Why are there more women in hell than men?

[Yanal]

Question:
Why are there more women in hell than men?

Answer:
Praise be to Allaah.

It was narrated from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) that women will form the majority of the people of Hell. It was narrated from ‘Imraan ibn Husayn that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “I looked into Paradise and I saw that the majority of its people were the poor. And I looked into Hell and I saw that the majority of its people are women.”

(Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 3241; Muslim, 2737)

With regard to the reason for that, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was asked about it and he explained the reason.

It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Abbaas said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “I was shown Hell and I have never seen anything more terrifying than it. And I saw that the majority of its people are women.” They said, “Why, O Messenger of Allaah?” He said, “Because of their ingratitude (kufr).” It was said, “Are they ungrateful to Allaah?” He said, “They are ungrateful to their companions (husbands) and ungrateful for good treatment. If you are kind to one of them for a lifetime then she sees one (undesirable) thing in you, she will say, ‘I have never had anything good from you.’” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1052)

It was narrated that Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri said:

“The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) went out to the Musalla on the day of Eid al-Adha or Eid al-Fitr. He passed by the women and said, ‘O women! Give charity, for I have seen that you form the majority of the people of Hell.’ They asked, ‘Why is that, O Messenger of Allaah?’ He replied, ‘You curse frequently and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religious commitment than you. A cautious sensible man could be led astray by some of you.’ The women asked, ‘O Messenger of Allaah, what is deficient in our intelligence and religious commitment?’ He said, ‘Is not the testimony of two women equal to the testimony of one man?’ They said, ‘Yes.’ He said, ‘This is the deficiency in her intelligence. Is it not true that a woman can neither pray nor fast during her menses?’ The women said, ‘Yes.’ He said, ‘This is the deficiency in her religious commitment.’”

(Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 304)

It was narrated that Jaabir ibn ‘Abd-Allaah said: “I attended Eid prayers with the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). He started with the prayer before the khutbah, with no adhaan or iqaamah. Then he stood up, leaning on Bilaal, speaking of fear of Allaah (taqwa) and urging us to obey Him. He preached to the people and reminded them. Then he went over to the women and preached to them and reminded them. Then he said, ‘Give in charity, for you are the majority of the fuel of Hell. A woman with dark cheeks stood up in the midst of the women and said, ‘Why is that, O Messenger of Allaah?’ He said, ‘Because you complain too much and are ungrateful to your husbands.’ Then they started to give their jewellery in charity, throwing their earrings and rings into Bilaal’s cloak.”

(Narrated by Muslim, 885)

Our believing sisters who learn of this hadeeth should behave like those Sahaabiyaat who, when they learned of this, did good deeds which would be the means, by Allaah’s leave, of keeping them far away from being included in that majority of the inhabitants of Hell.

So our advice to the sisters is to strive to adhere to the rituals and obligatory duties of Islam, especially prayer, and to keep away from that which Allaah has forbidden, especially shirk in its many forms which are widespread among women, such as seeking one's needs from someone other than Allaah, going to practitioners of witchcraft and fortune-tellers, etc.

We ask Allaah to keep us and all our brothers and sisters far away from the Fire and the words and deeds that bring one close to it.

 

[~ Sabr ~]

:bump:

Good post mashaAllaah

 

[LauraS]

The women asked, ‘O Messenger of Allaah, what is deficient in our intelligence and religious commitment?’ He said, ‘Is not the testimony of two women equal to the testimony of one man?’ They said, ‘Yes.’ He said, ‘This is the deficiency in her intelligence. Is it not true that a woman can neither pray nor fast during her menses?’ The women said, ‘Yes.’ He said, ‘This is the deficiency in her religious commitment.’”

But how is that the woman's fault? We can't help menstruating or that there's a law that makes them considered less reliable witnesses.

 

[Hulk]

Hi Laura, if you can spare some time I would suggest watching this video as it may answer your question and perhaps even more. It would be much appreciated!

 

[LauraS]

Hi Hulk, thank you for the video, I will give it a watch! Although whether I manage all two hours in one go...

I understand women within Islam are meant to be treated respectfully and have rights regarding education, marriage etc but it's still unfair to say more women are in hell because of the reasons mentioned above. I'll see if the video discusses it.

