Ups and downs for reverts

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Greetings,

I'm sure that as you're 27, your parents will realise you're old enough to make your own decisions. It may come as a shock to them, but I think it's definitely worth discussing. Get it out in the open.

I hope it works out for you. :)

Peace
 
czgibson said:
Greetings,

I'm sure that as you're 27, your parents will realise you're old enough to make your own decisions. It may come as a shock to them, but I think it's definitely worth discussing. Get it out in the open.

I hope it works out for you. :)

Peace
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I agree with you, cz.

However, I don't think people always appreciate how strong the emotions and reactions of some people can be when their loved ones 'become religious' or change religion.
It can be a very emotive situation, and the reactions can be very strong and have lasting consequences ...

I hope you find the courage to speak to your parents, bibish.
 
Cz and glo - could I ask you both a question? As an atheist and a christian, what made you join and continue to use these forums? I am interested to know. You are both so refreshingly openminded and encouraging about Islam as well :statisfie
 
Greetings,
bibish said:
Cz and glo - could I ask you both a question? As an atheist and a christian, what made you join and continue to use these forums? I am interested to know. You are both so refreshingly openminded and encouraging about Islam as well :statisfie
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I disagree with Islam on many matters, but I think that if someone wants to be a Muslim, nobody should try to prevent them.

I'm here because I think Muslims and non-Muslims need to talk more. :)

Peace
 
Bibish, speaking for myself, I came here to learn more about Islam.

I live in a community with a sizeable Muslim minority of Pakistani background; and I was frustrated because it seemed impossible to get to interact with them. So I felt I had to go elsewhere to learn about Islam ... and I found this forum.
It still is difficult to interact with local Muslims three years later, but with the knowledge I have gained here in this forum I can go out and treat my Muslim neighbours in a manner which they would find appropriate.
(I find that 'Ramadan Mubarak' rolls off my tongue quite easily these days ... and a Muslim family in our street and my family now exchange Eid and Christmas present on a regular basis. :statisfie)

I am not considering Islam for myself, but I would love to see greater interfaith working between our faiths.
We share so much in common, and if we applied our religious teachings properly, we could - in a combined effort- make our communities better places!

Why I continue to be a member here?
Well, I do take some time out once in a while, but I stay because
a) I continue to learn about Islam,
b) hopefully others can learn from me (and other Christians) about Christianity, and
c) I have simply made some wonderful friends here.
 
glo said:
Bibish, speaking for myself, I came here to learn more about Islam.

I live in a community with a sizeable Muslim minority of Pakistani background; and I was frustrated because it seemed impossible to get to interact with them. So I felt I had to go elsewhere to learn about Islam ... and I found this forum.
It still is difficult to interact with local Muslims three years later, but with the knowledge I have gained here in this forum I can go out and treat my Muslim neighbours in a manner which they would find appropriate.
(I find that 'Ramadan Mubarak' rolls off my tongue quite easily these days ... and a Muslim family in our street and my family now exchange Eid and Christmas present on a regular basis. :statisfie)

I am not considering Islam for myself, but I would love to see greater interfaith working between our faiths.
We share so much in common, and if we applied our religious teachings properly, we could - in a combined effort- make our communities better places!

Why I continue to be a member here?
Well, I do take some time out once in a while, but I stay because
a) I continue to learn about Islam,
b) hopefully others can learn from me (and other Christians) about Christianity, and
c) I have simply made some wonderful friends here.
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:statisfie That's great! It is good that you made such an effort to learn about it by going on a forum to be able to get to understand your neighbours more. I can't say that many people would do that! I personally have found this forum very informative so far and a lot of more 'serious' than many other islamic forums I have encountered.

And thank you all for your wonderful advice :statisfie
 
We share so much in common, and if we applied our religious teachings properly, we could - in a combined effort- make our communities better places!
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exactly i dont know why all the media brags something or the other about islam being this and that, when Islam is the closest religion to christianity. West needs to learn to respect their own religion first.
 
I personally have found this forum very informative so far and a lot of more 'serious' than many other islamic forums I have encountered.
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Thank you

And thank you all for your wonderful advice
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Thank you again and hope you do the same while staying here :D
 
convert said:
This is a major sin. You have to disobey your parents if what they say counters Islam.

I believe not fasting Ramadaan makes you a kafir (I will have to find proof though but if sawm is an arkam it only logically follows here).

If you can pray secretly, why can't you fast secretly?
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Does not fasting during ramadan make me a kafir? Isn't it just a major sin? Isn't carrying out the pillars a prerequisite to being a practicing Muslim but not to being a Muslim?

Thank you
 
bibish said:
Does not fasting during ramadan make me a kafir? Isn't it just a major sin? Isn't carrying out the pillars a prerequisite to being a practicing Muslim but not to being a Muslim?

Thank you
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Although you should do everything you can to fast, not fasting does not make you a kafir. Scholars debate about what the "minimum" is to still be called a Muslim, some say it is to have faith in the first pillar, and some others also say one must pray as well. But missing Ramadan is regarded as a major sin, not an act of kufr.
 
Sis ,

If you belive in one god and muhammad pbuh as his messenger truly in your heart , then you are a muslim and not kaifr (which simply means non muslim),

As for fasting , i think you should learn more about etiquittes and the rules of fasting before deciding to fast

May Allah bless you
 
Tony said:
I sometimes see muslims who are really not friendly and at present I am going through a patch of seeing born muslims behaving bad and it can pull ur imaan down, then I see ppl who dont do salaat and appearto be non practising then I realise they are praying every meal, teaching thier kids surrahs, not cheating in business etc etc, and I feel far from Islam, this also pulls imaan down. The answer is definatley keepup with salaat, read Qur'an, friday mosque and dont judge anuone. Ramadhan will teach us the meaning and value of imaan and peace. Sister theres always some sort of confusion or hardship for us reverts but Alhamdulullah Allah wanted us to live off the path before bringing us to Islam. Never ever give up asking for His help, we really need it:D
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Tony
Check this out
 
assalaamu 'alaikum wa rahmatullah,

Ramadhan Mubarak.

I cannot emphasize this enough, but go about learning Islaam gradually. Do not try to become a sponge of knowledge in a day. Pray that Allaah (swt) makes it easy for you, learn, believe, implement, be consistent in the small things, seek support from pious Muslims, and pray more.

As far as fasting, yes, indeed sister, you should fast. This is a very important time and a month of mercy and self improvement.

My advice to you sister is: Pray and make du'aa for strength
1. Be sure you know why you became a Muslim.
2. Learn the 5 pillars and their importance.
3. Pray and make du'aa for strength


I highly advise you to listen to this lecture by Shaykh Zahir Mahmood. Insh'Allaah you will derive benefit.

Preparing for Ramadhan
http://http://kalamullah.com/zahir-mahmood.html
 
As was said by the famous scholar Ibn Shihab Az-Zuhri, "Whoever aims to acquire knowledge all at once, it will leave him all at once. Rather knowledge should be acquired over the passage of days and nights"

a very good talk about the obstacles new muslim might come across and us as muslim all our life havnt had to experince pls listen to it
Obstacles_Of_The_New_Shahaadah_
 

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