Ummu Sufyaan said:
Ezekiel_B said:
I see, so what you're saying is really that you're happy to abide by those Islamic dress laws and forego dressing like a scantily clad harlot, in return for a sense of pride and dignity. Well, I must say...! It's rather hard to knock! So it seems no sister of Islam has any real interest in attracting men other than her husband. Again - what can I say against that!? Nothing. Now, I hear that women of Islam may dress sexy at home, before their own husband only. So it seems as though you can appreciate what it is like to wear nice clothes - except you prefer to keep that in a private context. But, what I'm interested to know - is there any penalty (apart from inner shame) given to those who decide they would like to wear more revealing clothes on the street?
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Well hold your horses for a minute. Answer my questions first and don’t jump to conclusions about what was i was trying to say (which incidentally you got all very wrong). That’s wasn’t what i was implying-in fact that wasn’t what i was implying at all.
I haven’t touched upon the matter about a husband or about apostasy. That’s what you said. If that’s your own ignorant opinion- then fine, but don’t go around putting words in my mouth.
Ummu, I think you've gone completely off the deep end. None of that was addressed specifically to you. There has been no putting of words into anyone's mouth but I am sorry if I have offended you by assuming too much whilst getting carried away in my own thoughts. It's a shame that you choose to take such an aggressive line with someone who is here attempting to learn more about your faith and who is therefore bound to be mistaken on a good number of points. You could have tackled my musings with much greater dignity, had you received them in the spirit they were meant.
To save time, I'll leave out replying to the bulk of it and try to get down to brass tacks.
Ummu Sufyaan said:
Lets break this down:
1. You assume that taking off the hijab equates to apostasy and thus this is the reason why us Muslim women are forced to keep it on. (i know what your argument about freedom in a Muslim state was all about- i aint thick).
No, I don't assume that removing the hijab equates to apostasy. I never said that at all. I'm talking about if someone wants to remove the hijab in the context of being a believer (and I was interested to know if there were any known penalty for this); whilst apostacy is the abandonment of faith (and I'll come back to that later). It would stand to reason, that if a person abandoned their faith, they would also abandon the hijab (?). No one's implying you are 'thick', so I'd say it's safe to let go of your paranoia.
Ummu Sufyaan said:
2. Wearing hijab is not associated with a husband. That is, the law of hijab is still binding for a woman who isn’t married, a widow whose husband is deceased and yes, a married woman as well. Being married is really associated with the point. So your evidence about some Muslim dude you spoke to, doesn’t count since it hold no relevance.
I'm aware that single women wear the hijab.
I do not include my conversation with "some muslim dude" as 'firm evidence' of anything. I mentioned it, as an example of what some Islamic people say about western women's dress - and I've heard it before - many times. Naturally, it raises some questions and, if anything, is only evidence for his attitude. Depending on what it's intended to show, evidence is often required in sufficient quantity to form a 'body' - meaning that one or two examples would be insufficient on their own. I'll let you know when I am supplying 'evidence'. Until then, try to see things for what they are.
Here, you've raised the singularly most salient point...
Earlier you said the woman wears the hijab by choice.
Now you refer to it as 'law'.
And you say it is 'binding'.
And you wonder why some of us westerners are confused about issues of consent, surrounding the hijab.
A little girl, a friend of my neice has just recently been put into hijab by her parents. She is eight, and we're told this is the age at which hijab becomes applicable (?). I'm not saying she has been held down and had it forced onto her head. Neither do I discount the possibilty she is enamored of it - just as I was, when I recieved my first school uniform...
What I'm now asking is - has this child been institutionalised to the ways of the mosque by her parents? Well, if that were the question then I think it is reasonable to say yes, she has.
It reminds me of my own feelings towards school uniform at the time I started secondary school. I was, at first, actually very enamored at the prospect of my new school uniform - and all that it stood for, due to some of the ideas my own father impressed upon me, during my transition from primary to secondary. The process could reasonably be called 'conditioning'. Not necessarily all negative or all-consuming - but there, all the same.
The difference (please note:
as I perceive it) is, however, that in a secular society, we tend to dress according to different roles we play, depending on the situation... and there may be many different situations a person finds themselves in, during the course of their life... Not all of which, driven by religious doctrine.
Ummu Sufyaan said:
The simple question: What does the man like?? Flesh, and make makeup or opaque, modest fabric? Which one is going to attract him more?
How many times would a non-Muslim woman get hired had it not been for her hair style or skin?
How many securities would there be at offices? Not actually in an office, but in front of where all can see and talk to her (she needs to attract customers, etc that’s why she is at the front where everyone can see and talk to her).
Look closer, and you probably see, that behind all those women getting hired are actually men hiring them.
Yes, an interesting point, Ummu. We call it
sexism where this applies. At least, that's what we call it, if we can prove this is
the only reason why certain women are hired. You see, while you can easily bang this out as a stereotypical scenario, the truth of the matter is tied to the individual case and without knowledge of each case, you don't have one to bring against them all. In order to arrive at this conclusion, you'd have to assume it's only men who hold the highest positions in recruitment - and, in this day and age, (thankfully) that simply isn't true.
Ummu Sufyaan said:
So whether you like it or not, or whether you admit it or not, this so-called idea of independence where women have been brainwashed to believe that having your hair a certain way and being as anorexic as a twig basically showing all what you look like, is great and empowering because it means being independent of the man, is exactly what is driving her to do- belong to the man.
Tell me something knew, Ummu! If you care to look back over my previous posts, you'll see I've already mentioned it. I think the problem here, is that while I am quite willing to acknowledge the faults and wrongs going on in modern 'christian'-secular society, you seem very unwilling to admit your own society may have problems you don't want to face. Sexism - even sexual harrassment has been a problem in the workplace for women in our society. However, this is something which is today being addressed (perhaps not fully enough, I might add) in Britian's workplace.
I'm afraid it's a throwback from Christianity, the dominant religion of the west, which has formed most of the attitudes towards women you and I are now discussing. The woman's role in society and in marriage is clearly defined in the Bible - and that is to 'serve her man'...
...and many of us have fought against it, to try to bring about a sense of true equality.
Ummu Sufyaan said:
The irony eh? Being independent of the man, by being dependent and belonging to him. Hilarious.
An irony, perhaps - and a bitter one at that. Hilarious?
No. Not even funny for those who've suffered it. Tell me... does it bring about in you, a sense of satisfaction, to discover injustice outside of the muslim world?
Ummu Sufyaan said:
Another interesting point you and some other people here have bought up is Indoctrination.
How about the indoctrination of young western women?
Based on certain factors (the media and feminism come to mind as an example) which advertise for young girls/women what they should look like and what they should eat. And how to flirt with boys and all that stuff that a young teenage mind is so naive and vulnerable about, whilst believing she is free and independent and its all about growing up...?
So Just because you mention indoctrination along side Muslim women, doesn’t actually mean anything. You can make anything up up and pout any fancy label on it to make a statement but it doesn’t mean its actually true or has any substance to it.
Well, as you should be able to deduce by now, this isn't anything new, in a world where patriarchal values have almost unanimously been accepted.
But stop for a second - and listen to what you're saying: You appear quite on the ball with indoctrination
outside of the muslim world. Your powers of deduction allow you to identify indoctrination when you see it, yet your powers of logic seem somewhat attenuated, when it comes to applying the same known principle to the muslim world.
And to think - I've been accused of hypocrasy here...