to date or not to date

[aadil77]

I can relate brother. I really can!

You gotta fast man. It is Monday and I am fasting today for exactly what you are talking about.

I like you brother! You keep it real man.

May Allah grant us both pious wives!

If the brother is able to marry then he doesn't have to fast he just get married. Marriage isn't just about having kids, you can plan that stuff later on.

Narrated 'Alqama: While I was walking with 'Abdullah he said, "We were in the company of the Prophet and he said, 'He who can afford to marry should marry, because it will help him refrain from looking at other women, and save his private parts from looking at other women, and save his private parts from committing illegal sexual relation; and he who cannot afford to marry is advised to fast, as fasting will diminish his sexual power." Bukhari Fasting [31:129]

 

[Banu_Hashim]

i do understand sis but i want a beautiful wife aswell:smile:

Salaam Bro,

You have every right to marry someone who you are attracted to; no point marrying someone if you're not.

But, just remember, beauty fades eventually... We all need someone who we're gonna be happy and pious with and be together with, in the hereafter... inshAllah. Let us know how your wedding goes! (if it happens soon)

And I completely agree with what br. Khalil_Allah said.

 

[amna_mirza]

'to date or not to date' should should not even be a question. If you think you can find a suitable wife by though dating then you are wrong. You really do not want to start off you married life on the wrong foot step.

 

[Nσσя'υℓ Jαииαн]

Sis have u read the thread? He's not saying he wants to date but the halal way to find a sister ....I'd say the title is a bit misleading.... :/

 

[Ansariyah]

Be patient...Allah will reward u Bigggg! InshaAllah. Imagine a wife u can date forever!: )

 

[ragdollcat1982]

from my own experinece I feel that dating is dehumanizing and degrading. You are judged on your outward appearance and many feel compelled to put on an act and not really be themselves.

 

[Yanal]

There is no way to meet strange women for any reason but looking for marriage to be halal but what's your purpose for this?