Celebrimbor
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Voila.. Spot on. *clap hands*
Just let me add 'some' Muslim women/men before anyone deploy their claws.
why are divorce rates going higher among muslims?
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Voila.. Spot on. *clap hands*
Just let me add 'some' Muslim women/men before anyone deploy their claws.
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I agree. I forgot the word some.
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Assalaamu alaikum,
Why are the divorce rates getting higher in the Muslim community? Oh goodness... there are many different reasons, it seems to me.
Muslims who marry just to get immigration is one. The lack of family ties in a new country is another. Culture clashes between families of different ethnic backgrounds is another. The very real problems of domestic abuse are another. The focus on superficialities at the expense of considering good character is another. The stresses of the modern life is another. The all-too-easy access to vice is another. And there are others...
It may seem then that there is no solution. But I think there is. Underlying a lot of problems in the world at large, I believe, is a lack of deepening our relationship with Allah. Our own relationship. (smile) It is so easy to look at another and say: Hmm... the problem is you. (smile) It lets us off the hook. But truly, the only person that we have any power over is ourselves.
When we work to deepen our relationship with Allah, this transforms us, slowly but surely. If we are transgressing, then we work on restraining ourselves from these acts. If we are permitting a transgression through lack of action, then we must work on restraining our laziness/fear/love of wealth/love of position, etc.
(smile) When we look at ourselves, and look to see where we are weak and flawed, we help build conditions for a better society. (smile) And we open the way to walk towards our Lord.
May Allah, the Reinstater Who Brings Back All, Guide and Strengthen us in the Greater Struggle.
Why are the divorce rates getting higher in the Muslim community? Oh goodness... there are many different reasons, it seems to me.
Muslims who marry just to get immigration is one. The lack of family ties in a new country is another. Culture clashes between families of different ethnic backgrounds is another. The very real problems of domestic abuse are another. The focus on superficialities at the expense of considering good character is another. The stresses of the modern life is another. The all-too-easy access to vice is another. And there are others...
It may seem then that there is no solution. But I think there is. Underlying a lot of problems in the world at large, I believe, is a lack of deepening our relationship with Allah. Our own relationship. (smile) It is so easy to look at another and say: Hmm... the problem is you. (smile) It lets us off the hook. But truly, the only person that we have any power over is ourselves.
When we work to deepen our relationship with Allah, this transforms us, slowly but surely. If we are transgressing, then we work on restraining ourselves from these acts. If we are permitting a transgression through lack of action, then we must work on restraining our laziness/fear/love of wealth/love of position, etc.
(smile) When we look at ourselves, and look to see where we are weak and flawed, we help build conditions for a better society. (smile) And we open the way to walk towards our Lord.
May Allah, the Reinstater Who Brings Back All, Guide and Strengthen us in the Greater Struggle.
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Sister you are so very correct!
Another reason is that when things go sour, or break, or need fixing, this 'modern' generation has been thought that if something is broken you go buy something new. If something new comes out, you go and replace something old. This consumer mentality.
On the other hand, the older generations they used to live long together, but they strived to keep things together, to fix things, to communicate, to understand one another, to adjust for each other, etc... etc... something that the attitude driven new generation doesn't.
Who needs 'you' when I can get someone else 'easily'.
Something goes wrong, run off for someone new. Something goes wrong, run away from the problem rather than facing/resolving it.
On the other hand, the older generations they used to live long together, but they strived to keep things together, to fix things, to communicate, to understand one another, to adjust for each other, etc... etc... something that the attitude driven new generation doesn't.
Who needs 'you' when I can get someone else 'easily'.
Something goes wrong, run off for someone new. Something goes wrong, run away from the problem rather than facing/resolving it.