UGH!!!!!!! Nice Guys Finish Last

[Dahir]

I'm laughing but we should cut down on the insults.

I'm sorry, but I'm a sucker for jabs, I always throw in a good joke when I see a good opportunity, sorry mlsh27, its just how I am.

I never said I hated you, but I do think you are a jerk/too sarcastic by your posts.

I'm a part-time aspiring comedian-wannabe on the side.

 

[Safa]

You don't seem like the nice guy, judging from that little scenario there but then again I'm in no position to judge.

Nice guys do have a place in society, it's just not in the eyes of the majority.

There's always someone out there who'll respect you for who you are but you won't know it yourself.

Like someone earlier said, it's the bad guys that everyone admires for whatever attribute but that doesn't mean the nice guys fall behind, they'll have their moments of popularity/fame I suppose in some way.

 

[Dahir]

You don't seem like the nice guy, judging from that little scenario there but then again I'm in no position to judge.

Nice guys do have a place in society, it's just not in the eyes of the majority.

There's always someone out there who'll respect you for who you are but you won't know it yourself.

Like someone earlier said, it's the bad guys that everyone admires for whatever attribute but that doesn't mean the nice guys fall behind, they'll have their moments of popularity/fame I suppose in some way.

Which SCENARIO? :?

 

[Safa]

Here's a scenario:

There was a lonely guy in my fitness class, seemed like a quiet, tame kind of guy, I fealt a bit sorry for him, so I talked to him a few times. After 3 or so weeks, he started wising up to me. I got sick of his show-offy ways so I pushed him into a wall and had a few words with him in a dark corner, and from that day on he hasn't said a wise word to anyone, let alone myself.

This one.

 

[Djinn]

LOL!!! This is too funny! That what happens when we get a tiny bit off-topic.

 

[Dahir]

There was a lonely guy in my fitness class, seemed like a quiet, tame kind of guy, I fealt a bit sorry for him, so I talked to him a few times. After 3 or so weeks, he started wising up to me. I got sick of his show-offy ways so I pushed him into a wall and had a few words with him in a dark corner, and from that day on he hasn't said a wise word to anyone, let alone myself.

That "lonely guy" didn't mess with me when I was isolated, cool, hip, bad boy Dahir, but when I got nice and opened up to him, and introduced him to my friends, he got a cocky attitude and turned on ME. I WAS THE GOOD GUY, he was a LONER WHO PUSHED HIS LUCK because he THOUGHT I WAS a "good guy!!!!"

Don't you get it, when I showed him my "good side" he turned on my and fealt I was weak and he was powerful, so I got real with him and pointed to him the reality, I did him a major favor!

 

[_salam_]

So pushing someone and calling them names is the right response? From how your scenario is worded, you definitely seem like the bad guy.

 

[sweetbanana86]

why is this post still going on, can some moderator please close it, nice guy this , nice guy that, the prophet was a very nice guy and do you think he finish last, uh no, i don't think so, close this thread

 

[Dahir]

So pushing someone and calling them names is the right response? From how your scenario is worded, you definitely seem like the bad guy.

No. I did not call him names. And the moral of the story is that the guy had no respect for me in my original, "good guy" state. But when I wised up and awoke him to the harsh reality, he had respect for me, that's the moral of the story!!

why is this post still going on, can some moderator please close it, nice guy this , nice guy that, the prophet was a very nice guy and do you think he finish last, uh no, i don't think so, close this thread

Oh, the mods have closed enough of my threads, they fealt sorry for me so this one's going to stay!

 

[Djinn]

That "lonely guy" didn't mess with me when I was isolated, cool, hip, bad boy Dahir, but when I got nice and opened up to him, and introduced him to my friends, he got a cocky attitude and turned on ME. I WAS THE GOOD GUY, he was a LONER WHO PUSHED HIS LUCK because he THOUGHT I WAS a "good guy!!!!"

Don't you get it, when I showed him my "good side" he turned on my and fealt I was weak and he was powerful, so I got real with him and pointed to him the reality, I did him a major favor!

