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First time I've posted on forum I feel I will gain from this
I'm 30 year old Pakistani Muslim living in the uk
Many years ago I had arrange marriage which I didn't really want I had to.
I tried make it work but we are two different people never going to work. Stuck at it as no alternative as I was very close to my mum if I left my husband I would of had leave my mother as my brother would of banned me from family home. Alhumdulliah blessed with daughter things looking up. Always was that little voice saying your not happy. Me and my husband of that time split up then my dear mother passed away the love of my life was no more I struggled I still am to this day.
Then day by day I started to re bell stopped listening to family to my husband then I met a guy and I started to have an affair he was everything I wanted he also had son from pervious relationship so me and my daughter him n his son started to meet we were just perfect picture. This person I was with was already on final warning at work then he didn't turn up they sacked him I then started to give him money he would chill buy designer clothes go out he smokes weed I loved him I carried on by this point me and husband got divorced he moved out.
i went further into the relationship I met his family everything marriage was on cards
I was very happy my daughter was happy
then I found out he was texting his ex then I found he's texting girl from Manchester then I found out he went to his ex work place. I would always find out even tho we didn't live same city I would always find out wat he's done
then he promised he wouldn't do it again I forgive him
i fell pregnant we then got married
tried get him back into work he wouldn't stay I was going bk fwd to my home town due to work so couldn't really stay that much everything I earned give him let go of myself stopped paying bills mortgages I got into more debt. On day of my nikkah after my nikkah was done he called me took 100 pound hakmer off me give it his dad so he can pay rest of airline ticket I thought nothing of it then he said when will you give my dad money so he can buy car in Pakistan as he had promised him failed to give I didn't know wat to say so I said when my house sells his sister asked me for loan 15 thousand again said when my house sells. By then I'm in debt I lied and lied pushing dates then lying all cause I didn't have this money couldn't say no
by this point life was hell he was beating me cheating on me taking all my money swearing at my dead mother everything. I started to bleed lost baby I didn't tell anyone as he said only married me cuz was pregnant so I prentended still pregnant
his is mother this point had enough decides to join his dad in Pakistan
i eventually moved in got job in same city hitting got worse always about money money money.
eventually I left come bk to my home town but we still remained contact still give him money his family found out lying about money lies I told they all hate me I understand
this point he starts get in touch English women which was his sons uncles ex wife both father n son start spending time there I found out he assured me she was only family by then his sister asked him to move out n leave did give him option live at other sisters house until he got council accommodation but he instead decides to move in with English women this point still giving money I did give option he moved in with me he wouldn't.
Ramadan started he Kept no fast still smoking weed still at English women house she would look after his son he would go out I was still giving money brought him n his son 700 pound eid clothes yet me n my daughter had nothing
night before eid he comes to my house I picked him up I told him wasn't pregnant now he thinks never was then he wanted more interested in wat money he was getting for eid kept demanding I showed him how much I had got I had no money he beat me this time pushed my daughter to the ground previously he pulled my daughters hair. I saw text msgs between him n English women wear declaring love for each other I rang her she wouldn't tell he rang her said have I ever touched u etc she said no evidence clear on his phn plus he had love bite
Long story short he took last 125 pound I had he hit me my child he then he drove my car 40 miles to his home town writes dirty slag on my car buys food stands on English women's road says my life is with her now I said plz eid tomorrow got no money how will I feed my child he give my daughter two pound. He mentioned she's getting so,e claim money 20k car accident 4 whip lash claims
he has told me he hates me and that I lied that his sister looking fwd to my baby as she had lost her own he's told me stay away
he hasn't mentioned divorce nothing
I've lost everything money job house had declare self bankrupt I give him everything
i know now I should not of lied everyone says to me not my fault why do I hurt why can't I hate him
sit around all day to see if he calls he has not
he is contacting his ex trying get bk with her she doesn't want to know
hes texting his cousin wife his cousin jail previously he spread rumour slept with his cousin wife he was trying say he didn't say that he wudnt disrespect her
all through our relationship been begging his ex bk has even said he would divorce me for her
he hw calls me tramp I'm ugly he's Better I can Neva be women
please be honest I feel this all my fault he won't come bk
my car has dirty slag written all over it
wait around checking my phn for him call he don't I've tried he said it's over he swears
plz help me
I love him
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I forgot to mention his car was on fianance I struggled to pay money was drying up the car was going into repossession but he got stopped by police and car now in police impound give him money twice but he didn't get out now bill 1100
he blames me for the car for living his job for losing his parents house blames me everything all lies everything
First time I've posted on forum I feel I will gain from this
I'm 30 year old Pakistani Muslim living in the uk
Many years ago I had arrange marriage which I didn't really want I had to.
