It amazes me how you make a big deal about something that is not a big deal in western societies.
Gender roles have always existed and still do in our society. The difference with the Islamic world is that we are not limited nor forced into predefined roles for each gender.
Yes, the male is still the protector of the wife and family.
Yes, the male is still the household leader for the most part.
Yes, the male does the heavy work (house repairs, car repairs, heavy lifting, etc) while the female usually do the traditional female chores (cooking, cleaning, taking care of kids, etc).
In recent time the roles can change a bit on an individual family case by case.
What happens if the female is the CEO of a big company and makes most of the money in the family?
What if she is the president of a country (Margaret Thatcher, Angela Merkel, Cristina Kirchner, etc) ?
Whatever the situation, it's not a big deal in our western society, we adjust on a case by case situation with ease because we don't have to comply with set in stones rigid rules.
Do you understand ? You are drowning in a glass of water.
Stop criticizing western society and concentrate on your own Islamic society which is the one straggling.
That's the problem with some Muslims like you, you keep hating everything that is different to your Islamic values.
If is not Islamic is evil, if is not Islamic is wrong, if is not Islamic is a sin.
If you cannot understand it just stay away and stop spending your life trying to create a fantasy evil empire in your head that does not exist.
The western society is not your problem, you are your problem.
Stop analyzing the problems of Western Society with your Islamic eyes.
Your don't understand the Western Society and want to fix it with rigid and outdated solutions that even Muslims are reluctant to use themselves ?
You're wasting your time.
I am done with you. Here is what is the issue your nation this is coming from another Atheist mouth
This is coming from a non-Muslim WOMAN
https://moneyish.com/heart/heres-the-latest-proof-that-marriage-is-dying/ Since it is coming from a woman and not a man I do hope you keep quiet about this. Had I been a woman you would agree 100% with everything I said. Your Western society is a failure. Doomed. I enjoy criticizing Western society and every time I see them make fool of themselves the more I am grinning with joy.
Here is another woman writing an article about marriage issue
https://www.cnn.com/2015/04/07/opinions/costello-marriage-millennials/index.html
This s my favorite part of the sentence on the link below "
Despite (or because of) the MGTOW movement, feminism creating greater equality, and the wealth of options for single people, the nature of marriage has changed.
This is a good thing.
No longer do women feel obligated to forgo an education, skip a career, and move directly from her father’s house to her husband’s house at age 21, like my Mom did."
But at the expense of what that she got her independence?
In the end she goes out showing her hair, her body, she goes from men to men, women to women and she is a man more than a woman. While women embrace their independence and get higher degree, children, family suffer. You will be saying she can still be a good mother, wife and have a good job and degree.....she can never ever...give 100% the need for her family when she is busy interacting with stranger men and fulfilling her wordy desires and many marriages in your community end up in divorce. Isn't that over 80% of divorce are initiated by women in your nation? Don't your country have the highest suicide rate for men? Aren't boys failing miserably at school? Are't single mothers dressing their boys like little girls? What part of your Western society I want to look up too exactly? Please tell me.
https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/marriage/marriage-is-dying-in-lower-class-america/
As to your statement if it not Islamic way then it is wrong, "YES" You see...Islam is not a culture. It is not man made culture and it is not set by rules for men by men.
It is not defined by the person born with XY chromosome and defined by a person with male gentile period. It is not some form of man oppression designed to oppress women and give power to men!
NO! Islam is Allah's law and Allah knows the nature of every creation he created and he clearly told us the way to be in the right path and if we move astray from the road Allah have paved for us we will fail. Anything..not just Western...but ANYTHING ON EARTH not following Islamic way...not following Allah's law, not obeying Allah and his prophet and not submitting to Allah are doomed to failure and is wrong. Anyone. Western AND EVEN EASTERN (EVEN MUSLIM COUNTRIES ITSELF). It is not WEST VS East. It is not man vs woman. It is not black vs white. However it is something VS something though.
That something is truth VS LIE. Light VS darkness. Anyone who does anything outside Islam is in darkness. Is in misguidance. Anyone he dies in that state will die and be resurrected with no LIGHT on his heart and in the day of judgement when a person need to cross that bridge to enter paradise you need light to see. Because in the afterlife it is darker than darkness itself and there is no flashlight, no battery to light LED lights, no candles and there will be no SUN either. No MOON. NO planets, no trees, no mountains, no water, no sky, no stars, no gravity, no solar system...it is a different world all together and the only way you will be able to see is by your faith and that faith is exclusive in believing in Allah as the one and only true God and only he deserves to be worshipped. You have to believe in Allah, in all his prophets, his angels, in the afterlife, in the day of resurrection, paradise, hellfire, in the day of judgement and of course oneness of Allah and that Allah does not have a mother, father, son, daughter, family, etc. THEN you become Muslim and be a Muslim....THEN YOU AND ONLY THEN your way is the correct way. If you are anything BUT MUSLIM everything you do is wrong. EVERYTHING AND EVERYTHING.
So the western way is wrong not because it is West or because of culture..it is wrong because it does not believe in Allah (and I do not mean Western Muslim, I mean anyone western that is not Muslim) and it have not entered into Islam and because it did not enter Islam and actually follow Islam correctly (like we Muslims should be doing) it will never do anything right...ever. Including family, divorce and relationship. And you know what? The same can be said to us. The more we go astray from the true the path the more we be like you...the more we will be humiliated worse than you.
P.S "By the way, you said roles change in circumstances..in Islam roles do not change in circumstances. The roles are defined and set. Men are providers and protectors. If a situation arises where he is suffering and unable to fulfill his role...it is obligation for all of us Muslim brothers out there to help him fulfill his role. Why are we failing? Because we are not united as one. Because we don't care about our brothers. Because if we see a man with five kids and a wife and is unemployed and is wife is forced to work and make money....and provide for the family we don't stop this..and say no..he should be going and providing and help him. THIS IS one of the many reasons what is wrong with Muslims. I can list you many pages of what is wrong with us and all of them is we been astray from path of Allah. Everything is because we looked up AT YOU...the Atheist and non-Muslims as role models. Not the prophet peace be upon him and not working together as Muslims as one unit. This is our problem."