What's the best way to forget about someone?

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time makes u forget everything, this is not a philosophy but a real thing which i have experienced with myself, just carry on with ur life and continue doing ibadah and invoke allah for help.
 
theres not a single person in this life who i have managed to forget

wether i have tried or not

once the soul is touched... the affect cannot be removed.


however.. we learn to live with it, goal driven towards the hereafter we manage to alter our souls to accept our fate and live each day as it comes.


may Allah aid us all in our striving
 
I think it is a mistake to forget someone especially when it hurts. Because then you'll get hurt alot more.

You should cherished the sweet memory as if it is a past memory that made you a better person.

Don't make it bad when it is already bad...hmm...
 
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You can't forget anyone. Its futile to even try it. With time, wounds heal. You can't forget that person Brother. InshAllah with time, in the future, the memories of that person won't hurt you as much as they are hurting you now. I'm trying to forget/not think of someone myself and I read a couple of Ahadeeth which are helping me with it. One said "abstain from having bad opinion of others" and the other "forgive the one who has wronged you." Sometimes, I'm even praying for that person and hoping for Allah's (Subhaanahu Wa Taala) reward in the Aakhirah, inshAllah. :statisfie:statisfie:statisfie
 
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squiggle said:
It was just a friend who hurt me and i'm trying to forget about them and what they did to me imsad
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first and foremost, you have to make sure that they indented what they did and that this isnt "those" people talking and that there inst some kind of misunderstanding blown out of proportion.

if it is indeed the case, then try to seek comfort in that it is their own loss that they lost you as a friend and that it is good that you are the victim and not the perpetrator...its better off that you get the bad end of the stick becuase to hurt someone for no reason is a really really bad trait to have...they taint their own reputation as well.
 
ir is theart that is inclining you towards those feelings so nurture your heart and most impostantly ask the One who controls the heart to replace it with something better . . .

may Allah make it easy for you . .
 
AabiruSabeel said:
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The more you try to forget that person, the more you will remember him/her.
Just carry on with your life and eventually you will forget, inshaAllah.
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Very True!.....because you will focus on forgetting this person, and while you are thinking of forgetting him/her, you are actually thinking of that person since he is the thing that need to be forgotten.....do I make sense here?:hmm:


You are worried about that and want to wipe that person out off your memory because maybe what this person did to you is still very recent......time will make you forget him slowly, just keep going on your life and you will forget him without you even notice that.
 
squiggle said:
Aslaam alaykum, I'm trying to forget about some 1 but am finding it hard to any tips? imsad
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Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, well my brother it does depend on who your wanting to forget but the best way to forget someone in general is to get rid of anything that is associated with that person or anything that person gave to you or reminds you of them.

Also to tell yourself that it was for the best that the person is not in your life anymore and maybe if they were in your life that it would have detrimental effects on you so Allah does what is best.

It is also good to make changes like tidy your room and rid yourself of all unwanted things that you don't need and change your number and only give your number and just to generally refresh everything in your life and this will also refresh your mind and have a cleansing effect on you in that your ridding your life of the past and things you don't need in your life and you are moving forward and starting fresh with a new and positive outlook in life.

Think to yourself everytime you miss that person-" I have no more time to waste because my time in this world can end at ANY second therefore i cannot afford to waste a second more on the past! I HAVE to concentrate on the future as that is what matters most! Every second that i waste i will regret forever and why should i waste my only one chance i have on this earth on the past and on someone who was not meant to be in my life? I have now moved forward and i will make the best use of every second and will please my lord as much as i can and abide by his commandments. Whatever is best for me has happened and i fully accept it and am happy now to move forward with my life on my journey in this life."

Keep telling yoursel this or write it down on a paper or on your phone so you keep reading it and reminding yoursellf of your purpose. Focus now on moving forward and making the best of the very short time we have left for our time can end at any second and we must move fast before arrangements are made for our own funeral!

May Allah help us to make the best use of every second of our lives and to not waste a second more on the past but to learn from it so we can do things better now and the future! Ameen
 
:cry: thanks for all ur replies I just feel like running away to some place really far away where no body knows me and I don't know any 1 and never coming back imsad

you know that feeling where u jus wanna get away from everything and everyone and be alone by urself :cry:

I keep telling myself what happened is the decree of Allah and I should accept it but my emotions and feelings say otherwise imsad

it's true no affliction befalls us except for what Allah has decreed for us right?

so what I'm going through is apart of Allah's decree and I should accept it shouldn't I? but how do I come to terms with it? :cry:

I just can't seem to get it out my system :cry: it's like a tape that's on reply it jus keeps replaying in my head :cry:

I can't jus snap out of it and forget it :cry: I'm giving fake smiles to the people around me so they don't notice :(

I keep thinking to myself if only I had done this instead or said this instead then things might be different if only I could go back :( it's like this pain that won;t go :(
 
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InshaAllah... in a few weeks you'll feel better. Just have faith in Allah and don't forget to do extra salah. :)

So verily, with the hardship, there is relief, Verily, with the hardship, there is relief. So when you have finished, then stand up for Allâh’s worship. And to your Lord turn your invocations. Quran 94:5-8
 
:sl: squiggles!! Dont be sad please. Everything will be alright inshaAllah. :)
 
Come on bro cheer up .. i promise in a few weeks it will all be ok :) . it takes time to heal wounds.So be patient and be a good boy :)

i promise ill buy you a ferrari if you stop being sad ( i'm joking)

:D:D
 

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