What trials did you face after embracing Islam?

Flame said:
Our Prophet, Muhammad (saws) said, "Whoever Allah wishes good for, He inflicts him (with Hardship)". [Bukhari]
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beautiful hadith and encourages me heart. Faced so many hardships it's painful to remember. But sometimes I think I should remember it, even if it hurts coz then I get to think about the part where the prophet saws has said that it means that allah has wished good for me. alhamdulillah.

Reached a point in my life when I couldn't practice my islam, couldn't pray, couldn't fast...even in the month of ramadhan. :( I wasn't able to read and study the quran much as I liked to. It was a matter of survival. to preserve my life and the lives of little ones in my care became top priority. I chose to fight it out than commit suicide.

So yeah i've been fighting....for survival, for my faith, to save meself and my family and loved ones. This fight will never end until I die. All praise be to allah for turning me into a fighter. alhamdulillah!
 
without a doubt it's not that easy. of course we can get things into perspective when we think of the earliest converts to islam but it's still our own trial.

alhamdulillah my family have been supportive but i have lost many friends.

i face hostility every time i go outside because of my clothing.

i married too quickly after i reverted and this has been perhaps the greatest struggle.

knowing where i fit in society bothers me too...on one hand i no longer fit in with those around me (because i do not freemix/drink/blend in) but i find it hard to integrate with the local muslim community who i feel keep me at arms' length.

but these are all only minor, minor struggles! i'd rather be a struggling muslimah than a lost non muslim.

May Allah always keep us on the straight path, ameen!
 
:( twice ive done a lengthy reply and twice ive lost it :( so here goes.......

I havent faced too many difficulties. I found learning salat pretty hard and confusing and thought i would never get there. My family have been okay and say i look and seem much happier than i did before.... I think they were a little embarassed when i first starting meeting them in public with my head covered but now dont take a bit of notice unless they comment like 'oh nice scarf' etc

My couple of close female friends didnt bat an eyelid though one of them constantly tells me i look ridiculous with my head covered but then shes always been one to wind people up. My workmates all thought i was crazy (thought couldnt give a reason when i asked why) now they often ask questions which i find nice (if i can answer them) as some of them have had strange ideas about things like..... 'so if your husband marries again do you all sleep in the same bed?' <<<<< i had to laugh at that one. Only one workmate has been rude.... she said really loudly in front of a lot of people that 'you arent only hanging out with THEM, you look like one of THEM now (this was said with quite a bit of swearing) but its water off a ducks back. My other friends that werent really close have all distanced themselves from me but it hasnt bothered me.... if they cant accept my life choices which dont effect them at all then they really arent friends. I had a couple of male friends who couldnt understand why i couldnt see them for a coffee or something and got really funny with me about it but again water off a ducks back and im no longer in contact with them. Theres been occasions where ive been out and people i dont know have 'hissed' insults at me for no reason, but its easily ignored.


One of the things i find hard is the Mosques here all say 'Men Only' the only time Ive been in a Mosque is when I got married and I would love to go.

All in all not really trials....more blips (except for the Mosque thing)
 
elina said:
:..My other friends that werent really close have all distanced themselves from me but it hasnt bothered me.... if they cant accept my life choices which dont effect them at all then they really arent friends.
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I enjoyed reading your post and much of it strikes a chord with me.

I have been throught the same thing with my kuffr friends. When I started wearing the hijab, quite a number of former friends completely changed their attitude to me and quite honestly I felt that if they could not accept the new me and were not open to dawah, then their friendship was no great loss. I have made many Muslimah friends and have found their friendship much more genuine and enduring, with truly shared beliefs and values.
 
