What do you look for in a woman or man?

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I personally don't require much of a woman I'd want to be with. She just needs to be a good person, creative in some way (muy importante for me), smart, and have a career or aspirations for a career. For her to be as much a platonic friend as she is a girlfriend. Love is an abstract word. Let's just say I choose my friends carefully (though I give everyone the benefit of the doubt), and would do the same when it comes to a relationship. I would always want a woman who loves me for me. Looking past experiences and at personality and interests. Similar interests is also good. Specific faith is not important to me, as long as God is part of her life.
 
Since no one has responded to your thread, then I will. I am not looking at all for a man in my life, but if I were the most important thing to me is that he has a good relationship with God and puts God first in all things. His specific religion is not important, provided we both worship the same God and he is able to be respectful of our differing beliefs. Anything beyond the above criteria is all icing on the cake. I do not have a need of anything from a man.
 
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Well I'd like it if they understood me cos it's generally hard to find a person who understands how you feel and has things in common with you. And they would have to be praticing of course. I've only ever met 1 person like that. We clicked instantly like we knew each other for years.
 
To be religious. The other things are not really important.
 
What I look for in a woman:
-Height: She cant be shorter than 5'6" and cant be taller than 5'10" because I stand at 6'2"
-Hair: I like women with long hair, its more feminine.. not tooo long tho
-Personality
-She has to be nice, sweet and have a cute smile
-She has to love life
-She has to be dominant and strong but definitely not more dominant than I am.
-She cant be scared to ask me for help
-Effective communication: this is big in relationships
-She HAS TO MAKE THE FIRST CHILD A BOY... lol I dunno why but I want my first child to be a boy.
-She has to have a purpose of life, I dont want her to stay at home and cook and do chores all the time. She has to be on a journey or come along with me on my journey with passion.
-SHE MUST LOVE TO TRAVEL. I AM A GUY THAT DOESNT LIKE TO SETTLE.
I will be on the move all around the world.. USA, CANADA, SOUTH ASIA, MIDDLE EAST SOUTH AFRICA and CHINA (business) and MUCH MORE.
-She has to be there when I need someone to talk to emotionally.. LOL guys are down sometimes too, we just dont show it in the real world cuz we are men.. but we can sometimes be emotional to the wife lollll..
- She has to love kids, I LOVE KIDS because they are cute and are always happy :)
- She has to know how to share a blanket
- She needs to be a good in the kitchen.
- She has to love all humans, regardless of race, religion, color, ethnicity etc.
- She has to know how to tie a tie.
- She has to give me advice and help me make decisions.
- SHE HAS TO BE TRUSTWORTHY
The List continues.. its doesnt end here.. I will post more when I can think of some.
 
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SMA89 said:
What I look for in a woman:
-Height: She cant be shorter than 5'6" and cant be taller than 5'10" because I stand at 6'2"
-Hair: I like women with long hair, its more feminine.. not tooo long tho
-Personality
-She has to be nice, sweet and have a cute smile
-She has to love life
-She has to be dominant and strong but definitely not more dominant than I am.
-She cant be scared to ask me for help
-Effective communication: this is big in relationships
-She HAS TO MAKE THE FIRST CHILD A BOY... lol I dunno why but I want my first child to be a boy.
-She has to have a purpose of life, I dont want her to stay at home and cook and do chores all the time. She has to be on a journey or come along with me on my journey with passion.
-SHE MUST LOVE TO TRAVEL. I AM A GUY THAT DOESNT LIKE TO SETTLE.
I will be on the move all around the world.. USA, CANADA, SOUTH ASIA, MIDDLE EAST SOUTH AFRICA and CHINA (business) and MUCH MORE.
-She has to be there when I need someone to talk to emotionally.. LOL guys are down sometimes too, we just dont show it in the real world cuz we are men.. but we can sometimes be emotional to the wife lollll..
- She has to love kids, I LOVE KIDS because they are cute and are always happy :)
- She has to know how to share a blanket
- She needs to be a good in the kitchen.
- She has to love all humans, regardless of race, religion, color, ethnicity etc.
- She has to know how to tie a tie.
- She has to give me advice and help me make decisions.
- SHE HAS TO BE TRUSTWORTHY
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loool ;D if you get married, please invite me !

SMA89 said:
The List continues.. its doesnt end here.. I will post more when I can think of some.
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No ! please don't :skeleton: looooool
 
I am not in a situation to marry at the moment, and feeling impatient and apprehension about when it will happen.......or if it will happen.....any advice.

But I would look for someone, who pleases my eyes more..or choose with my eyes 1st...esp if it were arranged which is the likely.....but then we are all different and have different ways of choosing....I would say she should be somewhat religious also.
 
never have too many 'tick boxes' as u end up concentratin on them more then actually seeing what the person is all about..
 
