Which one is better, I love you with words or actions?

[GuestFellow]

Salaam,

I'm not really the type to tell people that I love them or show it to them. I find it very unusual...

 

['Abd Al-Maajid]

I prefer using words because I see that it means a lot to a girl that if her partner says, "I love you". If i were a girl I'd just prefer showing it with actions because boys hate listening to these kind of words like 'I love you'.

First off, Brother Nbeel, the fact that you made a thread about love means you must join the Brothers' Section ASAP.

HAHA...and do what? We'll have more marriage threads then...

 

[GuestFellow]

HAHA...and do what? We'll have more marriage threads then...

Salaam,

NO! No more marriage threads. How about carrot cake topics? Or topics about pillows.

 

[Ğħαrєєвαħ]

, which is the better and more suitable action for a Muslim to do? Saying words to a brother(if you're a brother) using "I love you" and saying words to a sister(if you're a sister) using "I love you" compatible with the sunnah or performing good deeds to show that you love them? Other than that, should there be balance between a both? Give me your responses here! :X I really wanna know since I sometimes feel a stab in the heart if I say I love you to someone ...

Wa Alaaykum as'Salaam

Saying it to people is good but it also depends on the intention, for example you may really mean it so you tell someone you love them, some may say it for other reasons and not mean it

Showing it in actions is also good but it also depends on the intention, keeping your intention straight as your doing an action to please the person and most importantly Allaah SWT as main priority and bad as in just people pleaser kind of thing. so yes there should be a balance between the both insha'Allaah none of the ways are bad as long as there is a good intention insha'Allaah..

Who knows whether your intention is good or bad? Only Allaah SWT, it is between you and Allaah and nobody else to judge..

However, saying it to non-mahram isnt soo good as the person may get the wrong idea unless your intention is to getting married to the person. so even if your intention is good the person may still get the wrong idea as you may never know, try to keep away from saying such stuff to the opposite gender insha'Allaah..so basically there is more harm than good in this case maybe not for you but for the other or maybe even vice versa, Allaah knows best..

.. peace ..