What do you look for in a woman or man?

cat eyes said:
i think theres alot more you need like as brother squiggle says you really need to have a deep understanding of eachother and you need to click immediately thats how you know there the one and no one can even come close to that... never!!
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I am commenting on my cultural experience...of arranged marriage...there is not room to have a deeper understanding before marriage.......:cry:
 
ali-imran said:
I am commenting on my cultural experience...of arranged marriage...there is not room to have a deeper understanding before marriage.......:cry:
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brother sorry to hear that. so you were forced into it? alot of arranged marriages dont work out because the two people sometimes dont even meet each other before and have no real deen in them
 
cat eyes said:
brother sorry to hear that. so you were forced into it? alot of arranged marriages dont work out because the two people sometimes dont even meet each other before and have no real deen in them
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No in fact, I have yet to get married.......But the many problems I see and with my age.....I am thinking maybe I can just remain unmarried....is this possible? I really cant be bothered any more.:cry:

im 29 yrs young btw, and look very young.:shade:
 
ali-imran said:
No in fact, I have yet to get married.......But the many problems I see and with my age.....I am thinking maybe I can just remain unmarried....is this possible? I really cant be bothered any more.:cry:

im 29 yrs young btw, and look very young.:shade:
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well remaining unmarried you can come into more problems:) so why would you want to do that for.

''im 29 yrs young btw, and look very young.:shade:''

:giggling: mashaAllah im sure you are 29 is young
 
cat eyes said:
well remaining unmarried you can come into more problems:) so why would you want to do that for.
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But remaining unmarried is not a problem surely...or is it? tell you the truth I feel nervous about the whole marriage procedure.:heated:
 
Marriage completes half your deen. SubhanAllah, Look how beautiful our deen is. Allah Hu Akbar. Remaining unmarried in my opinion is a problem, Sooner you get married the better
 
ali-imran said:
But remaining unmarried is not a problem surely...or is it? tell you the truth I feel nervous about the whole marriage procedure.:heated:
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Don't be nervous im 11 years younger than you and well for the men all you have to do is turn up and sign on the dotted line ending your life hehe, but on the plus side you get a free dishwasher and cook for free well sort of for life ;D im joking , all the planning and stuff leave that's for the bride side to do. Nothing to be afraid of unless you have a monster in law haha ^ troubled soul is right brother remaining unmarried causes a problem the quicker you get married the better

All jokes aside for now.............

And marry those among you who are single . . . If they are needy, God will make them free from want out of His grace. [Qur'an 24:32]

And He it is Who has created man from water; then He has made for him blood relationship and marriage relationship. And thy Lord is ever Powerful. [Qur'an 25:54]

One of His signs is this: that He has created mates for you from yourselves that you might find quiet of mind in them, and He put between you love and compassion. Surely there are signs in this for a people who reflect. [Qur'an 30:21]
 
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S<Chowdhury said:
Don't be nervous im 11 years younger than you and well for the men all you have to do is turn up and sign on the dotted line ending your life hehe, but on the plus side you get a free dishwasher and cook for free well sort of for life ;D im joking , all the planning and stuff leave that's for the bride side to do. Nothing to be afraid of unless you have a monster in law haha ^ troubled soul is right brother remaining unmarried causes a problem the quicker you get married the better
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Seems you would make a lazy husband :P
 
My friend showed me this list, 7 types of woman you Do not marry. he said.

Al-Annaanah: The woman who whines, moans and complains and ‘ties a band around her head’ all the time (i.e. complains of a headache or some illness but in reality she is not sick, rather she is faking).

2. Al-Mannaanah: The woman who bestows favours, gifts, etc. upon her husband then (at that time or the future) says; “I did such and such for you or on your behalf or because of you.

3. Al-Hannaanah: The women who yearns or craves for her former husband or children of the former husband.... See More

4. Kay’atul-Qafaa: The women who has a brand mark on the nape of her neck (i.e. has a bad reputation or doubts about her).

5. Al-Haddaaqah: The women who cast her eyes at things (i.e. always looking at something to purchase, then desires it and requires her husband to buy it (No Matter What).

6. Al-Barraaqah: The women who spends much of her day enhancing her face and beautifying it to such an extent that it will seem like it was manufactured.

