Hi all, I'm new here. I was just wondering about marriage and how do people get married? I think arranged marriage is bad and wouldn't want to have that because your parents choose someone for you without your consent.
Also, what do you think of this marriage process? So say, your at an age where you're ready to get married and your parents are involved in finding someone for you. So they search through own family contacts and ask them but don't find anyone so they join like a Muslim marriage centre or something and there's a list of people you can look through with all their basic details. Then you can request anyone you like, and your parents and the parents of the potential contact each other and they both send a picture of the potential partner along with a CV with basic important facts and details about them. So you look through and if you like them then the parents arrange both families to meet each other. If that goes well and they both like each other then it progresses to like 'halal dating' where they go out to like a restaurant and get to know each other with the company of their family members, and then if that goes well they get married. If after the meet and greet they don't like each other or one doesn't the parents tell them it's a no.
So what's that process called? Is that a good way since my brothers got married that way.
Or what if you just wanted to find someone yourself through your own social circle or you just happen to meet someone and you like them? Then you tell your parents you want to marry them. Is that a good idea? Would the parents allow that? I mean, the parents don't need to be involved because it's your relationship. As long as they meet and accept them it's fine.
What do you guys think, what are your views on this subject? Personally, I definitely have to get to know someone until I know them well enough to get married.
Also, what do you think of this marriage process? So say, your at an age where you're ready to get married and your parents are involved in finding someone for you. So they search through own family contacts and ask them but don't find anyone so they join like a Muslim marriage centre or something and there's a list of people you can look through with all their basic details. Then you can request anyone you like, and your parents and the parents of the potential contact each other and they both send a picture of the potential partner along with a CV with basic important facts and details about them. So you look through and if you like them then the parents arrange both families to meet each other. If that goes well and they both like each other then it progresses to like 'halal dating' where they go out to like a restaurant and get to know each other with the company of their family members, and then if that goes well they get married. If after the meet and greet they don't like each other or one doesn't the parents tell them it's a no.
So what's that process called? Is that a good way since my brothers got married that way.
Or what if you just wanted to find someone yourself through your own social circle or you just happen to meet someone and you like them? Then you tell your parents you want to marry them. Is that a good idea? Would the parents allow that? I mean, the parents don't need to be involved because it's your relationship. As long as they meet and accept them it's fine.
What do you guys think, what are your views on this subject? Personally, I definitely have to get to know someone until I know them well enough to get married.
) didn't think i could do it before ramadan even though the idea passed my mind so many times. The devils are indeed biting their fingtips in rage at this expected outbreak of piety.