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I'm sorry just bump my thread but I wanted to ask question bout sinning I wanted ask in another thread but as I can't post there I just put here sorry...as some u guys know I have to sell wine, if it's not my fault and I have no choice do I still repent? If I repent and keep doing it will Allah forgive?
 
I don't really remember sis, do you mean like you're a cashier at a grocery store?
 
marina-hadeya said:
I'm sorry just bump my thread but I wanted to ask question bout sinning I wanted ask in another thread but as I can't post there I just put here sorry...as some u guys know I have to sell wine, if it's not my fault and I have no choice do I still repent? If I repent and keep doing it will Allah forgive?
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It is prohibited and sinful to buy or sell wine. You should try your best to find another job. If your financial situation does not allow you to leave this job immediately then you should actively seek another job and leave the current one as soon as you are able to. Allah does not place a burden on a soul more than it can bear.

Make a sincere intention in your heart to seek permissible income to please Allah and do your best from your own efforts to achieve this, and inshaa'Allah Allah will make a way out for you. In the meantime you should seek repentance during, and even after, you leave this occupation. Allah's forgiveness is far more vast and encompassing than you and I can imagine, so do not ever lose hope in his forgiveness or think that your sin is far too big to be forgiven. Allah forgives all sins and this is easy for him. It is in fact a sign of good-will from Allah that He guides you to repent to Him, so seek it and be sincere and continuous in it.
 
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Okay good thank you,yes I keep loOking for jobs but nothing is working out...yes it's sort of like 99p shop lots of cheap stuff...yea I'm cashier...hopefuLLy I'll find a good halal job soon
 
Inshallah Ukhtee, how about home based job or online selling or stuff like that?

You must keep yourself busy so you dont end up being bored and thinking nonsense, we women should not left unoccupied for long time as we worries too much for nothing looool

By the way the friend I have is non Muslim, she is Christian, alhamdollellah she dont have bad influence in me, all good yaniii lol
May Allah give you patience and happiness within
 
marina-hadeya said:
Okay good thank you,yes I keep loOking for jobs but nothing is working out...yes it's sort of like 99p shop lots of cheap stuff...yea I'm cashier...hopefuLLy I'll find a good halal job soon
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Start taking out charity from your money as much as you can,This can't make your money Halaal or Can Never turn anything Haraam into Halaal.But since you are not selling wine deliberately and you are sincere in leaving the Job,The Sadaqah will helps you and your family from the afflictions that Haraam came with..And Allah Knows Best

Rest of my opinion is the same as Brother Abd-Al Latif

Assalamo Alaikum
 
Sis Marina Hadeya,

I agree also with bro Abd'al Latif. But fear not. This is a test. You clearly want to increase in your good deeds, so you have the right intention. Allah will find a way for you, so start looking for more jobs :)

Also, there are plenty of other things you can do sis, in your spare time I mean.

How about taking up a hobby that may fruit for you so you can make money from it? Like pottery, or painting, custom wedding cards, exotic jewellery making (beads and trinkets) - that sort of thing. Nearly all of my friends who I grew up with, their wives have their own small businesses (similar to those mentioned above) which they started from a hobby... Options are good...

... Or, how about taking up Arabic calligraphy - then having a go at painting on canvas. A long term project that you can be happy of, something that can display in the home and be a focal point for conversation when guests come over :)

I don't know :) there are many options, Find something that suits you. You will really like it.

Actually, some may even commission pieces from you, insha-Allah.

Scimi
 
I just remembered something from one of the lectures I watched/listened to online.. I don't quite remember from who(maybe Sh. Hamza) but anyways it was about repeating a sin over and over again. Over time our heart might be numbed by such an act, meaning it doesn't affect us as much as it should. Like you won't feel uncomfortable by it despite it being wrong. Sort of like how them Kickboxers would hours kicking trees until they numb their shins, they do that so that they can use their shins as a weapon and not feel pain.

Of course that isn't to say that if we sin we shouldn't bother repenting, it just means that we have to be careful when things like sinning repeatedly happens.

Also I know it's easy for us to tell you to stop working and find another job, it's not like we are aware of how your current situation is. I've heard stories about muslim air stewardesses having to serve alcohol and it makes them uncomfortable too. Well I do hope you manage to work things out :) Listening ears(reading eyes?) are always here inshaAllah.
 
thank you brothers yea i feel it like weighing on my heart..i dont really like get up in morning cos i know ill have to sell wine...maybe a hobbie would be good to get my mind off it..i always say Astagfirullah when ever i touch it, when get home always do two raka for forgiveness tubar?(sorry i dont know hw to spell it....)
 
Assalamu alaykum

In the name of Allah, the Inspirer of truth.

In this time and age it is a luxury to find people who prefer to follow the path of Allah and spiritual progress and protect their honor and faith rather than advance in worldly careers. Allah has obliged children to be obedient to their parents. However, this is as far as the rights of Allah are not violated.

A woman is not responsible to earn; for Allah has placed this responsibility upon the father until she is in his home, thereafter, upon her husband when she marries. Hence, technically speaking there is no obligation upon you to earn in view of the Shari'ah, unless it is an absolute critical situation where only you can be depended upon for the family to survive.

Having said this, since your parents are in trouble, you may try to help them to the best of your ability without compromising your religion, spirituality, and honor. This can be achieved through online or home based work. You may even consider a job where inter-gender mixing can be avoided, as long as you feel you will not lead to degeneration in your din. Working in a mixed setting often leads to compromising a Muslim women's honor and other Islamic virtues and principles, hence as far as possible needs to be avoided. So find some work if you have to where you can preserve your state of iman and be able to contribute.

The following du'a has been considered beneficial for the circumstance your family is undergoing. It should be recited by yourself and your parents:

(35) When one is frustrated about payment of debt,

اَللّهُمَّ اكْفِنِيْ بِحَلاَلِكَ عَنْ حَرَامِكَ ، وَأَغْنِـنِيْ بِفَضْلِكَ عَمَّنْ سِوَاكَ.[1][1] [1]
[1]All�hummakfin� bihal�lika 'an har�mika wa aghnin� bifadlika 'amman siw�k.

O All�h, suffice me with lawful livelihood adequate to my needs instead of ill-gotten livelihood, and graciously grant me freedom from needing anything from anyone besides Yourself.

Note: Whoever recites this du'�, All�h will assist him in repaying his debt even though it may be the size of Mount Sabir (A mountain in Yemen).

May Allah strengthen your iman and resolve to follow His path, and deliver your family from this compromising situation.

Wassalam

Abdurrahman ibn Yusuf


taken from sunnipath
 

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