Sunnie said:
I was born a Catholic, and I am trying to learn all I can so I can convert. My husband is a non-muslim and is very supportive. My children are all grown, and they say they support me but they just don't understand why I am doing this. My answer is this.... GOD it the absolute most important thing in my life. I am planning to go to a Mosque about 1 1/2 hours from my home so I can meet others of the Muslim Faith in person and ask questions. I read that Muslim Faith is the second largest religion in the world, and that Christianity is the first largest. I am not critizising any religion, but in the Christian religion, there are all kinds of Church's and they all have similiar and different beliefs with each other, but in the Muslim religion, they all believe the same way, so there is a larger group of people with one belief. I just hope that when I convert, that the ones that were Muslim since birth, that they accept me, even though I am white. Thank you for letting me share my thoughts, Sunnie
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Of course Muslims will except you, personally it makes me happy to see reverts in my local mosque & around places, and it just shows that my religion is the one, before I never used to practice my religion (I was born Muslim) but then on Youtube I saw a lot of people reverting to Islam (they know more that me lol), so I was like I need to start practising my religion, it's the one! And for all the hate on Islam now, I am still happy people are reverting to Islam, that is the thing which makes me practice my religion.


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Encountered a bit of friction with my family, but compared to what I've heard others go through, I've got away very cheap. One brother-revert at the masjid I currently attend said that after he said the shahada, Shaytaan must have started working overtime, so hard pressed was he from every quarter to abandon Islam. I've used to think to myself that in my case, Shaytaan must have settled for damage control.
 
May Allah make it easy to everyone of you and grant you success in this world and the hereafter aminn :)
 
Bismillah hir Rahmanir Rahim,

I am a convert of over 5 years. I have faced such hardship through being a Muslim that I wished for death. Noone knows about that private suffering. I have spent the last 5 years mainly alone. The Muslims in my area are particularly ethnic in their orientation (I am white and so dont fit it). I have lost more than 50% of my friends. My life has been made infinitely complex by the various competing tendencies that like to call themselves Islam. For example, I have been told that only certain ways, beliefs, behaviours are "Muslim" and that all others are going to the Hellfire. I have never found satisfaction for my desire to learn about Islam. The only sources of information present in my community are extremely basic and cater for the simplest of questions. Today is the first time I became aware of websites such as these. In all honesty, if I wasn't certain that Islam was the Truth and convinced of the Day of Reckoning I would shed this Islamic belief for something which synchronised with 21st century reality. The majority of Muslims make my heart swell with sadness. I feel as though I backed a failed way of life. I don't believe I will ever see a day when Islam is the shining example to the world that it is meant to be. I believe the religion is a theory rather than a reality and that nothing is done in all seriousness when the new Muslim converts to the religion. In my experience there has never been a constructive and pro-active role undertaken by the mosques to assist New Muslims. Is there any Imam on this board who could explain why "leaders of the community" (Imams) refuse or fail to fulfil their duties to new Muslims? Certainly it is not through lack of funding. Muslim converts should be cherished by the Islamic community and utilised for all the positive creativity they represent. I am sorry if this post upsets anyone thinking of becoming a Muslim but my story has a right to be told and I will not lie and say that Islam is "peace". Yes, Islam can be peace but it can also be trauma, isolation, confusion, exploitation and unfilfilled yearning. I truly hope that if you are a New Muslim you have found a modern, intelligent, and judacious Imam in your local mosque who can advance your progression in the deen. And if you haven't already, then I strongly advise you to seek one out immediately. Islam is not the way of life of a hermit. It is a community-based faith. Find a community that values you for what you represent rather than for what it can turn you into, i.e. a reflection of its own values. If you are a woman, wear hijab because you want to, because you see it as a logical extension of your self, not because the community will shun you otherwise! If you are a brother, wear any beard not the one that MUST come down in a fistful. Truly it is incredibly stupid people advancing their political interests who want you to believe these silly things. Remember that ANYTHING done for the sake of Allah (Subhanahu wa ta'ala) is ibadah, and that even halal things done for something else is NOT! If you truly want to please God then do your best according to your knowledge and ability and not the bidings of some agenda-carrying other. Islam is as complicated as you want to make it and absence of knowledge is the worst deficiency in causing problems. SO seek knowledge from any reputable source. I recommend Sh. Hamza Yusuf or Sh. Michael Mumisa. I can say that they are Imams who are worthy of attention. I live outside of their lecture touring zone but I hope that their insights can make things possible for the ummah. As for myself I hope I haven't disturbed any of you in writing this, and I ask that you spare me a dua as it will be some time before I can organise a change in my situation. Until then, Jazak Allah Khair Kathiran for reading.
 
