. The thing is a lot of old women do get jealous, and a lot of young wives don't know how to deal with old people. Communication is the key (responsibility of all parties involved). If the son lets his mum know how much he loves her (especially after his marriage), I think there are less chances she'll feel intimidated of the new wife "stealing" her son away (and vice versa). I think the end (3rd) pic wins :shade:

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Asalamu Alaykum
^ Couldn't of said it better,
As a wife, and a Muslimah in general. You have to be open minded despite not appreciating the behavior of your mother in law.
Attempt to forgive her, or leave her to Allah. Everyone has to answer to him on the day of judgment. Until then, if the mother in law is causing you trouble, be the better person and treat her as your own mother. And never place her actions on your husbands shoulder's. Dont put him in that confusing and awkward position. It took me awhile to understand and apply those principles, but they're well worth it fi duniya wal aqira.
May Allah grant us patience.
Asalamu Alaykum
 
oh God this is the major Problem in our traditional families. I think nothing have solution of this issue...
 

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