What do you look for in a woman or man?

But what is a good character? It is such a vague term. What constitutes a good character? All humans are different. Our character cannot be 100% like that of the Prophet pbuh due to the inherent genetic differences.
 
mad_scientist said:
But what is a good character? It is such a vague term. What constitutes a good character? All humans are different. Our character cannot be 100% like that of the Prophet pbuh due to the inherent genetic differences.
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Yes, there are certain personality traits that we inherit from our parents or other relatives however that is not an excuse to have bad akhlaaq. We can most certainly work on our manners and also character to an extent by looking to the seerah of RasulAllah (sallalAllahu alayhi wa sallam) and following his sunnah. Obviously we cannot be 100% like the Prophet, but I feel as if this is an excuse many use to not work on their akhlaaq.

People can change themselves; it can be done.
 
Banu_Hashim said:
Yes, there are certain personality traits that we inherit from our parents or other relatives however that is not an excuse to have bad akhlaaq. We can most certainly work on our manners and also character to an extent by looking to the seerah of RasulAllah (sallalAllahu alayhi wa sallam) and following his sunnah. Obviously we cannot be 100% like the Prophet, but I feel as if this is an excuse many use to not work on their akhlaaq.

People can change themselves; it can be done.
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You're right. That's why the prophet PBUH encouraged us to find a pious partner for marriage. If you find a good muslim/muslimah you can be certain he/she has good ethics and good personality (though there can be some few exceptions).
 
“I spent thirty years learning manners, and I spent twenty years learning knowledge.”

- ‘Abdullāh bin al-Mubārak
 
Ideally i want a man who knows his lord,kind,understandable and someone who will except me who i'm.
I would also like a man who treat me in a good way.
 
squiggle said:
My friend showed me this list, 7 types of woman you Do not marry. he said.

Al-Annaanah: The woman who whines, moans and complains and ‘ties a band around her head’ all the time (i.e. complains of a headache or some illness but in reality she is not sick, rather she is faking).

2. Al-Mannaanah: The woman who bestows favours, gifts, etc. upon her husband then (at that time or the future) says; “I did such and such for you or on your behalf or because of you.

3. Al-Hannaanah: The women who yearns or craves for her former husband or children of the former husband.... See More

4. Kay’atul-Qafaa: The women who has a brand mark on the nape of her neck (i.e. has a bad reputation or doubts about her).

5. Al-Haddaaqah: The women who cast her eyes at things (i.e. always looking at something to purchase, then desires it and requires her husband to buy it (No Matter What).

6. Al-Barraaqah: The women who spends much of her day enhancing her face and beautifying it to such an extent that it will seem like it was manufactured.

7. Al-Shaddaaqah:The woman who talks excessively...
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10 types of men
Number 1.........
Men who have a tendencie to compete with their wives (basicaly men who feel unease about certain successes their wives acheive instead of simply being proud of her for them)

Number 2..........

Men who do not posess any of the major virtues, characteristics which makes one a MAN, i.e courage, intention and drive to work hard, and most importantly GHEERAH

Number 3............

Men who lack izza

Number 4............

Men who are not capable of defending their wives or stopping an injustice done to them, even if the defence is against his own mother

Number 5............
Men who are not hands on fathers

Number 6.............
Men who do not fear Allah, implement or bare minimum intend to implement the the sunnah

Number 7............

Men who are violent and who are capable of beating up their wives.

Number 8.............

Men who do not respect your family for indeed a sign a man truely loves u can b seen thru his treatment of ur family

Number 9........

Men who are stingy

Number 10...........

Men who do not lower their gaze.
 
He needs to be a good human being and love me for real.
He needs to be honest and loyal.
He needs to have goals in life.

That's what really matters. Religion doesn't matter at all if he has a good heart!
 
btw, whats the point of this thread? really, what is it?

Why do you care what we look for, unless it will help you change yourself?

or are we to share so we can propose to each other based o what we like?

most of you won't get the "ideal" woman you are looking for. you will get what life throws at you and you will have to either make it ideal or start whining and make it worst.
 
EllyDicious said:
@Abdullahi - I guess you and the cat are made for each other, then :P
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Like i said all good muslims aspire to marry a person with good character who loves Allah

Nokiacrazi said:
Women

Piouty. Beauty. Character.
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Banu_Hashim said:
BarakAllahu Feek. Na'am; Good character, manners, morals - these are all words used to translate "akhlaaq".
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seekerofjannah said:
Good character is important.
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...everybody should look for these things as stated by our Prophet (saw) It's an unanimous thing, except for some people who want other things:

tango92 said:
makes a good sandwich
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brother wants his peanut butter sandwiches to be top notch Masha'Allah

UnhappyD: said:
a lazy husband :P
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sister wants a lazy husband so she can earn good deeds by looking after him Masha'Allah
 
Abdullahii said:
Like i said all good muslims aspire to marry a person with good character who loves Allah
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What about bad Muslims? They want to marry a person who doesn't love Allah though that person may have a good character?
So to you, a good character is only someone who loves Allah?
 
EllyDicious said:
What about bad Muslims? They want to marry a person who doesn't love Allah though that person may have a good character?
So to you, a good character is only someone who loves Allah?
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Why would a muslim aspire to marry someone who hates Allah? Doesn't sound logical now, does it?
 

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