Assalamu Aleikom Dear Sister,

I'm sorry to hear of your hardship and I am amazed by how positively determined you are. Please know that you are not alone in your troubles and that I fully know what you are suffering.

Islam is a way of life that is meant to enhance our existence by bringing us closer to Allah. It is also said in the Qur'an that Allah wants ease for us. Islam is not meant to be continuously difficult. It is meant to allow for ease after hardship. So I would ask you to consider examining the state of your deen and ask "how can I make it easier on myself?" Know also that the Holy Prophet Muhammah (SAWS) advised that if you have the choice between two courses of action, pick the one that is easiest. This is the Sunna of the Holy Prophet (SAWS).

I hope that aids you a bit.

Remember that life is meant to be a challenge so that you can learn. But it is not supposed to be an unendurable burden. Allah (Subhanahu wa ta'ala) said "On no soul dost Allah place a burden greater than he can bear." My advice is to look at your situation so that you can find ways to make it easier on you. Talk to other sisters or close friends about what you might need to do and how they might help you.

Never suffer alone. This only makes the religion pointless. It is better to construct a tiny bit of good with your suffering than endure an infinity of pain.

I hope that helped. :)

Your brother in Islam
 
Fighter said:
beautiful hadith and encourages me heart. Faced so many hardships it's painful to remember. But sometimes I think I should remember it, even if it hurts coz then I get to think about the part where the prophet saws has said that it means that allah has wished good for me. alhamdulillah.

Reached a point in my life when I couldn't practice my islam, couldn't pray, couldn't fast...even in the month of ramadhan. :( I wasn't able to read and study the quran much as I liked to. It was a matter of survival. to preserve my life and the lives of little ones in my care became top priority. I chose to fight it out than commit suicide.

So yeah i've been fighting....for survival, for my faith, to save meself and my family and loved ones. This fight will never end until I die. All praise be to allah for turning me into a fighter. alhamdulillah!
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Assalamu Aleikom Dear Sister,

I'm sorry to hear of your hardship and I am amazed by how positively determined you are. Please know that you are not alone in your troubles and that I fully know what you are suffering.

Islam is a way of life that is meant to enhance our existence by bringing us closer to Allah. It is also said in the Qur'an that Allah wants ease for us. Islam is not meant to be continuously difficult. It is meant to allow for ease after hardship. So I would ask you to consider examining the state of your deen and ask "how can I make it easier on myself?" Know also that the Holy Prophet Muhammah (SAWS) advised that if you have the choice between two courses of action, pick the one that is easiest. This is the Sunna of the Holy Prophet (SAWS).

I hope that aids you a bit.

Remember that life is meant to be a challenge so that you can learn. But it is not supposed to be an unendurable burden. Allah (Subhanahu wa ta'ala) said "On no soul dost Allah place a burden greater than he can bear." My advice is to look at your situation so that you can find ways to make it easier on you. Talk to other sisters or close friends about what you might need to do and how they might help you.

Never suffer alone. This only makes the religion pointless. It is better to construct a tiny bit of good with your suffering than endure an infinity of pain.

