What if someone is married to a non-Muslim and then they convert?

[MeMama]

This is kind of amazing for me, just a question, if you believe in a creator who has nurtured you and so forth, whether the person is Christian or Muslim, how can that person then love someone who rejects this Creator. That's always puzzled me personally, just curious.

Peace Al-Habeshi,

I know this question wasn't directed to me, but I can weigh in with my thoughts and feelings on the subject (if that's OK).

I think people fall in love with more than just something like what religion another person is. Personality, humor, mannerisms all play a huge role in love. Also, two people of differing faiths can hold to the same core values even if their beliefs differ.

When my husband and I met, I was a practicing pagan (I have since seen the error in that belief, though). He was, and still is, an agnostic. We fell in love regardless of our differing beliefs because our core values were the same, and because of our personalities, mannerisms, and senses of humor were also very similar.

So, just because someone is of a different faith does not mean they can't love each other very deeply and have profound respect for each other. Love goes much deeper, and is more complex, than that.

Peace to you. I hope that helped you understand. :statisfie

 

[Muslim Woman]

I seek refuge in Allah (The One God) from the Satan (devil) the cursed, the rejected

Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh (May the peace, mercy and blessings of Allah be upon you)

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...He refuses to read the Qur'an as well.

why he is refusing to read the Quran ? If he does not like reading , u may gift him audio CD

if CD is expensive , free audio Quran reciatation with English translation is avaiable . Download & play it ' accidently ' when he is around .....at least he will hear few verses of Quran & God Willing , will be interested to listen more.

Don't forget to pray for him daily. God is kind , Insha Allah , He will accept ur prayer.

 

[Umar001]

But do you believe that God commands people to do things for no reason? I don't think that God arbitrarily hands down moral laws. I think those laws are given for good reason.

Howdy August,

One of the fundamental principles is that God does not make something halal, unless there is pure good or that the good overides any bad in it.

So of course I believe that there is good in everything single thing that Almighty God has prescribed for us.

At the same time, I do not think that the wisdom or the good behind everything is given to us, for example, the physical benefits on the body for fasting a month, i.e. the month of ramadan, was not known at the time of the Prophet, so they would not be able to say 'scientifically this fasting is good for our body' but this being a wisdom behind it was there at that time but they did not know of it, similarly, there are some things which I believe have good behind them but we do not know of them, maybe in the future we will maybe not.

I hope that's clear.

Peace Al-Habeshi,

I know this question wasn't directed to me, but I can weigh in with my thoughts and feelings on the subject (if that's OK).

I think people fall in love with more than just something like what religion another person is. Personality, humor, mannerisms all play a huge role in love. Also, two people of differing faiths can hold to the same core values even if their beliefs differ.

When my husband and I met, I was a practicing pagan (I have since seen the error in that belief, though). He was, and still is, an agnostic. We fell in love regardless of our differing beliefs because our core values were the same, and because of our personalities, mannerisms, and senses of humor were also very similar.

So, just because someone is of a different faith does not mean they can't love each other very deeply and have profound respect for each other. Love goes much deeper, and is more complex, than that.

Peace to you. I hope that helped you understand. :statisfie

Thanks for sharing your thoughts and I am glad you did,

And I could not agree more!

The gentleness, charitable, forgiving, simple, attractive side of someone might not dissapear or appear just because someone says I believe in God, my whole family is non muslim and of course I care for my mum, she gave everything up for me, left alot of her own life behind to raise me up, and many other things, but at the same time, no matter how much someone loves a person, I think that loving the One who gave you that person is more important and the love for Him takes presindence, just like if my mum buys me a games console, I really wil love that games console but I love my mum more because she gave me it, in a way I think thats the same, I love my mum but my love for my creator is more thus when my creator wants something and my mum wants another I will please the one I love more.

Hope that sheds light on my thinking.

Eesa.

 

[MeMama]

... why he is refusing to read the Quran ? ...

Peace Muslim Woman,

He says he's just not interested in it. I can understand that, so I'm not upset about it, maybe just a little annoyed.

Don't forget to pray for him daily. God is kind , Insha Allah , He will accept ur prayer.

I appreciate the advice, but I don't pray. Ever. I'm still an agnostic -- I don't know if I believe in a god or not. That's really the only thing holding me back from converting to Islam. I don't feel it's right to convert unless I'm convinced in god's existence, but I think that if god did exist the Qur'an would be his testimony to mankind.

eh, it's complex. Sorry if I make no sense. :-[

Peace and thank you. :statisfie

 

[MeMama]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts and I am glad you did,

And I could not agree more!

The gentleness, charitable, forgiving, simple, attractive side of someone might not dissapear or appear just because someone says I believe in God, my whole family is non muslim and of course I care for my mum, she gave everything up for me, left alot of her own life behind to raise me up, and many other things, but at the same time, no matter how much someone loves a person, I think that loving the One who gave you that person is more important and the love for Him takes presindence, just like if my mum buys me a games console, I really wil love that games console but I love my mum more because she gave me it, in a way I think thats the same, I love my mum but my love for my creator is more thus when my creator wants something and my mum wants another I will please the one I love more.

