to marry or not to marry...

[ژاله]

right now alhamdulilah Allah gave us everything we need, but imagine wat if god forbid we get into an accident, loose legs, hands, n Allah took it all. Or soemthing else happens, wud we want someone to love us, be wit us, marry us? We all know the answer...

Talk is Cheap!

well said yanoorah!

 

[The Ruler]

queen grimhilde's ego is on song today

And I don't see how that relates to my post. But thank you for letting me know?

 

[Snowflake]

Well, when I was younger I was actually seeking a brother with physical disabilities. I really wanted to make a difference to someone's life and prove to them that being disabled doesn't mean they don't deserve to be loved etc. I never found one

But that was then. Now my answer would be 'no'. (Unless it was someone I'd already planned to marry and something happened to him.)

 

[Tony]

Anyone who is married has married someone with abilities and non abilities, the question is really Do you veiw people with a disability as your equals ? Now with this in mind reconsider your responses and see if you answer the same. A very good thread and I am impressed by the answers, May Allah releive the suffering to people and families affected by disabilities, Ameen

 

[dovelove]

:hmm: over 300 veiws and under 30 post / votes... :embarrass

@ Tony

Reconsidered and me thinks of course they are my equals, we are all equal as humans the only thing one has over another is piety. Obviously other factors would need to be taken into consideration such as good character, religiousness, compatible personalities and attractiveness, but these do not rule out someone in a wheelchair, with a limp, or with cruthes or artifical limbs, cos we are meant to go for the religious ones anyways, and everything else is a bonus. Yes I guess being married to disabled mite be hard to cope with sometimes or always, but inshAllah there will be plenty reward each day, patience and caring for the sick.

Imagine one day the healthy people turn sick and the sick people turn healthy.. we never know whats the round the corner and something may seem hard but there be alot of blessing in it, so I would trust in Allah, cos Allah knows best

@ the Ruler and the other 300 and odd that no post or vote but view :hiding:

Hey why dont you use anonymous poster so we can see what you all really think?

 

[GuestFellow]

Ah well if she is a good Muslim...then that is all that really matters to me.

 

[Mr.President]

if shes amazing why not


if shes bad in religion of course not




the disability has nothing to do with out, deen/personality - thats all that matters

I with u agree bro !!!

 

[InToTheRain]

I voted yes, if her Attitude towards Islam and her personality makes up for it why not?

It's a really broad question in the first place, results probably be same if you asked "would you marry non-disabled person with bad breath?" ?

 

[Woodrow]

As I am considered to be be 100% disabled I am very pleased that my wife and deceased wives were willing to marry a disabled person. When I was first injured and lost the use of my arms and legs for about a year I gained some insight into what it is meant to be disabled. As I was forced to spend a length of time as an observer of life and not as an active participant I became aware that all humans are disabled in one form or another. Everybody has physical and/or mental disabilities. The problem is not the disability, but how the individual lives with it.

A person aware of his/her disabilities can often achieve much more then those who mistakenly believe they have no disability. It is a severe disability for a person to believe he/she is not disabled.

 

[Hayaa]

A person aware of his/her disabilities can often achieve much more then those who mistakenly believe they have no disability. It is a severe disability for a person to believe he/she is not disabled.

SubhanAllah, beautifully said. I've read several articles and watched videos of people with severe handicaps who have made so much out of their lives and even strive to positively influence others. Why is it that when they can be so optimistic despite being born with disabilities, we (myself, mostly) are so ungrateful and impatient?

 

[cat eyes]

i would marry a disabled person if he looked like colin farrel or johnny depp like he'd have to be good looking thats being honest now

 

[Ayesha_Hanif]

persnality has alwaysed mattered to e and if i knew the man and he was a good muslim and a good person then why not. and tick the right boxes for me. then i would but am already married. and if my hubby was disabale before we got married and i knew him like he is now then i would have still married him.

 

[cat eyes]

persnality has alwaysed mattered to e and if i knew the man and he was a good muslim and a good person then why not. and tick the right boxes for me. then i would but am already married. and if my hubby was disabale before we got married and i knew him like he is now then i would have still married him.

yes i 100percent agree with you that you can fall in love with a persons heart once you get to know them your post was so sweet

 

[Raphael]

A person aware of his/her disabilities can often achieve much more then those who mistakenly believe they have no disability. It is a severe disability for a person to believe he/she is not disabled.

That blew me away!

 

[Woodrow]

That blew me away!

It is a fact, virtually every person has at least one disability. The most handicapped people I know are not even aware they are disabled. Once a person becomes aware of his disabilities, he can keep them from being a handicap keeping him from achieving his full potential.

Years ago when I worked as a Vocational Rehabilitation Counselor. I soon discovered that many severally disabled people are not handicapped and live full productive lives. I also learned that a physical disability, or emotional disability or both can be found in any person who is thoroughly evaluated.

Many states do prefer to hire people with recognized disabilities as Vocational Rehabilitation Counselors. Louisiana was one of them. We were Assigned case loads and worked with people we had similar disabilities as. For example all of the Counselors for blind people were blind. although I only worked as a VR Counselor during the interim periods I did not have any research projects I managed to get in about 5 years of work experience and became quite adept at identifying disabilities in people even when they were not aware of them. I have yet to met a person, I can not identify at least one disability the person has, even if they are unaware of it. The only person who would not have any disabilities would be the perfect person, I do not believe such a person exists in today's world.

 

[zakirs]

I do not believe such a person exists in today's world.

yes exaclty , 1500 years ago though such a blessed man walked on this earth. (peace be upon him)

 

[Musaafirah]

Don't know.
When I get a proposal I take into account all their merits and shortfalls.
But, yeah, as mentioned, it's easy saying yes on the forum. But if it's a disability which severely restricts their movements then, I don't know.

 

[catalzzy]

i could marry a disabled person, since i was infected by the virus when i was in my mother's womb and i became deaf. Alhumdiliah, its great tho... cos its easy to sleep in noisy places but when it comes to thinking that, as if i would marry a hearing person, she would have gotten herself worried tht i could have a deaf children because of his deafness. so, in my opinion, Allah Taala can create anything so therefore, if 2 deaf couples have a hearing child. so yeah, i think people nowdays are discrimiating and judging by their outer side and forgetting what Allah can possibly create anything.

 

[Woodrow]

i could marry a disabled person, since i was infected by the virus when i was in my mother's womb and i became deaf. Alhumdiliah, its great tho... cos its easy to sleep in noisy places but when it comes to thinking that, as if i would marry a hearing person, she would have gotten herself worried tht i could have a deaf children because of his deafness. so, in my opinion, Allah Taala can create anything so therefore, if 2 deaf couples have a hearing child. so yeah, i think people nowdays are discrimiating and judging by their outer side and forgetting what Allah can possibly create anything.

Although my hearing has now been restored. When I lost my hearing I saw it as a blessing. I often feel more disabled since it has been restored. Deafness when appreciated can be a great gift.

 

[mammyluty]

for those who say no marrying a dissabled it culd b a test from Allah that u marry a normal human n then later in life he or she gets runned down by a car whch ends up in a wheel chair!r u going to divorce the wife or ask the husband to divorce u!?