I just can't help the feeling of, well this is another male dominated religion, of course there are more women in hell. :heated:

 

[Snowflake]

Hi Hulk, thank you for the video, I will give it a watch! Although whether I manage all two hours in one go...

I understand women within Islam are meant to be treated respectfully and have rights regarding education, marriage etc but it's still unfair to say more women are in hell because of the reasons mentioned above. I'll see if the video discusses it.

I just can't help the feeling of, well this is another male dominated religion, of course there are more women in hell. :heated:

Hi Laura,

The reason given for more women being in Hell isn't due to their lack of intelligence but because they were ungrateful to their husbands and not appreciative of what they provided for them from their means. The hadith (saying of the Prophet (pbuh) regarding women being deficient in intelligence has not nothing to do with the one mentioning more women being in Hell.

However, whether women like it or not, it is true that they are deficient in intelligence compared to men. However, there are seven types of intelligence. And there are things in which women excel at where men don't. But overall findings confirm what the Prophet said as true.

Dr Paul Irwing is a senior lecturer in organisational psychology at Manchester University. He claims that men are more intelligent than women.



All the research I've done points to a gender difference in general cognitive ability. There is a mean difference of about five IQ points. The further you go up the distribution the more and more skewed it becomes. There are twice as many men with an IQ of 120-plus as there are women, there are 30 times the number of men with an IQ of 170-plus as there are women.
I don't know why this is, all I can say is that we have a huge amount of data.
In my 2005 paper in the British Journal of Psychology we looked at 22 surveys sampling 20,000 university students. In 21 out of the 22 studies males always had an advantage.

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/e...en-as-women-with-an-iq-of-120plus-426321.html

And what you have to look at, at the end of the day is that it isn't Islam putting women in Hell. It's her own choice. Her greed. Her lust for worldly things and if I may say, her lack of intelligence making her unappreciative of what her husband provides for her. Because if she knew what was good for her and for the peace and sanctity of marriage she wouldn't fight with him over money in the first place. Of course this doesn't apply to all women. But plenty of.

 

[KDhieb]

But how is that the woman's fault? We can't help menstruating or that there's a law that makes them considered less reliable witnesses.

Salam LauraS,
being a female myself I can obviously understand what you are saying.. Although at the same time I don't think it is directed towards ALL woman.. there will still be men in hell.. It is true that females can often be neglectful of one another, and in this case the husband... possibly due to us being way more emotional? .. that's just my opinion

 

[glo]

They are ungrateful to their companions (husbands) and ungrateful for good treatment

You curse frequently and are ungrateful to your husbands

I must say that there is too much emphasis on 'being ungrateful to one's husband' here for me to feel comfortable.
Does this sound like a male-dominated religion trying to threated the women into submission and good behaviour towards their husbands?? :hmm:

If anybody can show me hadiths, which put a similar emphasis on husbands showing gratitude towards their wives, then I would feel reassured.

As to 'being deficient in intelligent' :?, I would have thought that was a reason to be lenient on women and send fewer into hell.
After all, do people with learning disabilities or other conditions with reduced mental capabilities go to hell because they lack mental and cognitive abilities?

 

[Hulk]

Hi Hulk, thank you for the video, I will give it a watch! Although whether I manage all two hours in one go...

I understand women within Islam are meant to be treated respectfully and have rights regarding education, marriage etc but it's still unfair to say more women are in hell because of the reasons mentioned above. I'll see if the video discusses it.

I just can't help the feeling of, well this is another male dominated religion, of course there are more women in hell.

No problem I understand 2 hours is pretty long but I am sure it will give you a better understanding. After all, given the importance of religious matters I think it would be of great benefit in terms of learning and understanding.

In regards to what was said above about more women being in Hell, instead of looking at what the answerer places as the answer try to look at what the Prophet pbuh said when he was asked why. It was about ingratitude, men are certainly not considered "above" women in Islam, but rather men are the providers, protectors, etc. This is the man's role to his wife, what the Hadith was referring to was the wives who do not have gratitude.

