what happens on wedding night?

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Whatever the couple decides is what they should do. No point in pressurising yourself under false expectations from society or whatever.
 
it all depends. I think the most important part is, how much you know your spouse, and the level of familiarity you have.

sleeping together in the same bed for the first time is a strong experience all by itself. we were so uncomfortable! Of course now it's the reverse.
 
burdenofbeing said:
sleeping together in the same bed for the first time is a strong experience all by itself. we were so uncomfortable! Of course now it's the reverse.
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:rolleyes: and...thank you for that information.lovely to know.
 
Muezzin said:
Well, if the husband and wife love each other very much they turn on the PlayStation and whup the hell out of each other on Street Fighter.
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this is actually a very good idea...

Im serious.
 
^ not really
i can be quite a sour loser
and if he dont let me win, am gna cry :'(.Thatll confuse him :D
 
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Go for a long drive together and spend your first Fajr together on a beach near the waves, then watch the sun rise over the water..sit, relax and spend time with each other.
 
Assalamu Alaykum

Simple!!

1. Stress out! Look at eachother, and see what you got eachother into!

or

2 Stress free!! Look at eachother, and see what eachother wants to do!

Assalamu Alaykum
AnonSymous
 
thats is all ver'ahhhhhhhhh' ^ but what would families actually think of this whole getting out of the house on the first night.

I bet they would find it seriously weired and would even assume somethings wrong!! , that u wanna leave the house!

u can only do these things if you have ur own home, which most people dont when they first get married.
 
Sahabiyaat said:
thats is all ver'ahhhhhhhhh' ^ but what would families actually think of this whole getting out of the house on the first night.

I bet they would find it seriously weired and would even assume somethings wrong!! , that u wanna leave the house!

u can only do these things if you have ur own home, which most people dont when they first get married.
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They usually get you to stay in a hotel during the first couple of nights..at least in my family. I cannot imagine getting married and taking my wife back to my family's house the very first night! That would just be...completely wrong :offended:
 
Abu Zayd said:
They usually get you to stay in a hotel during the first couple of nights..at least in my family. I cannot imagine getting married and taking my wife back to my family's house the very first night! That would just be...completely wrong :offended:
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wow.....really

well in my family and wider family friends, that would be utterly disrespectful and unacceptable.

i remember some distant relatives, they got married and decided to go to a hotel straight away.

some very bad things were said about them later on, like how shameless the girl was to do that....(to openly imply that they wanted to get away from everyone, ofcourse to be intimate)

i know...its so silly.....:muddlehea .and weired, but then again my lot have a weired way of thinking.


ur family is cool akhee.
 
what the.. why get married if you don't have a place to stay? one of the things that need to be fulfilled in order to be married is financial independence to bare the obligation..

I have never heard of a hotel or family home, I think they are both rather creepy and uncomfortable.. to be honest this is truly the first I have ever heard of this.. sob7an Allah, do people honey moon in their parents' home? :offended::offended::offended:
 
it's a cultural thing. in Turkey bringing the bride to the groom's house is common. many keep living there for years as well.

I had my own house, so it was not too much of a problem. My parents did find it odd that we invited lots of our friends for breakfast the next day though. :P
 
In the pakistani culture, the bride is ment to stay in the inlaws house and it is very hated and disrespectful if the bride wants to have her own house.

Usually if she asks for her own house or place then this causes a lot of problems and tension between within the inlaws!

edit: i have seen this happen.
 
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I think every couple has a right to complete privacy at all times..and more so on their first night..If the husband cannot afford a separate home then the logical thing to do is to @ least take his wife to a hotel for their first few nights..for the family to have a problem with this sounds rather inquisitive.

And yeh...I don't think people should spend their honeymoons around family and friends...In fact it is part of islamic ettiquette to abstain from visiting a newly wedded couple for some time after the marriage..doesn't this mean that they should be left alone and allowed privacy???

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burdenofbeing said:
we wouldn't do it if she minded. we both wanted it to be so. fun times...
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:D ahhh bless.
but hey akhee, dont say 'fun times' as if thats only for the past.You should do something special to remind u of the fun times!
 
Sahabiyaat said:
:rolleyes: welcome to my world.unless i go outside the family, thats what i got to look foward to :offended:
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nebula said:
In the pakistani culture, the bride is ment to stay in the inlaws house and it is very hated and disrespectful if the bride wants to have her own house.

Usually if she asks for her own house or place then this causes a lot of problems and tension between within the inlaws!

edit: i have seen this happen.
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wow.. sob7an Allah that is awful .. and sort of nauseating to think about, even with what is expected shouldn't people give you a few days with each other? You are barely wed and they are judging you, I thought the concept of a 'Honey Moon' is universal.........:eek:

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