I hope that helped. :)

Your brother in Islam
 
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Brother FallGuy, I'm glad that you share your experiences with us.
I live in a majority muslim country so I don't get to know and understand the trials faced by new reverts, although I'm sure new reverts in Indonesia also have their own share of trials.
I also agree with you that we need to help more our revert brothers and sisters easing their difficulties, especially as Allah in the Qur'an also tell us that mu'alaf (reverts) have rights over zakah.
I am admiring the strength of your eeman who holds fast to the rope of Allah. May Allah SWT keep guide you to the straight path. ameen.
 
Alhamdulilah i havent had any real trials like defo not harships i think things got better for me ok ok sum stuff was hard 2 give up the cannabis and drawin anime was the easy bit 2 give up but i also gave up my relationship well it was mutual we both decided we wanted 2 practice properly for Allah's sake we split up inshallah maybe one day we can marry and have a relationship the proper way but not now. I think this is the hardest bit 4 me like cuz we were so close and i miss him so much

My dad never wants 2 see me again like but its no real loss 2 me cuz he was never there growing up i never knew him until recently but i dont wanna abandon hope tho an i still make dua askin Allah 2 guide him. But my mum and the rest of my family hav been sooooooooooooo supportave! Even tho they all say they would never be muslim lol but i hope they do one day inshallah

when i became muslim i only gained new friends never lost any cuz i never had any 2 begin with except family who stuck by me so that was all cool i feel like more secure and less lonely

theres stuff i find hard like but i learned it was all wiswas cuz i was tryin 2 push myself 2 hard and gettin discoraged and stressed an bein fooled into thinkin im a failure so now i just take it easy small steps and buildin up on top of them gradual cool chill lol an its much easier i feel like im progressin faster by goin slower lool does that make any sense?
 
Ummshareef said:
I enjoyed reading your post and much of it strikes a chord with me.

I have been throught the same thing with my kuffr friends. When I started wearing the hijab, quite a number of former friends completely changed their attitude to me and quite honestly I felt that if they could not accept the new me and were not open to dawah, then their friendship was no great loss. I have made many Muslimah friends and have found their friendship much more genuine and enduring, with truly shared beliefs and values.
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hi ummshareef..... its really great you have made friends with sisters..... thats something i would love to happen ...... im thinking of going to a new muslim group soon.... hopefully i will make friends there...... Ive met sisters online (obviously lol) and i too have found their friendship more genuine than a lot of so called friends i knew for years :)
 
FallGuy2007 said:
Assalamu Aleikom Dear Sister,

I'm sorry to hear of your hardship and I am amazed by how positively determined you are. Please know that you are not alone in your troubles and that I fully know what you are suffering.

Islam is a way of life that is meant to enhance our existence by bringing us closer to Allah. It is also said in the Qur'an that Allah wants ease for us. Islam is not meant to be continuously difficult. It is meant to allow for ease after hardship. So I would ask you to consider examining the state of your deen and ask "how can I make it easier on myself?" Know also that the Holy Prophet Muhammah (SAWS) advised that if you have the choice between two courses of action, pick the one that is easiest. This is the Sunna of the Holy Prophet (SAWS).

I hope that aids you a bit.

Remember that life is meant to be a challenge so that you can learn. But it is not supposed to be an unendurable burden. Allah (Subhanahu wa ta'ala) said "On no soul dost Allah place a burden greater than he can bear." My advice is to look at your situation so that you can find ways to make it easier on you. Talk to other sisters or close friends about what you might need to do and how they might help you.

Never suffer alone. This only makes the religion pointless. It is better to construct a tiny bit of good with your suffering than endure an infinity of pain.

I hope that helped. :)

Your brother in Islam
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Walaikum salam.

You sez u hope your post helped. I think so it did. Frankly I was surprised that anyone even notice what I write. That u try to encourage me make me feel happy.

In this world nobody really care about nobody but his or her own self, brother. But I'm happy we can say our feelings and what we go through in this web site. It made me feel better to tell about my story.
 