Also keep in mind that punishments in Hell happen after Judgement Day which clearly hasn't happened yet. So perhaps it is to serve as a reminder to wives not to take the roles of their husbands for granted. I do hope you take some time to watch the clip even if it is for a while as I am very limited in what I know and I am sure the clip will give provide a clearer understanding. InshaAllah/God willing.

 

[Insaanah]

As you know glo, mocking Islam is not tolerated here.

 

[Abz2000]

Let me make it clear to sister glo that the prophet pbuh was stating what he saw,
so it's not about dominating etc,
I would prefer he told us what he saw than not told us,
This gives people the chance to rectify.

Secondly, women are usually more in control of certain aspects than men,
Say for instance, a woman doesn't have an un-controllable urge to go out half naked to tempt men.
But a man can't help thinking, seeing or imagining what little is "left to the imagination".
Who would you blame for bad thoughts in this situation?
Taking into consideration the natural disposition.

Thirdly, the prophet pbuh told us that women would be a huge fitnah (tribulation/ test) in the time of the Antichrist.
I don't refer to the decent sisters, but to those naked wh0res walking about in the street when the sun comes out.

 

[glo]

As you know glo, mocking Islam is not tolerated here.

With due respect, I am not mocking Islam. Quite the opposite. I know Islam to teach that in Islam all are equal, and that men and women have equally duties and responsibilities towards each other.

What I am mocking is the interpretation of some, which seem to be used to keep women in a submissive and inferior place. I don't believe that to the the message of Islam!
I don't recall that Muhammed (pbuh) ever treated his wives as inferior beings!

Salaam

 

[KDhieb]

I must say that there is too much emphasis on 'being ungrateful to one's husband' here for me to feel comfortable.
Does this sound like a male-dominated religion trying to threated the women into submission and good behaviour towards their husbands?? :hmm:

If anybody can show me hadiths, which put a similar emphasis on husbands showing gratitude towards their wives, then I would feel reassured.

As to 'being deficient in intelligent' :?, I would have thought that was a reason to be lenient on women and send fewer into hell.
After all, do people with learning disabilities or other conditions with reduced mental capabilities go to hell because they lack mental and cognitive abilities?

Salam,

I don't think a comparison of a disabled person or someone with reduced mental capabilities to a women who is not either a viable comparison. At the same time I think one can understand that it also does not mean that the husband is free to be ungrateful to the wife.

I am a recent follower of Islam, and back when I understood way less than I do now, my stubbornness got in the way of practical understanding..

 

[MustafaMc]

Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard. As to those women on whose part you fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (Next), refuse to share their beds, (And last) beat them (lightly); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance): For Allah is Most High, great (above you all). Quran 4:34

Narrated Abu Musa Al-Ashari: The Prophet said, "The superiority of 'Aisha to other ladies is like the superiority of Tharid (i.e. meat and bread dish) to other meals. Many men reached the level of perfection, but no woman reached such a level except Mary, the daughter of Imran and Asia, the wife of Pharaoh." Narrated Abu Huraira: I heard Allah's Apostle saying, "Amongst all those women who ride camels (i.e. Arabs), the ladies of Quraish are the best. They are merciful and kind to their off-spring and the best guardians of their husbands' properties.' Abu Huraira added, "Mary the daughter of Imran never rode a camel. Bukhari 55, 643

Traditionally, men are the bread-winners and are responsible for the upkeep of their households. The marriage relationship is an intimate one in many aspects and one that demands a high level of trust and honesty. Some wives are dishonest in managing the affairs of the household while the husband is away and they betray the trust bestowed upon them, while others are very honest in managing what they are entrusted with. In more recent times women have earned their own money, contributing equally to the marriage, and some communities are more matriarcal whereby the women are more responsible and the men are slackards. A prime example of this is the African-American community in USA. The Quran speaks often of believing men and women being rewarded for their deeds and surely Allah (swt) is just and equitable.

 

[Aprender]

Whenever I see explanations like this I don't try and put myself in that category as in all women being this way because I don't believe that all women are the same. Some of us had amazing upbringings and we learned how to conduct ourselves in public. Others, not so much. You can watch reality TV shows in America and see the difference.

