“Forbidden to you (for marriage) are: your mothers, your daughters, your sisters, your father’s sisters, your mother’s sisters, your brother’s daughters, your sister’s daughters, your foster mothers who gave you suck, your foster milk suckling sisters…”
[al-Nisaa’ 4:23]
Love is an ailment for which the Prophet (saw) prescribed marriage as the best cure.
"We never saw anything like marriage for lovers." Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) -Ibn Majah
But when love cannot be attained by legal means (marriage), then other methods must be sought to cure it.
Fasting is recommended for those who cannot marry - but we are talking about legal marriages. For you brother, it is important that you convince yourself that desiring this love is futile because Allah has prohibited it for you. For your own benefit, you both must realise that by not trying to cure yourself, you are in danger of losing what is more important, more beloved, the source of ever-lasting happiness and contentment. A few days of pleasure on earth are not worth losing Paradise for. The one you desire, is the one who can become the source of ruining your deen, dunya and your Here-After. Surely that is not what seek for yourself?
Who is truly worthy of your love bro? Allah, the Glorified and Exalted? The one who created you? Fashioned you in your mother's womb? Gave you life? The One who wants to forgive your sins and calls you to Paradise so that you can attain eternal bliss and joy forever? The One without Whose will you would not be able to blink your eye?
Tell me brother? Who is truly worthy of your love? Him, who Created you and is Perfect in every way. Or, the one whose body can fall victim to a disease that could make you retch with repulsion? Would you love her then? Would you love her if she were to go insane? Would you love her if she had leprosy? (Allah forbid all I say). Your love would dwindle with the passing second. You only love of her what you see. If man were to have a hole in his abdomin and the vile stench of his bodily filth could be smelt feet away, no one would want to go near him, let alone love him. That is the reality of humans. It is by Allah's mercy that He has concealed our most vile traits and secret sins from others? Yet if the one you love, knows of your sin, she will bear witness against you on the Day we all will be ressurected. Where will the love go my bro? There will be no love except for one's own self.
Then it is not Him, Whom we should love above anything else in this world? You can achieve anything you want. Your mind is not in anyone's control but yours. You can convince yourself that there is nothing to be gained but a lot to be lost. You can hate, what Allah hates for you and learn to love what Allah loves for you. It is in your hands bro. Guard yourself and your akhirah. Learn the deen and seek knowledge like your life depends on it. In a way it does... I pray Allah makes it easy for you. Make dua to Allah to help you. There is no help save His. The Lord of the Worlds. The Glorified, The Praiseworthy.
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