What age did you mentally mature?

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What age did you mentally mature?

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abcdcool2012 said:
well im still on this process ;D
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I think we all are. As you grow up, you look back and think "I'm so much more mature than I was 5 years ago". As you profess through more 5 year age bands ... you will do the same. I don't think a person fully finds themselves, knows who they are, is firm in their views and beliefs ... until they're about 35.

Having children also fundamentally changes most people . People with faith would change all for the positive. They come into parenthood for all the right reasons and will approach parenthood with the right state of mind.
 
Veritas said:
I think we all are. As you grow up, you look back and think "I'm so much more mature than I was 5 years ago". As you profess through more 5 year age bands ... you will do the same. I don't think a person fully finds themselves, knows who they are, is firm in their views and beliefs ... until they're about 35.

Having children also fundamentally changes most people . People with faith would change all for the positive. They come into parenthood for all the right reasons and will approach parenthood with the right state of mind.
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i think it is good to be little bit immature for sometime
 
abcdcool2012 said:
i think it is good to be little bit immature for sometime
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I agree. Brother Scimitar is the wrong side of 25 (I'm being generous here bro) as am I (I'm being even more generous here about myself - I'm older than him) - and being immature, juvenile and having the ability to laugh at oneself is very very important ... all through life.

Children also really can bring out the inner child in a parent too. Children love rude noises and toilet humour ... that all comes back ... and getting down to their level to relish ice cream eating, cartoons, ghost stories etc., is incredibly enjoyable ... being so enthusiastic about life and simple things that can be readily enjoyed.
 
i think between fourteen and fifteen if not earlier.
 
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spiritually its 40 bcz none of Prophet PBUT was given prophet-ship before 40 except Jesus AS. i have read it in akseer hidayat by imam al ghazali.
 
I believe I was more mature 7 years ago when I came back to Islam and was nearer to the Quran, more serious about things too. Now that im reading less I'm getting less and less accustomed to reflect.

To me mature means ready/ripe/complete,
And only Islam can make one ready/ripe/complete.
When disbelievers talk of maturity, it's just an illusion.
 
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Veritas said:
I think we all are. As you grow up, you look back and think "I'm so much more mature than I was 5 years ago". As you profess through more 5 year age bands ... you will do the same. I don't think a person fully finds themselves, knows who they are, is firm in their views and beliefs ... until they're about 35.

Having children also fundamentally changes most people . People with faith would change all for the positive. They come into parenthood for all the right reasons and will approach parenthood with the right state of mind.
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I'd have to agree with the above.

I personally wasn't able to reflect honestly enough, until I started to do so introspectively and retrospectively. And in order to do these, I had to give it a gap of around 5 years between the last measurement of my maturity.

I guess, being honest, brutally honest about oneself is a sign of maturity in itself... but only a sign. You have to work hard in order to prove it :D


Veritas said:
Children also really can bring out the inner child in a parent too. Children love rude noises and toilet humour ... that all comes back ... and getting down to their level to relish ice cream eating, cartoons, ghost stories etc., is incredibly enjoyable ... being so enthusiastic about life and simple things that can be readily enjoyed.
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Interesting. I don't have kids of my own but am a total clown around children. And I find it easier to be so now that I'm older than compared to when I was younger.

Abz2000 said:
I believe I was more mature 7 years ago when I came back to Islam and was nearer to the Quran, more serious about things too. Now that im reading less I'm getting less and less accustomed to reflect.
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That is because you in Bangladesh soaking up all that sun (ok I envy, that nevermind) :D


Veritas said:
Brother Scimitar is the wrong side of 25 (I'm being generous here bro)
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Oh I wish I was only on the wrong side of 25, and not a decade over that *enter facepalm here* :D

Veritas said:
as am I (I'm being even more generous here about myself - I'm older than him) - and being immature, juvenile and having the ability to laugh at oneself is very very important ... all through life.
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You old sod :D kidding. Yeah you're right, it's all about perspective right? I mean, when I was a teen, I couldn't stand someone who I didn't know, smiling at me... now? I'm giving smiles to total strangers... we really do change as we grow older. But the changes manifest in each of us, differently.

Scimi
 
My comments to you about the terrific father you will be have been confirmed above bro. :D
 
The old man blush hey. :embarrass

As we get older we look back and think how views changed, attitudes towards various events change and many more subtle things change. Like wrinkles!!!

I agree bro ... it's the ability to critically look at oneself and continue to challenge and self-assess, and change, that leads to maturity.

But too ... it's very important to be able to laugh and have fun. Like playing rude word Scrabble with kids.

Did that yesterday ... they (and me) had a ball! :D
 
assalam o alikum
it depends on us that how is or nature, but the age at which we get mentally mature is 25, because you have experienced many things in your life at that age. You get the idea that how you can live your life in an appropriate way ....
 
sohail1234 said:
assalam o alikum
it depends on us that how is or nature, but the age at which we get mentally mature is 25, because you have experienced many things in your life at that age. You get the idea that how you can live your life in an appropriate way ....
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Wa'alaikum salam

You are a young man, aren't you?

One day after you reach 40's age you will realize that are many things that you didn't know yet in age 25.

:)
 
I am a few years behind! I still look like in my early 20s. Ma-sha-Allah
 
I need to wait the day when I will be 100 years old. Then I write to this thread (if this forum is still here): Not yet. Give me more time to become mature. :D
 
At 18, I had it all figured out. My parents were old fashioned and didn't understand our current world.
Several years later, I turned 22 and laughed at my reasoning at the age of 18! How naive I was! How ridiculous! 22 was, obviously, the age of enlightenment.

Then I turned 30. Reflecting, I realized I was unaware of my own arrogance and ignorance at 22. 30 was the age of reason and reflection.

I am now 45. I chuckle at my silly views and positions at the age of 30. Of course, 45 is the age of maturity.

The point I am making is that I am a better, selfless human being than I used to be. This is a daily goal. I have so far to go. God willing, the trend will stay on course. I try.
 
Recently I heard of a man (in Pakistan) who died at the age of around 105. (he was the great grandfather of an acquaintance). Sometimes I wish I could've gotten to knw him, to have asked what it was like to have seen all the changes in the world - social changes, technological changes, etc. How does it feel when you live so long and witness all the changes?
 

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