What is the ideal Muslim husband?

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Salahudeen said:
I've seen quite a few posts saying a good husband is the one who shows his appreciation to his wife, how do women like to be shown appreciation? lol is it simply telling them "I appreciate what you do" or does it involve buying them something to show your appreciation? :hmm:
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We must appreciate our wives with the right words, in the right way, and in the right time. Appreciate them with the wrong words, in the wrong way and the wrong time will not makes any sense.

You can learn how to appreciate your wife after you have married and after you begin to understand her. Every woman has her own unique and difference. So, you cannot imitate how other husbands appreciate their wives. Also, if you imitate other husbands in giving appreciation to their wife, it will makes you look like a someone else. Women are happy if their spouses turn into better persons, but they will not happy if their spouses turn into different persons.

I've noticed this in women some of the time, they say men don't appreciate them, so how should a man show his appreciation to them? :hmm: buy them some chocolates?
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A man's common mistake. They bring a gift to the home, give it to their wives while say "I love you", but then they sit in the sofa, read newspaper and let their wives stand alone. Women do not impressed to the gifts, but they are impressed to the attention of men who give them gifts.

Okay bro, if you want to be a good husband who can appreciate your wife in the future, your first step is learn how to be a good listener.
 
As Salāmu `Alaykum (السلام عليكم):

Akhi ardianto:

The guidance you provided is often neglected.

The practice of misogyny is a learnt behaviour.

Women are effected by it so much that they actually enable and support it.

Very strange.
 
wa alikum asalaam,
I believe my ideal of a husband is a man who will sit and listen to me when I am sad, a man who will be patient with me as I will be with him, a man who will accept me as I will accept him for all, a man who has the same morals as I do. I want a husband who is educated, as I am as well. I want a muslim man who has a kind heart and morals...
I believe finding a spouse is about looking for someone who is like you. :)
 
Marriage is give and take. You'd better give it to her or she will take it anyway.
 
Asalamualaykum,
A very interesting topic and mashallah i liked the sources and as well as witnessing the love of brothers and sisters appreciating their wives and husbands mashallah.. I do pray that I be taht wife who can keep her husband and satisfied so that he makes dua for me just like bro Muslimeen does for his wife mashallah.. I would definitely want a husband who fears Allah and does everything for the sake of Allah (Subhaana wa taala).. Who hears and obeys the laws of Allah. That when he finds out something in the Qur'an and Sunnah he strives to apply it in his life, Someone who despite what society says, only does what Allah has ordered. Who is kind as well as strongheaded, Who loves Allah more than me but loves me for His sake. Who listens to me and discusses things with me. Who teaches me as well as encourages me. Who would feel for the Ummah as much as i feel for them. Someone who would push me to learn more and spread more about Islam.

Allah only knows what's best for me more than me.. I do pray that i do find the ideal husband Allah has chosen for me soon. Ameen
 
Souljette said:
Allah only knows what's best for me more than me.. I do pray that i do find the ideal husband Allah has chosen for me soon. Ameen
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As Salāmu `Alaykum (السلام عليكم):

Uhkti Souljette:

Jazakumullahu Khair for your contribution to this positive thread. Our observation leads us to realize if a sister or brother spends
the majority of their time not engaging with their local Muslim community their opportunity and chances to secure a spouse with
Islamic values verses cultural and traditional ethnic habits decreases.

No one is perfect and everyone requires constant refinement. Many of us have pondered the thought of the what ifs when
following different online personalities. But the reality is that the majority of online personalities differ from real life.

We perform du'a that Allah blesses you with a husband that has Iman, Taqwa, Ihsan, and implements the Sunna absent of the
tribal and non Islamic influences. Insha Allah.
 
As Salāmu `Alaykum (السلام عليكم):

Tolerance :

[FONT=Verdana,Arial]Al-Hujurat (The Dwellings)

يَا أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ إِنَّا خَلَقْنَاكُم مِّن ذَكَرٍ وَأُنثَى وَجَعَلْنَاكُمْ شُعُوبًا وَقَبَائِلَ لِتَعَارَفُوا إِنَّ أَكْرَمَكُمْ عِندَ اللَّهِ أَتْقَاكُمْ إِنَّ اللَّهَ عَلِيمٌ خَبِيرٌ (49:13)
Ya ayyuha alnnasu inna khalaqnakum min thakarin waontha wajaAAalnakum shuAAooban waqabaila litaAAarafoo
inna akramakum AAinda Allahi atqakum inna Allaha AAaleemun khabeerun [FONT=Verdana,Arial] [/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana,Arial]
49:13 (Y. Ali) O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female,
and made you into nations and tribes, that ye may know each other (not that ye may despise (each other).
Verily the most honoured of you in the sight of Allah is (he who is) the most righteous of you.
And Allah has full knowledge and is well acquainted (with all things). [/FONT]
[/FONT]
 
The best husband is the one who has high imaan and following the sunnah, prays 5 times a day. having islamic knowledge. :) In my opinion.