7. Al-Shaddaaqah:The woman who talks excessively...
 
SMA89 said:
What I look for in a woman:
-Height: She cant be shorter than 5'6" and cant be taller than 5'10" because I stand at 6'2"
-Hair: I like women with long hair, its more feminine.. not tooo long tho
-Personality
-She has to be nice, sweet and have a cute smile
-She has to love life
-She has to be dominant and strong but definitely not more dominant than I am.
-She cant be scared to ask me for help
-Effective communication: this is big in relationships
-She HAS TO MAKE THE FIRST CHILD A BOY... lol I dunno why but I want my first child to be a boy.
-She has to have a purpose of life, I dont want her to stay at home and cook and do chores all the time. She has to be on a journey or come along with me on my journey with passion.
-SHE MUST LOVE TO TRAVEL. I AM A GUY THAT DOESNT LIKE TO SETTLE.
I will be on the move all around the world.. USA, CANADA, SOUTH ASIA, MIDDLE EAST SOUTH AFRICA and CHINA (business) and MUCH MORE.
-She has to be there when I need someone to talk to emotionally.. LOL guys are down sometimes too, we just dont show it in the real world cuz we are men.. but we can sometimes be emotional to the wife lollll..
- She has to love kids, I LOVE KIDS because they are cute and are always happy :)
- She has to know how to share a blanket
- She needs to be a good in the kitchen.
- She has to love all humans, regardless of race, religion, color, ethnicity etc.
- She has to know how to tie a tie.
- She has to give me advice and help me make decisions.
- SHE HAS TO BE TRUSTWORTHY
The List continues.. its doesnt end here.. I will post more when I can think of some.
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We have similar requirement/expectations but I agree with everything except the lines in Bold. Kids Can be a burden and can/will put travel on hold (you wont be able to travel freely as they will be in school). If I get married, Kids will have to be postponed.
 
squiggle said:
My friend showed me this list, 7 types of woman you Do not marry. he said.

Al-Annaanah: The woman who whines, moans and complains and ‘ties a band around her head’ all the time (i.e. complains of a headache or some illness but in reality she is not sick, rather she is faking).

2. Al-Mannaanah: The woman who bestows favours, gifts, etc. upon her husband then (at that time or the future) says; “I did such and such for you or on your behalf or because of you.

3. Al-Hannaanah: The women who yearns or craves for her former husband or children of the former husband.... See More

4. Kay’atul-Qafaa: The women who has a brand mark on the nape of her neck (i.e. has a bad reputation or doubts about her).

5. Al-Haddaaqah: The women who cast her eyes at things (i.e. always looking at something to purchase, then desires it and requires her husband to buy it (No Matter What).

6. Al-Barraaqah: The women who spends much of her day enhancing her face and beautifying it to such an extent that it will seem like it was manufactured.

7. Al-Shaddaaqah:The woman who talks excessively...
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You have done the impossible and defined Women. See above for the Hi-5 :d
 
If I have kids, they would love travel, because I would start at an early age to take them to interesting places.
 
asalamkam
i think for women, the model is Ayesha RA and Fatma RA........ the sign of patience, cooperation, sincerety and love...... generally the thing i like most in womens is SABAR, HAYA, SINCERETY........
to share with you a good story.....
once we are in tableegh/jamat....one brother say Prophet PBUH had said, i love three things in this world. one fragrance, 2nd womens and 3rd salat.....he says by this Prophet PBUH means the MAHRAM womens eg their wives and daughters etc....but 2nd brother who is very senior and had much knowledge said...No by womens Prophet PBUH means all the womens....bcz at this time the ppl of arab thinks women as a shamefull thing..and they use to burry their alive girls babies and there are no rights for them in their society....so he says Prophet PBUH by saying this wants to mention the impartance and value of women in sight of ALLAH SWT...
so ALLAH has created all of in pairs of man and women......and i also say i like Frangrance, women and SALAt....
they are really the beauty of this world.... and they are very good in nature, soft and sincere....once i was told ALL the aunties of Prophet PBUH accept islam b4 hijra but Uncles....not all of them accept islam even after conquest of MAKKA.....and how can we forgot the role of Hazrat KHUDIJA RA....Allah Swt has sent Salam for her......ppl say s behind every successful man there is a woman.... but i say for unsuccessfull man there is also a woman....haahah.
anyway ALLAMA IQBAL agreat scholar of islam say
wajood zan say ha tasweer kaiynat ma rang......
JZK for reading this ool fool llines.
 
I would ideally want my wife to be pious, and by this I don't just mean she prays all the fardh salawaat... but also has good akhlaaq. I would want her to be interested in knowledge and passing it on because I would want my kids growing up in a very Islamic environment because who is it that educates the child Islamically? The mother.

Would love to have a large family, so someone who would like the same. Someone who can intellectually stimulate me, someone who has a sense of humour and is playful also. If she shares some of my interests like Arabic, Fiqh, History, Horse riding etc. than that's a plus! Ultimately someone who I can better my self with!

sheesh, have I exposed myself or what!:omg:
 
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Banu_Hashim said:
I would ideally want my wife to be pious, and by this I don't just mean she prays all the fardh salaah... but also has good akhlaaq. I would want her to be interested in knowledge and passing it on because I would want my kids growing up in a very Islamic environment because who is it that educates the child Islamically? The mother.

Would love to have a large family, so someone who would like the same. Someone who can intellectually stimulate me, someone who has a sense of humour and is playful also. If she shares some of my interests like Arabic, Fiqh, History, Horse riding etc. than that's a plus! Ultimately someone who I can better my self with!

sheesh, have I exposed myself or what!:omg:
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What is akhlaaq?
 

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