I agree, you should just go for what looks good in an arrange marriage situation or looks right....face it there isnt going to be much getting to know each other well...which there will be plenty of time for later Insha-Allah.:shade:
 
A Muslimah who practices the religion of truth. Once you have the fear of Allah SWT embedded in your heart, you will no doubt be successful in this world and the hereafter InshAllah
 
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What I look for in a woman:
-Height: She cant be shorter than 5'6" and cant be taller than 5'10" because I stand at 6'2"
-Hair: I like women with long hair, its more feminine.. not tooo long tho
-Personality
-She has to be nice, sweet and have a cute smile
-She has to love life
-She has to be dominant and strong but definitely not more dominant than I am.
-She cant be scared to ask me for help
-Effective communication: this is big in relationships
-She HAS TO MAKE THE FIRST CHILD A BOY... lol I dunno why but I want my first child to be a boy.
-She has to have a purpose of life, I dont want her to stay at home and cook and do chores all the time. She has to be on a journey or come along with me on my journey with passion.
-SHE MUST LOVE TO TRAVEL. I AM A GUY THAT DOESNT LIKE TO SETTLE.
I will be on the move all around the world.. USA, CANADA, SOUTH ASIA, MIDDLE EAST SOUTH AFRICA and CHINA (business) and MUCH MORE.
-She has to be there when I need someone to talk to emotionally.. LOL guys are down sometimes too, we just dont show it in the real world cuz we are men.. but we can sometimes be emotional to the wife lollll..
- She has to love kids, I LOVE KIDS because they are cute and are always happy :)
- She has to know how to share a blanket
- She needs to be a good in the kitchen.
- She has to love all humans, regardless of race, religion, color, ethnicity etc.
- She has to know how to tie a tie.
- She has to give me advice and help me make decisions.
- SHE HAS TO BE TRUSTWORTHY
The List continues.. its doesnt end here.. I will post more when I can think of some.
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^^^^^^^^^^^ ;D brother oh brother what a list , i hope you do find a wife like that
 
i think theres alot more you need like as brother squiggle says you really need to have a deep understanding of eachother and you need to click immediately thats how you know there the one and no one can even come close to that... never!!
 
On the basis of this view of marriage and of women, the Muslim is not attracted by the empty-headed attitude displayed by some girls nowadays. Rather, he is attracted by a sound Muslim personality, and he takes his time in choosing a partner for life, looking for a partner who has the right Islamic characteristics which make for a stable and happy married life. Therefore he is not interested in the superficial physical beauty, grace and elegance that are the sole concern of empty-headed youngsters. While he may not ignore physical looks, he must look for strong religious beliefs and practice, intelligence, and good behavior, following the advice of the Prophet (S.A.W):

“A woman may be married for four things: for her wealth, for her noble descent, for her beauty or for her religion. Choose the one who is religious, lest your hands be rubbed with dust!” (Bukhari and Muslim)

Although the Prophet (S.A.W.) advised the young Muslim to look for a religious wife, this does not mean that he should ignore his preferences regarding physical beauty. The Prophet (S.A.W.) encouraged seeing a woman before finalizing the marriage, so that a Muslim will not find himself trapped in a marriage with a woman he finds unattractive.

Al-Mughirah ibn Sha‘bah said:

“I got engaged to a woman at the time of the Prophet (S.A.W). He asked me, ‘Have you seen her?’ I said, ‘No.’ He said, ‘Go and have a look at her, because it is more fitting that love and compatibility be established between you.’” [1]

A man who had got engaged to a woman of the Ansar came to the Prophet (S.A.W), who asked him: “Have you seen her?” He said, “No.” so the Prophet (S.A.W.) ordered him to go and see her.2

The Prophet (S.A.W.) emphasized, in more than one hadith, the fact that beauty is one of the basic characteristics that a man should look for in a woman, besides the other, moral, characteristics that are desirable. Indeed, the two are inseparable. For example, he told Ibn ‘Abbas (R.A.A):

“Shall I tell you the most precious thing a man can have? It is a righteous wife: when he looks at her he is pleased, when he tells her to do something she obeys, and when he is away she is faithful and loyal to him.”3

Abu Hurayrah (R.A.A.) said:

“The Prophet (S.A.W.) was asked: ‘Which woman is the best?’ He said, ‘The one who pleases him when he looks at her, who obeys him when he tells her to do something, and who does not do something he dislikes with regard to herself or to his wealth.”4

This is the guidance given by the Prophet (S.A.W.) regarding the personality of the woman who can bring happiness, tranquillity and stability to a man, and who can make a cheerful, pleasant and secure home in which to raise a brood of successful, courageous, intelligent children. The Prophet (S.A.W.) insisted that marriage should be firmly built on a solid foundation, striking a balance between physical, mental, spiritual and emotional needs, so that it will not be rocked by personality clashes or differences in attitude. Therefore the true Muslim who is guided by the shari‘ah of Allah (S.W.T.) in all his affairs, does not fall for the wiles of the “jezebels” who are the beautiful women of bad character; rather he (S.A.W.) tells people: “Beware of the ‘jezebels’.”5
 

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