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hi everyone

my name is aaya and im 13 years old, my parents are catholics. they dont know how i feel about islam. want to tell mum but to scared to. can anyone help me plz! i dont know how to break it to mum. cannot tell my dad as he does not like muslims.

aaya
 
Hiya sis,

well if your sure that you want to be Muslim, then you must tell them you would like to be one, you can't decide thier reactions for them sis, maybe they will be okay, well atleast your mum, maybe she wil be proud of your independance and your way of thinking as an individual, rather then being angry or mad at you, she could be quite happy and maybe even proud of you.

Instead of going alone you could take your best friend/nieghbour with you, to help you explain your thoughts on Islam with you,

Then if your Mum is happy, she can talk through with your dad (God willing)

I hope it works out for you,

All the best :)

Your in my prayers sis, don't worry too much :D

Tc of yourself xx
 
pleasure, also pray to God for answers, Allah answers the prayers of non-Muslims too :)
 
my best friend at school is called thaliyah do u think it would b ok to take her to see mum or do u think it might make it worse with her being a muslim. thaliya knows how i feel. it means so much to me. i took my shahada 4 months ago
 
Don't fight them. You defenitly don't want to get stuck inbetween a fight between your parents and Islam. When they ask these questions they are doing that because they are trying to understand what brought you to Islam despite of certain prejudgeses they have. If there's a question you don't know the answer to, don't be afraid to say: "I don't know." D
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In retrospect that didn't came out exactly as I intended it to. What I meant was, when you talk about Islam only explain it, Don't try to Justify it, the more you justify it the more they will try to look for flaws. SO instead just tell them how it is and allow them to make judgements on their own.
 
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If you think telling anyon will cause you harm, than you don't have too until you think the time is right.

Anyway just hang in their, be patient and inshallah everything will be OK, sis.
 
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MashaAllah...congratulations on your reversion.

Anyway...maybe you can learn from brother Fishman on how he break the news to his parents.

wassallam
 
salaams, breaking it to the parents is the hardest part, its like a plaster/bandaid, just pull it off strate away n ull realise it wasnt so bad.

yes there reaction might not be so gud but leave everything in the hands of allah swt, he bought u to islam n he will make it easy for u inshallah.
 
nicegirlaaya13 said:
hi everyone

my name is aaya and im 13 years old, my parents are catholics. they dont know how i feel about islam. want to tell mum but to scared to. can anyone help me plz! i dont know how to break it to mum. cannot tell my dad as he does not like muslims.

aaya
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Are u muslim already? or interested in Islam? Whatever the case, you are such a sweetheart, masha allah.

I remember telling my parents when i reverted. Dads face went pale, as he thought i was gunna be a terrorist, and mum wasnt happy. I wish that i had waited just a little bit, until i had more knowledge, and also so i could compare the two religions, that of Islam, and also theirs. The reason being, that they kind of hassled me, esp. my father.

In the end, they got used to it. They thought it was something i was going through, and would soon get over it..lool..not likely!

Whatever you decide to do, may Allah make it easy for you. Also know this, that Allah tests the believers, to see who really believes. Im sure you will be fine, insha Allah.
 
I read this thread last night, I was going to post but someone phoned, I had the same exact problem, I live with my mom only and brother, my brother knew already, but it took me a year before I could tell my mom.

I wish I could tell you there's an easy way, I wish I could do it for you but I can't it can be very hard, my mum cried as if someone had just told her I had died, seeing the one that gave birth to you cry like that because of you is hard, don't be afraid to cry too, I did and am a guy lol.

Anyhow, it will in alot of cases be a difficult thing to say and do, Abraham, peace be upon him, had the same with his dad. When Abraham told his father,

When he said to his father; O my father! why do you worship what neither hears nor sees, nor does it avail you in the least, O my father! truly the knowledge has come to me which has not come to you, therefore follow me, I will guide you on a right path, O my father! serve not the Shaitan, surely the Shaitan is disobedient to the Beneficent Allah, O my father! surely I fear that a punishment from the Beneficent Allah should afflict you so that you should be a friend of the Shaitan.​

We are not Prophets or Messengers but guidance has come to us also, we have had Islam told to us and we are following it and by embracing Islam we are indirectly telling our parents 'Follow me your on the wrong path' if that make sense. But look what Abraham, peace be upon him, had to deal with from his father,

He said: Rejectest thou my gods, O Abraham? If thou cease not, I shall surely stone thee. Depart from me a long while! ​

Stone!! Anyhow, we can take some comfort in known people before us had parents who became angry, it helped me to read this story. Don't worry, just be strong sister and keep safe and don't crumble under pressure by family to leave Islam insha'Allah.
 
Salaam,

Welcome to Islam, May Allah (swt) guide you and keep you strong. Ask Allah (swt) for strenght, courage and wisdom and it will work itself out and once your parents see that this is not a faze for you and this is what you truly want, they will get better with it and except your more
 
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you added me onto msn...:)...i cant wait to talk to you...but do you live in the UK :?

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Al Habeshi said:
I had the same exact problem, I live with my mom only and brother, my brother knew already, but it took me a year before I could tell my mom.
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Eesa, how did you manage at home for a whole year without telling your mum?
I mean, did you still go to church with her? Did you still participate in Christian festivals and celebrate your birthday?

Peace
 
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Eesa, how did you manage at home for a whole year without telling your mum?
I mean, did you still go to church with her? Did you still participate in Christian festivals and celebrate your birthday?

Peace
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Well my little brother knew so he covered for me when I needed to pray and so on, also being at college meant that I wudnt be home alot of the time, as for church I went there, done alot of stuff, they asked me to teach some kids but I felt guilty lol, I stopped going church and told mum I didnt believe what she believed, but that was gradual anyway, and Christmas wasnt a problem just acted like a normal day, and birthday well we dont really do much for birthdays.
 

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