What would you ask a potential partner?

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Cabdullahi said:
Don't worry about her having a lover on the side, what you can do is make sure that you stay pure, do your job according to Qur'an and sunnah, worry about you and don't let the Coolidge effect get the better of you.
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Lol, I am not worried. I am just penning down my observation.

But yes, you are right about that, one should only do everything for God, not for someone else. If someone is wronged, God will avenge for him/her in dunya or aakhira.
 
CosmicPathos said:
I think the same way as you do about such fathers. But reality is always opposite to what we wish or hope for.
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I'm sure nobody posting here would be that kind of father. I'm sure everybody posting here would do their best to provide for their families and to ensure that they are loved.
 
I would ask her.

"Can you keep private matters off of social media sites like Twitter and Facebook?"

I can imagine having wife who would sulk and if I ask her what's wrong she says "nothing" then I log into facebook/twitter and read something like "Is it so hard for people to keep their workdesk neat and tidy?"

I might ask her to delete twitter but I think facebook is a good tool to keep in touch with friends and events.
 
CosmicPathos said:
course a woman only produces one precious egg every month, she wants to make sure the person who fertilizes it is going to value it
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Technically she produces thousands every month of which only one makes it, considering the limited supply and all the psychological and physiological effects this has one her, heck to the yes he'd better value it. Hopefully you'll meet someone who will soften rather than sour you on women I don't think you've a favorable view of us at all.

:w:
 
شَادِنُ;1548614 said:


Technically she produces thousands every month of which only one makes it, considering the limited supply and all the psychological and physiological effects this has one her, heck to the yes he'd better value it. Hopefully you'll meet someone who will soften rather than sour you on women I don't think you've a favorable view of us at all.

:w:
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Sometimes even 2 eggs ovulate at the same time. I was talking about what mostly happens.

For the bold part, you said once our experiences shape how we view things and I agreed with you.

w salam
 
'Abd-al Latif said:
Phones and gym = luxury? Now I've heard everything. :heated:
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I doubt it. :/

Since the financial crisis, many households have been spending less and less. If you have worked in a debt related jobs, you will realise many people struggle to afford these items or services.
 
In reference to some previous posts, even with bad experiences, one should always live with hope for the future insha'allah and we should never ever let past experiences cloud our future. It would make us all bitter people and you really don't want that to affect your future relationships..
Regardless, once you've established that the potential is what you may be looking for and you feel you can't question the person too much in the meeting.
How do you deal with that situation?
Especially if you don't do the whole twitter/facebook thing and you don't want to question through email ..
This is for when you just feel you can't say anything to the person..Having a mental block or something..
 
I worry about my generation and the generation after me.

If we on this forum can agree that our generation is worse then the generation before us, and the generation before us is worse then the one that preceeded them then surely it should be enough to believe in Qadr and do what was done by the pious before us.

If we cant do this then we should cross examine our soul, our nafs, and our imaan and see if there is a fault which will allow the shaytan and this dunya to take over.

may Allah protect us from a marriage which has been touched by shaytan or tainted by the corruption of our nafs.
 

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