Ups and downs for reverts

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Woodrow said:
A convert is a person who changes his religion to one he/she was not in the past. ie a Jew becoming a Hindu

It is impossible for a person to be a convert to Islam. We were all born Muslim although we may have been raised in another faith. When we accept Islam we are returning to the Faith we were born in. Returning home to were we belong, reverting back to Islam. Even though we may not have known we were always Muslim.
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That is wrong. The hadith states we are born on fitrah, not Islam.
 
To the OP -

What might help is to revisit the reason(s) you decided to come to Islam in the first place. Would you mind sharing?
 
convert said:
That is wrong. The hadith states we are born on fitrah, not Islam.
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You may be correct. I am not familiar with any Ahadith that say that. But, there are many I have yet to read. Would you please post that particular Hadith?
 
I reverted last year and it was the best thing I've done. I know many Muslims..but they don't practice. :(

I've had moments where I feel like I'll never learn Arabic and I'm not trying hard enough. Make dua to Allah that he will give you strength everyday. It's hard being a revert. You have to learn so much and it's a huge change.

The doubts you are having are from Shaytan. Your on the right path you just need some guidance and guidance only comes from Allah.

I didn't start wearing the hijab until recently because of all the things in my head. I realized that I have to do it for myself and Allah and no one else. It's better to go through struggle here on Earth and gain paradise. :) We all have times like this but it's because of Shaytan's whispers. Don't let it get to you. Ramadan is the best time to practice more and become a better Muslim. We all can be better sister.

May Allah guide you and give you strength. Ameen
 
convert said:
a summary of the hadith in the beginning by sheikh riyad ul haq

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d0trElMCi4o&feature=channel_page
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Jazakallah Khayran,

I can understand what the Sheikh is implying, and have no reason to disagree with him. Perhaps we are having a misunderstanding over semantics as at 02:49 on the video the Sheikh says that "a new born is inclined to become Muslim, but is not quite yet Muslim" That concept would still make revert very appropriate. As it indicates a person has returned to what He was supposed to be.

But this is just my opinion and based upon only the semantic connotations of the words Convert and Revert. A linguistic view if you please. Astagfirullah
 
Sister , salaams ,

there is no need to be in doubt, Have faith in allah you will find solutions to your stuggles :).Regarding difficulties in not having muslims around you , You can always compensate for that by having a few muslim sisters as your online friends they might help you with daily doubts and problems.I guess people here would *more than happy * to help you out with anything.I myself am not perfect sis , nobody is.We all should strive hard to do our best so that we can save ourselves from fire after judgement day :).

Also till you learn arabic read english quran available online :).


May allah help you with your difficulties.
 
rpwelton said:
To the OP -

What might help is to revisit the reason(s) you decided to come to Islam in the first place. Would you mind sharing?
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No, I don't mind sharing at all :statisfie

I first learnt about islam through my boyfriend who was muslim and also his friends. He taught me a lot and really introduced me to another world. However, I only really got interested and converted/reverted when we had broken up and I started learning about it myself. I had always believed in god and had had dalliances with paganism/wicca and christianity when I was younger but these religions never truly satisfied me and I ended up leaving them. I liked paganism for its flexibility and got interested in it when I was in my late teens but in the end I drifted away from. With Christianity, I always had doubts and had trouble believing what I was supposed to believe and paying attention through services, but I believed in god and so this quenched my thirst for a brief while.

Islam made sense to me as I could continue to believe in jesus - although this time as a prophet - and the bible and it made sense in that in islam, there is only one god (i.e. jesus was not divinity) - which is what I believed. I want to be close to god, lead a "pure" life (if you can say that) and I also want to learn to be a better person. I think Islam would allow me to do that. I don't like the way society is nowadays. It is so sexualised and I only have to look at my female friends to see that this is not really a good thing for them emotionally. I just hope that my faith will increase and I will practice more soon!!!!:statisfie
 
bibish said:
No, I don't mind sharing at all :statisfie

I first learnt about islam through my boyfriend who was muslim and also his friends. He taught me a lot and really introduced me to another world. However, I only really got interested and converted/reverted when we had broken up and I started learning about it myself. I had always believed in god and had had dalliances with paganism/wicca and christianity when I was younger but these religions never truly satisfied me and I ended up leaving them. I liked paganism for its flexibility and got interested in it when I was in my late teens but in the end I drifted away from. With Christianity, I always had doubts and had trouble believing what I was supposed to believe and paying attention through services, but I believed in god and so this quenched my thirst for a brief while.

