Where are the brothers for their brothers?

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anatolian said:
Yeah..I didnt even understand what is the OP trying to say? Who needs help? :?
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There was a brother who was on the forum for some time who needed help, with some issues,
He then posted today that he felt like it was time for him to leave as he felt a bit off and negative towards threads (maybe a case of low emaan) (Allah knows best) and was thanking certain people who had helped him through his ruff times and all names mentioned were sisters no brothers.

The op is mentioning that why is it that brothers arent helping their brothers out when they need help, when only sisters went out of their way to assist the brother with whatever advice and help he needed

In sha Allah i have that right
 
muslimah_B said:
There was a brother who was on the forum for some time who needed help, with some issues,
He then posted today that he felt like it was time for him to leave as he felt a bit off and negative towards threads (maybe a case of low emaan) (Allah knows best) and was thanking certain people who had helped him through his ruff times and all names mentioned were sisters no brothers.

The op is mentioning that why is it that brothers arent helping their brothers out when they need help, when only sisters went out of their way to assist the brother with whatever advice and help he needed

In sha Allah i have that right
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Thanks sis. Yes I understood that :) What I didnt understand who specifically needs help and which thread is this? I personally try to help people here as much as I can.
 
I understood well the meaning of this thread and the first post but I didn´t understand why members suddenly started to talk about Margaret Thatcher and Falkland war. Could you be more careful at the future and try your best to stay in topic?
 
Well. I have just read the thread and I dont think he is some one who seeks for any help. He has made a decision and just announces it. All I can say is goodbye..Aleikum Salam...
 
anatolian said:
Well. I have just read the thread and I dont think he is some one who seeks for any help. He has made a decision and just announces it. All I can say is goodbye..Aleikum Salam...
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I think they mean his old posts, im not sure wich they are as im still new to the forum lol
 
OP didn´t mention who is this brother. I think we can discuss about this matter also in the general level. No need to go to person.
 
sister herb said:
OP didn´t mention who is this brother. I think we can discuss about this matter also in the general level. No need to go to person.
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Well i do agree that whenever i have seen threads asking for help, the majority if not all responders are sisters.
Not sure why
Maybe the brothers can answer for themselves?
I still stand by them sleeping or playing ps4 tbh [emoji53]
 
I think this is a bit of an unfair assessment. The brother in question only named the people who he feels helped he most. I'm quite sure there were numerous brothers who offered him advice. Perhaps the sisterly approach to and tone of advice was something that they're more receptive to.
 
Alpha Dude said:
I think this is a bit of an unfair assessment. The brother in question only named the people who he feels helped he most. I'm quite sure there were numerous brothers who offered him advice. Perhaps the sisterly approach to and tone of advice was something that they're more receptive to.
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^This.
Just to point out that I discovered he has the same illness I've been battling for the last six years and have lost half my guts due to it.. Tried to make him see sense and go to the doctor or hospital. Not sure if I was particularly successful so if anyone is in touch, do mention it to him.
 
Greetings and peace be with you Insaanah;

Many of these threads are in the advice section, and I am not allowed to respond, so I tend not to look at them. On rare occasions I have sent a pm, but don't feel comfortable doing this.

Blessings,

Eric
 
Eric H said:
Greetings and peace be with you Insaanah;

Many of these threads are in the advice section, and I am not allowed to respond, so I tend not to look at them. On rare occasions I have sent a pm, but don't feel comfortable doing this.

Blessings,

Eric
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Why arent you allowed to respond?
 
Umm Abed said:
Why arent you allowed to respond?
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Only members with "Islam" on religion are allowed to respond there currently. We have members asking for advice on deep Islamic issues.

As the section is more open, for example non Muslim may give good advice on something like "Gaining better relationship with parents". So maybe :ia: in future can be considered to remove restriction.
 
farhan said:
Only members with "Islam" on religion are allowed to respond there currently. We have members asking for advice on deep Islamic issues. As the section is more open, for example non Muslim may give beneficial advice on something like "Gaining better relationship with parents". So maybe :ia: in future can be considered to remove restriction.
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Ive learnt something new. Yes maybe something can be done about it.

Jazakallah for explaining.
 
Greetings and peace be with you farhan;

Only members with "Islam" on religion are allowed to respond there currently. We have members asking for advice on deep Islamic issues.

As the section is more open, for example non Muslim may give good advice on something like "Gaining better relationship with parents". So maybe :ia: in future can be considered to remove restriction.
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I am coming to understand that I have had some profound experiences in life. On two occasions I came into contact with people in the process of committing suicide. On both occasions these people had suffered horrible things, and it was only in coming to terms with forgiving their oppressor, that they found the will to live.

I believe I was unfairly sacked five years ago, and just to make sure I have forgiven them, I have now done about fifteen hundred hours of voluntary work for the people who gave me the sack.

I was diagnosed with a life threatening cancer, and the prayer for the wisdom, peace and the strength to do God's will, has allowed me to live in peace with my cancer for the last five years.

Having survived 31 years of marriage, and all the struggles that go with it, I believe I can also give encouraging help to others struggling with marriage.

Being a street pastor, and on a number of occasions; walking in the middle of a dozen people punching the living daylights out of each other. Searching for peace can be a challenging process.

I have played a significant role in helping three homeless people of the streets. It was very difficult for me to understand; that some people choose to be homeless. I am volunteering in a homeless shelter that is opening in a couple of weeks, I have learned a lot form homeless people.

Thanks for running a very well moderated forum, I have enjoyed the last eleven years, people have been friendly and helpful.

Blessings

Eric
 
Insaanah said:
:salam:

One of our brothers here has mentioned on a number of occasions how helpful members here have been with regards to the ongoing problems he has been and is facing and has posted about here. However, all the people who have gone out of their way to reach out to him, or help him, have been sisters. Where are the brothers? Why can't brothers go out of their way to be there for their brother in his times of need in the same way?
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:wasalam:

Different problem need different solution, and I do not always have idea of solution. That's why I give advice only for some problems. If I didn't try to help that brother, it's because I had no idea of solution that I could offer to him.
 
muslimah_B said:
Well i do agree that whenever i have seen threads asking for help, the majority if not all responders are sisters.
Not sure why
Maybe the brothers can answer for themselves?
I still stand by them sleeping or playing ps4 tbh [emoji53]
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Lol at least I dont have PS4. [emoji24]
I have to sleep on bed :(
 
I also try my best to give advice if I have some solution. Otherwise I avoid reply.
But another cause of not replying, at least for me, is the huge amount of replies which are already there on the posts. It gets really messy to read through all the long posts to know what has already been mentioned and what else we can add. If I find that everything has been said, I usually avoid it. But if I find a thread, where already 30 or 40 replies have come, I become lazy to read through all. And also sometimes the posts are too much off the topic.
 
~ Sabr ~ said:
Provide the hadith :ia:
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Asalamualykum sister Sabr,

Am not sure in which context the below hadith refers to but here it is:

Al-Bukhaari (4425) narrated that Abu Bakrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No people will ever succeed who appoint a woman as their leader.”

Source:https://islamqa.info/en/39188

Please let's not go off topic now (message to all members going off-topic).

Jazahka Allah.
 

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