What is love?

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Love is when you care for the other person regardless of being hurt by them.

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true love is unconditional, it does not depend on how someone acts or behaves, true love remains no matter what the person who is loved does or says, true love is something I have come to believe does not exist between muslims- correct me if I am wrong?
 
irsha said:
true love is unconditional, it does not depend on how someone acts or behaves, true love remains no matter what the person who is loved does or says, true love is something I have come to believe does not exist between muslims- correct me if I am wrong?
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you are wrong

i have nicely corrected you!!!!!!

what basis are you using for saying islam doesnt hav this love?
Believe me i kno plenty of couples who arent perfect in islam but the love for each other subhanAllah!!

My father has recently passed away and my mother is still in tears even tho its been 1 month and 1 week, u try tellin me that aint love!
Oh and in my fathers last days when he was in unmentionable pain all he said to me was, its really cold tell ur mum not to go thru the trouble of comin to the hospitol, "if its not trouble" ask ur mum to make this. Oh is ur mum comin "i hope i aint troubling her" and he was sayin laa illaha illalahu on a constant coz of fear of dying!!

so trust me the love between muslims CANNOT BE COMPARED WIV WHATEVA U HAV EXPERIENCED!!!

no offence!!!!
 
love shmove...just bonk the gal over the head with a club and drag her back to yer cave...aarrgghh :D

Or better yet...watch this movie on what is love...its very deep and interesting and will uncover any questions in the human psyche related to love
 
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true love lasts even if your partner strays, even if your loved ones admit to being homosexual, even if they commit apostacy or even murder. You may not like what they do, but you love them regardless
 
irsha said:
true love lasts even if your partner strays, even if your loved ones admit to being homosexual, even if they commit apostacy or even murder. You may not like what they do, but you love them regardless
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and why would this not exist in islam?

Allah HATES divorce and the prophet (swas) himself disliked it.
So weneva our partners do somethin bad we take it as a test from Allah and we carry on loving them and living besides them aswell as supporting them.

Now my previous question!!
What wud islam not hav this "true love"?
 
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lol ok we are going off topic now.so back o topic insha'allah

Love is simply an expression of endearment, those who love God will hold God above others.

Those who love money will hold money above others.

So on and so forth.

So the best test of your love is to examine your actions and it will clearly demonstrate to yo what you love most.

Allah swt says in the Quran "True believers are those in whose actions are manifest the teachings of Islam"

They are true believers because they truly love God above others thus follow Islam.
 
akulion said:
love shmove...just bonk the gal over the head with a club and drag her back to yer cave...aarrgghh :D

Or better yet...watch this movie on what is love...its very deep and interesting and will uncover any questions in the human psyche related to love
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PUH-LEASE :rollseyes - What would Star Trek know anything to do would Love?!?!
 
irsha said:
true love is unconditional, it does not depend on how someone acts or behaves, true love remains no matter what the person who is loved does or says, true love is something I have come to believe does not exist between muslims- correct me if I am wrong?
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Only a mother's love is unconditional, although even that is subject to limitations. Otherwise, it is impossible to love someone if they continually treated one like dirt, over a long period of time. Eventually everyone has their breaking point. I think patience and forgiveness has a lot to do with loving unconditionally, but eventually even those traits can wear thin. Some people remain in love with someone who treats them bad only because they are in love with the idea of being in love and think they ave to put up with whatever is thrown at them.

Love shouldn't be have to be labelled 'true' as the word love itself should be enough to explain its meaning. I think the word love has lost it's essence. And sadly people confusing love with lust have given such a bad name to love that it has to have prefixes like 'true' to explain it.

Muslims do believe in 'true' love, but I think that love is only as true as the sincerity it comes with. And that can diminish according to circumstances. That's why I say only the love for Allah is true, cuz that's something that cannot ever change. Those who love Allah never blame Him for anything bad that happens to them, they never complain, they accept whatever He wills for them. I know I will love Allah even if I go to Hell, cuz I'll have deserved it. It would not change my love for Allah. To me that is what true and unconditional love is.
 
Sorry I disagree, true love is not dependant on how the person loved behaves. Otherwise love can diminish even if the loved one is brain amaged or injured to alter their behaviour. I think also, when you have a child, you may think differently abou the limitation bit you said
 
aljawaad said:



Unfortunately i'm not married but inshaallah 1 day i will.:happy:
By the way i'm still in my teens. lol;D
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lol same am 18, u?

irsha said:
Sorry I disagree, true love is not dependant on how the person loved behaves. Otherwise love can diminish even if the loved one is brain amaged or injured to alter their behaviour. I think also, when you have a child, you may think differently abou the limitation bit you said
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have u eva seen this "true love"? and if so who did u see and what about them made u truelly believe what u saw is it?
 
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I have seen personal examples, but let me give you one that explains it simply.
I know of a woman who has been married to a man for over 20 years. They were happily married for the first 5 years before the man developed a motor neuron disease that caused hm to lose most of his long term memory. He can remember how to play the piano, speak, eat and other semi-instinctive functions, but he cannot remember anything that happens each day for more than a few minutes. To give you an example- If he meets you, he will be very polite and say "did the queen send you" He does this, because in his mind, if someone has come to see him after many "years" they must be of great importance. He will then say exactly the same thing each few minutes while you are there, as if he has never met you before.
He has a vague memory for his wife, but its more like a feeling he knows her.
Well, the wife stayed with him for a few years, looking after him and loving him. She eventually burned out and thought she should get on with her life, but after a year away from him, she missed him so much that she went back to him and has been with him for over 13 years while he has been like this. She works and supports him and patiently talks to him all the time, she sings with him as he plays the piano etc. She said she loves him so much that she will endure anything to be with him and expects nothing in return, she does this because of her love for him and that alone.
Compare that type of love to the love I have seen here which is conditional upon returned love and the behaviour of the supposed loved one.
 

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