Islam made sense to me as I could continue to believe in jesus - although this time as a prophet - and the bible and it made sense in that in islam, there is only one god (i.e. jesus was not divinity) - which is what I believed. I want to be close to god, lead a "pure" life (if you can say that) and I also want to learn to be a better person. I think Islam would allow me to do that. I don't like the way society is nowadays. It is so sexualised and I only have to look at my female friends to see that this is not really a good thing for them emotionally. I just hope that my faith will increase and I will practice more soon!!!!:statisfie
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masha'Allah! Might Allah guide you2 the straight the path, do u mind me 2 ask? What do you think of Ramadaan? Insha'Allah u like it. :statisfie i learn a lot about islamic recently, its so beautiful!
 
Just wanted to add something

Being among muslims is not "always" something great!!!

I am living in a muslim society but many people around me are just practicing and look at the religion as something taken for granted!! so I dont feel that I am gaining something from them!
May Allah ease your affairs an lead your soul to the spiritual peace
 
I am not a revert, even though my husband says I am lol and always asks why I have not taken shahada yet, because I act like like a muslim except I do not wear hajab, only in the majid and certain reletives homes, but I guess it's a similar situation, my feelings are coming before I take the final step, also my parents are not ready to hear it although they know, so I continue to seek as much knowledge as poss and this forum is great!
 
Watch a few or all of Sheik Yousif Estes, he is great especially for new comers or those searching, hes an ex-preacher and explains it wonderfully.
 
sis mashallah uve been accepted by Allah and guided to islam !
i know that muslims actions are nowadays not really very islamic this is somethng that has been the case in most countries.
Ppl dont become better ppl by just callin themselves by muslim names and performin a few good deeds here and there, better ppl are those who try to come close to Allah and live in hope and fear of the Almighty!
ive found that many ppl have strengthend and protected their iman by assoiciating themselves to scholars and islamic groups that work in many muslim communities . Remember the sahabs iman would increase in the company of the pious and who can be more pious the the holy prophet alysalam himself .
unfortunatly we r not blessed with the company of the being of the blessed prophet alysalam amongst us but this doesnt mean pious company does exist ! In fact weve been told to stay in the company of those who rembr and praise Allah moring and evening.
sis i pray to Allah to help u and strengthen ur iman and ours and keep us steadfast and near the company of the pious! ameen
 
Bub said:
masha'Allah! Might Allah guide you2 the straight the path, do u mind me 2 ask? What do you think of Ramadaan? Insha'Allah u like it. :statisfie i learn a lot about islamic recently, its so beautiful!
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Actually, I am totally away from the experience of ramadan here. At the moment I am at my parent's house - usually I live in a different country - and I cannot fast in front of them (I am at home most of the tyeas they have no idea about my conversion. imsad I know I should be fasting but it is not really an option here. I have been secretly praying as I can do that in my bedroom and I am not usually disturbed.
 
bibish said:
Actually, I am totally away from the experience of ramadan here. At the moment I am at my parent's house - usually I live in a different country - and I cannot fast in front of them (I am at home most of the tyeas they have no idea about my conversion. imsad I know I should be fasting but it is not really an option here. I have been secretly praying as I can do that in my bedroom and I am not usually disturbed.
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This is a major sin. You have to disobey your parents if what they say counters Islam.

I believe not fasting Ramadaan makes you a kafir (I will have to find proof though but if sawm is an arkam it only logically follows here).

If you can pray secretly, why can't you fast secretly?
 
convert said:
This is a major sin. You have to disobey your parents if what they say counters Islam.

I believe not fasting Ramadaan makes you a kafir (I will have to find proof though but if sawm is an arkam it only logically follows here).

If you can pray secretly, why can't you fast secretly?
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I can't fast secretly. We eat together and my mother would notice if I was not eating. :hmm:
 
bibish said:
Actually, I am totally away from the experience of ramadan here. At the moment I am at my parent's house - usually I live in a different country - and I cannot fast in front of them (I am at home most of the tyeas they have no idea about my conversion. imsad I know I should be fasting but it is not really an option here. I have been secretly praying as I can do that in my bedroom and I am not usually disturbed.
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oh sister! u cant keep it as a secret forever, u have 2 tell ur parents and im sure they will be there for you, inshaAllah. u have to tell them the beauty religion islamic if ur too scared, text them when ur home? i will make a du'a for u. I hope convert/revent will give u better advice u out as they must been through the same as u.
 
bibish said:
I can't fast secretly. We eat together and my mother would notice if I was not eating. :hmm:
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Then don't eat with them. Fasting takes precedence here. How do you know they will be so harsh with you, have you talked to them about it?

I advise you to make towbah and find out the expiation for not fasting Ramadaan quick, fast, and in a hurry.
 
How old are you, bibish, if you don't mind me asking?
 

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