From a men (lol)

Salaam
 
Jedi_Mindset said:
The best husband is the one who has high imaan and following the sunnah, prays 5 times a day. having islamic knowledge. In my opinion.

From a men (lol)

Salaam
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Religious level does not automatically makes a husband becomes good husband. There were some cases which the husbands were so busy with their ibadah and Islamic activities, but never gave attention to their wives, and treat their wives like strangers. Even I found a case which the husband too focus to ibadah and forgot to make money.

These cases considered as 'light cases'. The 'heavy cases' were happen in certain areas where misogyny is still strong. Maybe you have heard some cases which the husbands cut their wives' noses. Sadly, those husbands actually are religious Muslims.
 
A person who really follows the sunnah, and behold his nafs and anger. Has not problems with this, but i agree it's sad in what for state our ummah has become today.
 
ardianto said:
Religious level does not automatically makes a husband becomes good husband.
There were some cases which the husbands were so busy with their ibadah and Islamic activities, but never
gave attention to their wives, and treat their wives like strangers. Even I found a case which the husband too
focus to ibadah and forgot to make money.

These cases considered as 'light cases'. The 'heavy cases' were happen in certain areas where misogyny is still strong.
Maybe you have heard some cases which the husbands cut their wives' noses. Sadly, those husbands actually are religious Muslims.
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As Salāmu `Alaykum (السلام عليكم):

Akhi ardianto:

the reality of a Muslims neglecting his family (Zawj-wife) is neglecting part of his din. (Way of life)

[FONT=Verdana,Arial]An-Nisa (The Women)

الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاء بِمَا فَضَّلَ اللّهُ بَعْضَهُمْ عَلَى بَعْضٍ
وَبِمَا أَنفَقُواْ مِنْ أَمْوَالِهِمْ فَالصَّالِحَاتُ قَانِتَاتٌ حَافِظَاتٌ لِّلْغَيْبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ اللّهُ
وَاللاَّتِي تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّ وَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضَاجِعِ
وَاضْرِبُوهُنَّ فَإِنْ أَطَعْنَكُمْ فَلاَ تَبْغُواْ عَلَيْهِنَّ سَبِيلاً إِنَّ اللّهَ كَانَ عَلِيًّا كَبِيرًا (4:34)
Alrrijalu qawwamoona AAala alnnisai bima faddala Allahu baAAdahum AAala baAAdin wabima
anfaqoo min amwalihim faalssalihatu qanitatun hafithatun lilghaybi bima hafitha Allahu
waallatee takhafoona nushoozahunna faAAithoohunna waohjuroohunna fee almadajiAAi
waidriboohunna fain ataAAnakum fala tabghoo AAalayhinna sabeelan inna Allaha kana
AAaliyyan kabeeran [FONT=Verdana,Arial] [/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana,Arial]
4:34 (Y. Ali) Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the
one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means.
Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband's) absence
what Allah would have them guard. As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct,
admonish them (first), (Next), refuse to share their beds, (And last) beat them (lightly);
but if they return to obedience, seek not against them Means (of annoyance):
For Allah is Most High, great (above you all). [/FONT][/FONT]
 
:sl:

I have some friends who never miss salah, always fast in ramadan, often (but not always) perform sunnah fasting. And, they treat their wives well, so their wives are happy with them.

However, they are considered as "ordinary Muslims" because their Islamic knowledge just average, and they are not type of Muslims who like to say "in Islam...!, according to sunnah ...!"

My question, are they ideal Muslim husbands?
 
**Spoken in mexican accent**

"The ideal husband is the one that can eat, eh many, many, papareeka's without his bald head getting all sweaty"
 
There is no definite idea of the ideal Muslim husband; everyone will have his/ her match whom Allah made for him/her and people are not the same so, the Idea of the ideal Muslim husband or wife will be different from one to another; according to everyone's personality, traditions and customs, way of thinking, needs and others...

and at the end you will get what is written for ya only so, be pleased with whatever you get and thank Allah...
 
Asalamu Alaikum,
An ideal husband is one who helps your iman increase, Prays and reads alongside with you
A man who apologizes Although hes right, doesnt get mad often And when he does he remains calm despite the situation , cleans without being asked to, Brings you Food knowing how much he enjoys having it brought to him, attempt to ensure your happy..
Loves, Cares, and Adores you Whether your 20, or 70 yrs old.
 
GhareebInshalla said:
Asalamu Alaikum,
An ideal husband is one who helps your iman increase, Prays and reads alongside with you
A man who apologizes Although hes right, doesnt get mad often And when he does he remains calm despite the situation , cleans without being asked to, Brings you Food knowing how much he enjoys having it brought to him, attempt to ensure your happy..
Loves, Cares, and Adores you Whether your 20, or 70 yrs old.
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What?? apologize if I am right?? You gotta make me a swallow a 100 Paprika's before that will happen.:raging:

otherwise most of it sounds like me:statisfie
 

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