What age did you mentally mature?

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Assalamu aleikum Sister and everyone

Maturity?I consider someone being mature when he/she is fully aware of him/herself,ambitions,life and most important his/her faith.When you know how to behave in certain conditions with good manners and how to be responsible of ones actions.
My mom once told me that at the age of 14 I became mature,responsible and she was able to talk to me she was in front of an adult.
This is my opinion,I do agree with you, glo the process of maturity is indeed a never ending process but with a beginning,which is the age when you start feeling this process. :)

Waleikum Salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu
 
Futuwwa said:
I still haven't at 26 :p

Well, somehow I think that if I look back at my life at 52, I won't consider myself to be mature at 26, regardless of what I feel now.
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That's true.

I am 45 now. When I look back in life, I think I have always considered myself mature at any given point in time. Simply because all I could compare myself to was when I was younger and LESS mature.

And 10 years later or so I look back again and realise that back then, I wasn't quite as mature as I had thought at the time! :D
 
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When did I mentally mature?. I don't even know if now I am mentally mature or still immature :D

Different than physical maturity, mental maturity is something that cannot be measured based on age. Mental maturity is not result of physical growth, but result of our experiences in life. Not from how much experiences we got, but from how much lesson we took from our experiences, and how good we use this knowledge in our life.
 
ardianto said:
Not from how much experiences we got, but from how much lesson we took from our experiences, and how good we use this knowledge in our life.
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That's true. How can we take lessons from experiences? What if we forget? Sometimes I say during bad times something, but when the good times come, I tend to forget.
 
Asiyah3 said:
That's true. How can we take lessons from experiences? What if we forget? Sometimes I say during bad times something, but when the good times come, I tend to forget.
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Many people have heard that "experience is the best teacher". Unfortunately, many of them assume that "experience is the best lesson". No, no. Teacher different than lesson.

Teacher is person who teaches us in the classroom. Lesson is what taught by the teacher to us. If we take this lesson, we will have knowledge. If we never take the lesson, we will not get anything.

Now imagine if we always attend in the classroom, but we never listen to our teacher. We are busy with chating or texting. Can we get knowledge?. of course not. We will get knowledge only if we take the lesson.

Same like people who got many experience, but they never learn anything from their experience. They will not get knowledge from their experience.

How to learn from experience? notice what we got, what happened, after we did something. In example, we fell when we walked on the wet floor. The lesson that we can take is: next time, be careful when walk on the wet floor.

Remember, experience is the teacher, not the lesson. :)
 
hmm hard one :p i would say 16 to 19 buh i still do act like a kid im almost the youngest , always been the baby of the house :p get wht i want n im whiny too at times :p(thts the best part lol cuz then daddy says wht n im like i want this n hes like ok fine lol) yikes gng to turn 20 soon :S dun wanna grow older :S
 
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When I was kid: I'm not a baby! look, I'm big enough! I can do it!

When I was teenager: I know what I'm doing! I'm not kid! I'm not kid!

In my 20's age: What? they say I'm not mature enough? I'm not teenager! I'm adult!

In my 30's age: Life is not easy. Yes, older people were right. Life is not easy.

In 40's age: (look at photo when I was young) If I could back to my young age again.
 
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It's interesting to note in the Qur'an, it attaches significance to the age of 40:

And We have enjoined upon man, to his parents, good treatment. His mother carried him with hardship and gave birth to him with hardship, and his gestation and weaning [period] is thirty months. [He grows] until, when he reaches maturity and reaches [the age of] forty years, he says, "My Lord, enable me to be grateful for Your favor which You have bestowed upon me and upon my parents and to work righteousness of which You will approve and make righteous for me my offspring. Indeed, I have repented to You, and indeed, I am of the Muslims." [Surah Al-Ahqaf: 15]

[Note in some translations it does not use the word maturity but rather 'full strength']

Tafsir Ibn Kathir: (and reaches forty years,) meaning, his complete intellect, understanding, and patience reach the level of maturity. It has also been said that usually one will not change his ways once he reaches the age of forty.

We also know that our beloved Prophet (sallallaahu 'alayhi wasallam) became a Prophet at the age of 40.


I wonder if this has any relevance to this discussion...
 
I was thinking in the same line what Muhammad said.Its really surprising how Quran mention this specific age and the connection to this that Muhammad SAW got the first message in the age of 40.When i was just a Quran recitor,i was a different person and now when i recite Quran with translation and try to understand it through Tafthir,i have an entirely different perspective about life.I always think my previous life in which i thought Quran is a book with some interesting stories of Prophets was just a crap,just worthless.How i waste my time ignoring this precious message and i always feel pity on those who don't try to understand the message.
I personally think you become mature when you know the real aim of your existance.You know the reality of this dunyah and your final destination and the real success.And this understanding develop with age.Specially to understand the Quran you need age and may be thats why Dr Iqbal once said,"Its the nature of this Deeyn that we start understanding it after 40".
 
Mental Matureness what is that???

After climbing a great hill, I only finds that there are many more hills to climb.
 
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SaneFellow said:
Mental Matureness what is that???

After climbing a great hill, I only finds that there are many more hills to climb.
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Exactly. One thinks they have matured and learned something, only to find that there's much more to learn and one has just scratched the surface.

- cOsMiC
 
Well, I'm still maturing. Although, I think the inner child in me is permanent now. The ship to maturity has sailed a long time ago. Or maybe I never had a ship to begin with. I still laugh about poo and pee with my students.
 
I thought by mental maturity the OP simply meant at what age did we feel like adults mentally. IE we could hold a conversation with other adults etc.


i think theres too much philosphy here lol, it was a simple question right? or is it just me being over simplistic :hiding:
 
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I have always been mature lol as an only child its kind of a given (sometimes) but I converted to Islam at 13 and this is when I really started to think in different terms...I can't really explain it though:hmm:
 
IbnAbdulHakim said:
I thought by mental maturity the OP simply meant at what age did we feel like adults mentally. IE we could hold a conversation with other adults etc.


i think theres too much philosphy here lol, it was a simple question right? or is it just me being over simplistic :hiding:
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Agreed. Many members think that I mean "what age did you become perfect?". That isn't what I meant. We are and will always remain babies in that sense, learning and experiencing, growing in faith, knowledge and understanding -- improving ourselves.

You can see many differences between adults and children, in their mentality, their way of thinking, and understanding. This is seen in their manners, speech and behavior. Like you said if we could hold a conversation with adults and old people. If you see how a 13 year-old youth, for example, expresses their opinion about some news or other serious topic (work-life, babies, heath, etc.) and the reasons for their views, and and how a 21 year-old views the world/life, you can see a clear difference.

This doesn't mean it's bad to be "mentally immature", or we're in any sense better.
 

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