But I understand how it can be hard to read hadiths/explanations like this coming from the perspective of a non-Muslim and getting a little ^o) about it because you always hear rumors about Muslim men oppressing women and then when you go to the internet to try and clear the "misconceptions" and you see something like this, it turns it into "so it is true? :exhausted"

I can't tell you how many people I know who don't want anything to do with Islam anymore because of explanations like this about women online. Even though people say that men are no better than women in Islam, looking at something like this or reading hadiths that incorrectly translate the Arabic like one I came across for example that said women are the prisoners of men, turn women and men alike away from Islam. Alhamdulillah, I have a few close friends who speak Arabic and can provide better translations of certain words from hadith for me than what is online in an English context that I can understand and see the wisdom behind. Sometimes the wording in these explanations do come off as a little...^o) which is why there are more posts here trying to explain it.

I think something needs to be done to make sure the information like this is carefully worded in a modern English context for those who have yet to learn Arabic, but still accurate. Someone also needs to check the English translations of the hadith in Arabic because it is causing problems for those who want to learn about Islam. Yeah, a lot of people revert but I see a lot of people leaving the religion too after doing some internet searches and trying to learn more about the religion. We shouldn't ever be internet Muslims but sometimes reverts don't have access all the way to the masjid and the internet is a temporary source of their knowledge. And there are plenty of great video lectures in English out there from people like Nouman Ali Khan, Yusuf Estes, Joshua Evans and others but we don't always have an hour or two to sit through a lecture. There is still a need for accurate explanations in writing to help us gain Islamic knowledge.

There's a lot of good information out there but there is also a lot of sectarian garbage and even the legitimate Islamic websites sometimes leave me in confusion which is why I have to come here or ask more knowledgeable Muslims in the community to explain better for me. Often times I read things that don't seem right to me and I need a deeper understanding.

 

[Rhubarb Tart]

So women cant even agrue with him over money? So the husband get to do whatever he wants? And does this mean men are angels sent from above?



Bluebell said it best in regards to intelligence. Women tend to based their decision on emotions whereas men dont.

 

[Hulk]

This is why women make awesome mums lol.

 

[glo]

^
I like your post, Aprender.
I think there is much to be said for putting old teachings into modern language and terminology.
I found the expression 'deficient in intelligence' quite offensive. But when I think about it, I would equally find other terms offensive in other contexts - for example 'mentally retarded'. Simply because these words are not used in our modern language anymore, or they have become an insult.

Sometimes language can put us off really listening to the meaning underlying it.

Apologies for sounding sarcastic. I did not mean to mock the teachings of Muhammed. :sorry:

 

[Rhubarb Tart]

Akhi.. 'naqisat 3aql wdeen doesn't translate to 'intelligence', it implies rationality i.e they are more emotional.. I'd go into this more but it is late and I am tired..
women and men have different brain composition.. and there are several books on that.. here are a couple

http://books.google.com/books?id=iHL...&ie=ISO-8859-1


Why are women more verbal than men? Why do women remember details of fights that men can't remember at all? Why do women tend to form deeper bonds with their female friends than men do with their male counterparts? These and other questions have stumped both sexes throughout the ages. Now, pioneering neuropsychiatrist Louann Brizendine, M.D., brings together the latest findings to show how the unique structure of the female brain determines how women think, what they value, how they communicate, and who they love. While doing research as a medical student at Yale and then as a resident and faculty member at Harvard, Louann Brizendine discovered that almost all of the clinical data in existence on neurology, psychology, and neurobiology focused exclusively on males. In response to the overwhelming need for information on the female mind, Brizendine established the first clinic in the country to study and treat women's brain function. In "The Female Brain," Dr. Brizendine distills all her findings and the latest information from the scientific community in a highly accessible book that educates women about their unique brain/body/behavior. The result: women will come away from this book knowing that they have a lean, mean, communicating machine. Men will develop a serious case of brain envy.
here is another one
The Essential Difference: Men, Women and the Extreme Male ISBN 0713996714

http://www.islamicboard.com/general/55316-womens-brains-smaller-2.html

 

[Hulk]

Thank you for sharing sis, this is why it's important not to speak without knowledge. We can get ourselves confused and in the process get others confused. We need to study more or leave it to the pros.:statisfie