Salaam

FallGuy2007 said a lot of things which nailed the problems not just for converts but also for muslims who re find there religion - sometimes it seems that the muslims that came over just imported there culture and ethnicity and forgot that Islam was an open and serious religion.

peace
 
Zafran said:
Salaam

FallGuy2007 said a lot of things which nailed the problems not just for converts but also for muslims who re find there religion - sometimes it seems that the muslims that came over just imported there culture and ethnicity and forgot that Islam was an open and serious religion.

peace
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Walaikum salam. I think so too. I like FallGuy2007 post. He show he care. I like how he told to take easy way. :)
 
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My biggest trial as being a revert is my Christian family..especially my mother...she was like what wrong with you..you have multiple personality disorder or something..ummm no...so you dont believe in the cross..nope...you know you are going to Hell right I'm only concerned about your soul...I tell her who are you to say I go to Hell..My Lord Allah judge of that..she put me through Hell at first it got so bad..I hit rock bottom in my entire life..she made me so depressed..that I attempted suicide with a weapon.Where I had it placed I would have died in 2 seconds but it hit somewhere else in my body..i dont know how..Act of Lord Allah to spare my life.I'm very lucky..and I Praise and Give Thanks to Allah that I am here today!!!!!!!


What I have learned is to not let others opinions against your run you over if you feel the truth in your heart.Don't do anything your parents tell you that is against Islam.TRUST and SUBMIT to Allah completely.I still struggle today but I put my trust in him and ignore all the bad crap and what my mom has to say..and im fine.PLEASE no one EVER do what I did. I don't recommend it. It the wrong way out!!!! Always seek a friend(s) to talk to or professional medical health if u get to feeling like I did.


And Sunnie...

I'm white too. Many of the muslims in my area are either African or African American...My best friend is African American...shes awesome..she always there for me...same for me and her...Remember Islam goes Beyond color,race,nationality. I'm sure they accept you fine. :) They don't bite. :P
 
also I'd like to note that I already have be declared as having a form of clinical depression..so im already depressed,sad,hopeless sometimes anyways..this is no means a normal a reaction
 
Assalamu Alaikum sister Aisha,
Your graphic story is not as unique as you might think the plight of many new Muslims started from the time Islam started and many new Muslims where tortured and even Killed by their own. What now seems as horrendous memories with your family and even your attempt at ending your life, Inshallah you will find that no emotion that deep felt goes wasted.
Those emotions are the building blocks of Iman for there is Wisdom behind the miseries of life. The greatest disease to any believer is apathy for you may practice Islam perfectly and still land in hell because of it.
When you go through these trials you gain strength to face temptations and ego attacks for you will surely value what you fought so hard to get. When Allah S.W.T loves you he gives you problems to strengthen you and as the brother said in the earlier post from the Quran "no soul is burdened with more than it can bear".
You have more to thankful than most for as you say Allah S.W.T saved your life.
You can also use your experience to help others, nothing says thank you to Allah S.W.T like been of service to the Umah (the greater society of Islam) for the prophet s.a.w Inshallah said "he who does not care for the Umah is not one of us" and "none of you truly believes until you wish for others what better than them you have".
As for the depressions or moodiness Inshallah with prayer and verses recital they will most definitely go away.
A good cure for bad spells is to take Ghusl (ceremonial bathing) and there after recite the Kalima. Another way to get your mind to stop bringing you sad thoughts is to recite Allah S.W.T's names in pairs especially these two which you say thus "anta Ghafur, anta Rahim" (you are forgiving and you are Merciful) over and over until you calm.
Inshallah works better than Valium.
In the words of Umar r.a "thoughts about people is a disease and Dikr of Allah S.W.T is the cure".
Remember you may (which I don't think so) have lost a few family members but you have gained millions and millions of new ones.
May Allah S.W.T protects us all from our selves,
masalam
 
As salam alaikum, Al yunan thank you for your post it was very enlightening and empowering..by the way what is Kalima? thanks so much brother!!! As salam aliakum Aisha.
 

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