I tried make it work but we are two different people never going to work. Stuck at it as no alternative as I was very close to my mum if I left my husband I would of had leave my mother as my brother would of banned me from family home. Alhumdulliah blessed with daughter things looking up. Always was that little voice saying your not happy. Me and my husband of that time split up then my dear mother passed away the love of my life was no more I struggled I still am to this day.
Then day by day I started to re bell stopped listening to family to my husband then I met a guy and I started to have an affair he was everything I wanted he also had son from pervious relationship so me and my daughter him n his son started to meet we were just perfect picture. This person I was with was already on final warning at work then he didn't turn up they sacked him I then started to give him money he would chill buy designer clothes go out he smokes weed I loved him I carried on by this point me and husband got divorced he moved out.
i went further into the relationship I met his family everything marriage was on cards
I was very happy my daughter was happy
then I found out he was texting his ex then I found he's texting girl from Manchester then I found out he went to his ex work place. I would always find out even tho we didn't live same city I would always find out wat he's done
then he promised he wouldn't do it again I forgive him
i fell pregnant we then got married
tried get him back into work he wouldn't stay I was going bk fwd to my home town due to work so couldn't really stay that much everything I earned give him let go of myself stopped paying bills mortgages I got into more debt. On day of my nikkah after my nikkah was done he called me took 100 pound hakmer off me give it his dad so he can pay rest of airline ticket I thought nothing of it then he said when will you give my dad money so he can buy car in Pakistan as he had promised him failed to give I didn't know wat to say so I said when my house sells his sister asked me for loan 15 thousand again said when my house sells. By then I'm in debt I lied and lied pushing dates then lying all cause I didn't have this money couldn't say no
by this point life was hell he was beating me cheating on me taking all my money swearing at my dead mother everything. I started to bleed lost baby I didn't tell anyone as he said only married me cuz was pregnant so I prentended still pregnant
his is mother this point had enough decides to join his dad in Pakistan
i eventually moved in got job in same city hitting got worse always about money money money.
eventually I left come bk to my home town but we still remained contact still give him money his family found out lying about money lies I told they all hate me I understand
this point he starts get in touch English women which was his sons uncles ex wife both father n son start spending time there I found out he assured me she was only family by then his sister asked him to move out n leave did give him option live at other sisters house until he got council accommodation but he instead decides to move in with English women this point still giving money I did give option he moved in with me he wouldn't.
Ramadan started he Kept no fast still smoking weed still at English women house she would look after his son he would go out I was still giving money brought him n his son 700 pound eid clothes yet me n my daughter had nothing
night before eid he comes to my house I picked him up I told him wasn't pregnant now he thinks never was then he wanted more interested in wat money he was getting for eid kept demanding I showed him how much I had got I had no money he beat me this time pushed my daughter to the ground previously he pulled my daughters hair. I saw text msgs between him n English women wear declaring love for each other I rang her she wouldn't tell he rang her said have I ever touched u etc she said no evidence clear on his phn plus he had love bite
Long story short he took last 125 pound I had he hit me my child he then he drove my car 40 miles to his home town writes dirty slag on my car buys food stands on English women's road says my life is with her now I said plz eid tomorrow got no money how will I feed my child he give my daughter two pound. He mentioned she's getting so,e claim money 20k car accident 4 whip lash claims
he has told me he hates me and that I lied that his sister looking fwd to my baby as she had lost her own he's told me stay away
he hasn't mentioned divorce nothing
I've lost everything money job house had declare self bankrupt I give him everything
i know now I should not of lied everyone says to me not my fault why do I hurt why can't I hate him
sit around all day to see if he calls he has not
he is contacting his ex trying get bk with her she doesn't want to know
hes texting his cousin wife his cousin jail previously he spread rumour slept with his cousin wife he was trying say he didn't say that he wudnt disrespect her
all through our relationship been begging his ex bk has even said he would divorce me for her
he hw calls me tramp I'm ugly he's Better I can Neva be women
please be honest I feel this all my fault he won't come bk
my car has dirty slag written all over it
wait around checking my phn for him call he don't I've tried he said it's over he swears
plz help me
I love him
- - - Updated - - -
I forgot to mention his car was on fianance I struggled to pay money was drying up the car was going into repossession but he got stopped by police and car now in police impound give him money twice but he didn't get out now bill 1100
he blames me for the car for living his job for losing his parents house blames me everything all lies everything
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