You do know power and the feeling of being powerful corrupts no matter on which side, good or bad, you are on. So when the weak undermines a tyrant to be powerful himself, he becomes what he despises, he becomes another tyrant.

 

[Dahir]

You do know power and the feeling of being powerful corrupts no matter on which side, good or bad, you are on. So when the weak undermines a tyrant to be powerful himself, he becomes what he despises, he becomes another tyrant.

So my fitness class is like a scale model of our World?

 

[sweetbanana86]

okay but tell me this, how will this make us as a community grow, or how will this make you grow as a person, i am pretty sure after all the comments you recieve you will not change as a person

 

[Dahir]

okay but tell me this, how will this make us as a community grow, or how will this make you grow as a person, i am pretty sure after all the comments you recieve you will not change as a person

I know.

This thread is designated for whining and crying.

You come to this thread, you relate to the subject, you whine just like I'm doing, and you leave sappier and more connected towards this general issue.

Think of this as an Episode of Dr. Phil. We come, we cry, we complain, we whine, we go home taking life lessons from a sappy bald guy from Oklahoma who refers to himself as a doctor despite only having a Bachelor's degree.

Have I given you a complete analysis of this Thread?

 

[Djinn]

So my fitness class is like a scale model of our World?

:giggling:

Everything one does, regardless of his or her location, can affect his or her neighbor, and/or community no matter how small or how big the gesture is.
What you have done in the gym could have relatively lasting effects to you (you posting the problem in the forum) and to the person (might be more shy than ever), even when you are no longer in that location.



PS: I guess I'm that Dr.Phil (plus the hair)

 

[sweetbanana86]

can someone get this person a tissue,

 

[ABWAN]

Here's a scenario:[/U][/B]

There was a lonely guy in my fitness class, seemed like a quiet, tame kind of guy, I fealt a bit sorry for him, so I talked to him a few times. After 3 or so weeks, he started wising up to me. I got sick of his show-offy ways so I pushed him into a wall and had a few words with him in a dark corner, and from that day on he hasn't said a wise word to anyone, let alone myself.

I don't seem to grasp the link between the topic title and all your messages here.

Which nice guy are we talking about here? You met someone you consider as a 'bad guy' and you got him back in the end. Wouldn't that make you a bad guy in this context as well?

So which nice guy finished last?


But on a second look, it seems you have the answers you are looking for in your own message:

Why does society have so much loving respect and unmatched fear of the "bad boys."

And the reason for the fear is, as you had mentioned, FEAR. People in general tend to be afraid of Bad people/influence.

Well-accomplished "good guys" like Bill Gates are passed off as "tame" and "nerdy" whilst the far less-accomplished serial murderers (Jeffrey Dahmer, "BTK," Charles Manson) are given iconic status in the hearts of the youth and our less-to-say, trash culture.

"Thrash Culture" or whatever could perhaps be the reason?

Is anyone else fed up with this system of "respect?"

Not me. I, like many others, just preferred to stay out of the "System".

 

[Dahir]

can someone get this person a tissue,

You sound hostile, should I buy you a rifle?

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

I know, but everywhere I go, its IN MY FACE! Its like a plague of sorts, and being a good guy doesn't carry merit anymore.

it doesnt if u want comfort in the dunya, it does if u want comfort in the akhirah

 

[Muezzin]

Even our superheroes, batman and superman, do their "good deeds" through ferociously violent acts.

Batman, yes. Superman, no. Batman is supposed to be a darker character, and Superman is supposed to be a 'Boy Scout'. So, Superman is one of those rare characters that actually doesn't finish last for being a nice guy. On the other hand, some don't like reading or watching stories about him since he's 'too perfect'. Go figure.

Also, whatever you do, don't go all angsty about 'oh, I'm so good and people still hate me!' It's not constructive. Do good, behave well, follow the Sunnah. If others can't appreciate you for being a good person, that's their loss, not your problem.

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

some don't like reading or watching stories about him since he's 'too perfect'

:haha:

not really, lol its mainly coz he wears his underwear outside his trousers :heated:


batman is the best