Hope that sheds light on my thinking.

Eesa.

Peace and thanks, Al Habeshi.

I see your point, and I would agree that for a devout believer as yourself it would be difficult to be with a person who rejected god. However, lots of people who don't believe aren't actively rejecting god -- they just don't feel there is reason enough to believe. That's a lot different than an active rejection out of anger or spite.

So, I see your point, but I think it is more complex than whether or not someone believes. Their reasoning why or why not is more important, in my opinion, than just whether they believe or not. A person who is angry and spiteful is not a good person, whether they're Muslim or Christian or atheist. A person who is full of love and joy is usually a very good person, no matter their faith as well.

At least, that's my point of view. Peace to you and enjoy your day. :statisfie

 

[Muslim Woman]

Salaam/peace

I'm still an agnostic -- I don't know if I believe in a god or not.

--what's the differnce between an athiest & agnostic ?

BTW , There is only one God , so no question of a god as there is no more God.

eh, it's complex. Sorry if I make no sense. :-[

--no problem , u will be in my prayer ....i do pray daily

Just curious...when u r in trouble , very sick ( ur self or ur near dear ones ...what u do ? Try to pray at that time , u will feel peace :statisfie

Peace and thank you. :statisfie

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welcome

 

[MeMama]

--what's the differnce between an athiest & agnostic ?

Atheism and agnosticism are two different philosophies. One can be both atheist and agnostic. Atheists do not think there are any gods, and agnostics think that no one can know if there is a god or not.
An atheistic agnostic thinks that no one can know, and further, that there probably isn't one anyway.

BTW , There is only one God , so no question of a god as there is no more God.

We don't know that. you only believe it, and while I commend your belief in the face of a lack of evidence, it doesn't convince me.

--no problem , u will be in my prayer ....i do pray daily

Thank you. I'm touched that I'm in your thoughts.

Just curious...when u r in trouble , very sick ( ur self or ur near dear ones ...what u do ? Try to pray at that time , u will feel peace :statisfie

I did try that, a few years back I was very, very sick and in hospital. I just felt like I was talking to the ceiling. I felt silly and stopped. Haven't tried since, I think it's pointless.

Thank you for you help.

 

[`**sAbA**`]

according to me she will be a muslim becoz thier is faith in her heart that she is muslim n if she is praying namaz n doing every thing whatever she use to do before wedding about islam like reading quran,praying namaz etc
THEN SHE SHOULD BE CALLED AS MUSLIM

 

[Woodrow]

Atheism and agnosticism are two different philosophies. One can be both atheist and agnostic. Atheists do not think there are any gods, and agnostics think that no one can know if there is a god or not.
An atheistic agnostic thinks that no one can know, and further, that there probably isn't one anyway.


We don't know that. you only believe it, and while I commend your belief in the face of a lack of evidence, it doesn't convince me.


Thank you. I'm touched that I'm in your thoughts.


I did try that, a few years back I was very, very sick and in hospital. I just felt like I was talking to the ceiling. I felt silly and stopped. Haven't tried since, I think it's pointless.

Thank you for you help.

This part of your comment strikes very close to me.

I did try that, a few years back I was very, very sick and in hospital. I just felt like I was talking to the ceiling. I felt silly and stopped. Haven't tried since, I think it's pointless.

I was in a very similar situation when I was 23 years old. I was very near death and in fact had been pronounced dead at least twice. I slipped in and out of a coma several times in a period of nearly a year. My prognosis was very poor. It was very doubtful I would survive and if I did survive it was most certain I would be a quadriplegic. I too prayed strongly during my lucid moments. However, I was praying for death and a release from the mortal bond that I had grown to fear and despise.

I was very bitter and angry man when I saw my prayer was not answered. I felt I was forced to live a life that I did not want and had begged to be freed from. For a long time I felt my life was a cruel joke and if Allah(swt) existed he must be laughing at my pain and expense. I was a very angry, disillusioned at the concept Allah(swt) existed or even cared about my prayers.

That was a long time ago. In contradiction to my prayers and wishes. I recovered to a large degree. In fact sufficiently to return to 4 more years of active military duty, before I did have to take a medical discharge.

I survived long enough to explore many religious concepts and to finally be brought face-to-face with Islam. It is true my prayers were not answered in the way I desired. But, the final result is I discovered what I truly wanted and that was the unknown prayer that was answered and all else is of no concern or importance. Allah(swt) is the best of planners. Mashallah.

 

[ZOREENA]

if a catholic marries a muslim or a jew it is just not permissable to be married in the church. they can still marry tho.

i think the conundrum is the same for all religions when one marries outside of the religion...........makes sense but in a strange way i find it wonderful that some people can just fall in love and religion or politics per-say don't mean a thing. love is powerful.

Actualli my mum waz a catholic and married my father in the church...however both reverted to Islam somewhat later...but they were married here in Belfast...but allhumdillah...that Islam got a hold of them!!