What would you ask a potential partner?

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Abdul Qadir said:
Well, ok...whatever u do...its ur freedom..but the sunnah of Muhammad and his companions is not to read bibles and debate with christians...Salam...
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I would like to see an evidence of that please.

If we are 'not allowed' to read bibles or debate with christians or people with other faiths or no faiths how do you suppose we give them a Dawah?. Dawah is not one way where we inform people what Islam says about this and about that and thats it.We should interact with them and let them talk about their beliefs and views so we could inform them about whats not correct and why. We should have sufficient knowledge about other religions to give better dawah. For some people saying that Jesus is not son of God because the Qur'an say so is not enough i'm afraid and they would want evidence from their own text.
If debating with christians are not allowed why do you think major sheikhs from past and present are doing it? Are they committing sins?
and do you think Islamicboard are committing sins by allowing to have a section of comparative Religion where we are allowed to debate with people of other faiths?
Last but not least i do not believe people who have more knowledge or acquiring knowledge about other religions have a weak understanding of Islam. Sheikh Ahmed Deedat (rahimullah) and sheikh Zakir Naik who both memorised thousands of verses from the Old and New testaments happens to be one of the most knowledgeable sheikhs of our deen.
 
Ar-RaYYan said:
I would like to see an evidence of that please.
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Sis, I am sure u know what is Sunnah. What evidence do i need to show u that the prohpet and his companions did not read the bible? in fact, when Umar(RA) was holding on the a Torah, Muhammad SAW reacted angrily and said even if Musa(Moses) alaihisalam was present he has got no choice but to follow the messenger SAW. what u mean u want evidence?
 
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Ar-RaYYan said:
I would like to see an evidence of that please.
Sheikh Ahmed Deedat (rahimullah) and sheikh Zakir Naik who both memorised thousands of verses from the Old and New testaments happens to be one of the most knowledgeable sheikhs of our deen.
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Both these men are good with their words but aren't the best of examples. i can show you y but that would be like arguing with you. lets stop it here. Salam..
 
Don't turn this into a debate thread please :ermm:

Answer the question and remain on-topic
 
Hafsah said:
Don't turn this into a debate thread please :ermm:

Answer the question and remain on-topic
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good that someone came and said that at last!!

brother Abdul Qadir, if you think of something as right you don't have to convince the others of what you see as right. If you think that "I" should not care about others beliefs then I wonder why you yourself are still posting in the comparative religions section :?
 
Abdul Qadir said:
Sis, I am sure u know what is Sunnah. What evidence do i need to show u that the prohpet and his companions did not read the bible? in fact, when Umar(RA) was holding on the a Torah, Muhammad SAW reacted angrily and said even if Musa(Moses) alaihisalam was present he has got no choice but to follow the messenger SAW. what u mean u want evidence?
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Yes you are right i do know what sunnah is but that is not what i asked.
Since you said we are not allowed to debate with christians i would like to see an evidence from an authentic hadith stating that. You do realise that we cant say something is haraam or not allowed until we know there is an authentic evidence dont you?


Abdul Qadir said:
Both these men are good with their words but aren't the best of examples. i can show you y but that would be like arguing with you. lets stop it here. Salam..
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They might not be the best examples but they are one of the best examples of sheikhs having great knowleges of the two major religions in the world. and hopefully i could maybe expect a written answers of my questions in your next post?
 
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Well, I'd ask my potential partner: "What was your reaction to the elimination of your national team from the World Cup????" If his answer would have been: "I'll burn the winners' flag and try to burn their embassy" My answer would be definitely.....a big NO!!!!

By the way, this year's Eid is one of my happiest ;D ;D
 
Abdul Qadir said:
your very contradicting...u just mentioned the word sister...so as a brother, its my concern too....peace..
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I would find out /ask about:

1. Religious commitement. no drinkers, smokers, players, musicfans, no one who appreciates his culture/traditions more that the religion<_<
He should at least do the obligatory things (prayer fast etc.) and also be knowledgable (know at least about some hadiths)

2. I'd first find out if he's from my relatives. If yes- then bye bye
( reasons: -I don't fan/like our little town's citizens or they're life-values)

3. He's appearance -A bearable appearance yes

3. Attitude- About his attitude, he should have humbleness, not arrogance and ungratefulness to Allah (SWT) (or his mom/dad etc)

4. Occupation & money. I hope he'd have an education. About his money I'm not asking for a millionaire :D but reasonably yes.
But if he is religiously committed and I am pleased with the other facts, I wouldn't care about money and trust Allah and obey His messenger(SAAS) regards to this kinda proposal, Insha'lLah

5. Future plans if there are some special (just out of curiosity)


And the most important I would ask on our date:

"Could you imagine yourself one day putting a surprise-dinner for me +candles, roses etc :statisfie"
[aww...<3<3<3]

If he begins to get suprise, that means he knows NONE about romancy
:X

Just kidding :p
 
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bewildred said:
Well, I'd ask my potential partner: "What was your reaction to the elimination of your national team from the World Cup????" If his answer would have been: "I'll burn the winners' flag and try to burn their embassy" My answer would be definitely.....a big NO!!!!

By the way, this year's Eid is one of my happiest ;D ;D
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I feel the same :statisfie Al-hamdulilLah wa SubhanalLah
 
Cabdullahi said:
This is not a question rather a wish if you like , that Praying Fajr with the wife in a mini sweet congregation in the cold will be very beautiful
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People pretend a whole lotta things when they're courting you no?
I say hire a PI to cross reference their tales..
 
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may I?

I'll ask may I borrow some money from you? based on her reaction, I'd know if she is wife material or not.
:statisfie
 
One thing I've seen with friends.. (This is in my culture by the way, not necessarily everyone in this culture either), but the potential groom and bride don't even speak to each other at the meeting. The wedding is then fixed. This confuzzles me immensely, as I can't shut up, so probably won't be able to keep quiet myself.
I don't see the point of meeting if you're just gonna look down anyway. Pah.
 
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I remember I was told to get ready and look smart. I was not interested in getting married but my family kept pestering me.

I came into the living room and sat down. I saw my potential wife. She was sitting next to her dad. I was asked questions like what kind of work I do.

After her dad left the room, we were alone. To break the awkward silence, I asked her what she was studying. She said she was studying Psychology. Then there was awkward silence. Again to break the awkward silence, I said whether she wanted to watch TV. She said she was alright. I decided to put the television on and...we watched the news. Her dad came back with his family and I met the rest of them. My cousin sister turned the TV off and made this face... ^o) Yeah
Everyone was talking whilst I was sitting there...bored out of my mind.

Then afterwards, I heard she broke down in tears when she came back home. :skeleton: Apparently she thought I didn't like her or something and that I wasn't interested or not taking it seriously.

Weird.
 
Musaafirah said:
One thing I've seen with friends.. (This is in my culture by the way, not necessarily everyone in this culture either), but the potential groom and bride don't even speak to each other at the meeting. The wedding is then fixed. This confuzzles me immensely, as I can't shut up, so probably won't be able to keep quiet myself.
I don't see the point of meeting if you're just gonna look down anyway. Pah.
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different strokes for different blokes. i guess not every culture can have same traditions.
 
CosmicPathos said:
^ lol. you need to learn how to talk to women. :p
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I didn't really notice it but my family said she was holding back tears until she got home. :/ My cousin sister was really angry because she was the one who arranged everything lol. :/
 
It really depends on the person who is asking, since we are all different in all aspects, so some questions which I may want answer to, you may not be interested in knowing the answer to :) If that makes sense.
 

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